You can't calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass.
- Timber Hawkeye
Exactly how does one calm oneself? Drinking, drugs, and a binge come to mind. These things don't solve anything do they? They just add another storm.
I've often wondered why I immediately think of overeating if I don't get good news at a weigh in. What in my pea brain makes me think that is a productive way to deal with anything? I must have made that connection way back in my childhood when eating was associated with love and/or comfort.
When our storms pass how much clean up is there to do? The storm passed and it would have passed whether we had decided to trash the house or whether we had decided to protect it.
I guess we all need some insurance don't we? How can we protect what we have worked so hard to achieve? Why on earth would someone take the time and put in the money for a nice house (or body) and then trash it or leave it unprotected? We can protect ourselves by keeping our environments safe. We wouldn't leave an electric heater near the drapes would we? Let's not keep trigger foods in the house either. I know it can sometimes be difficult with others in the house - try this - have an inviting bowl of fruit in the middle of the table and see if it's not eaten without passing it by for junk. Make them hunt for the junk as you gradually wean them off of it by buying less and less and less until they don't realize what you've done.
There will be storms but we shouldn't be the cause of them. If we ask our families for help by not having the junk around we might be surprised at their willingness to help. The storm doesn't have to be a Category 5 or a Level 3 emergency of our own doing. I know when we were little my Mom would get a package of donuts and a 6-pack of cokes on payday. When it was gone, it was gone. We couldn't afford anymore. With 4 kids you can imagine how long it lasted. If we are honest concerning the grocery shopping, the candy, cookies, cakes, and pies aren't really for the kids or the husband - it's stuff that we want and like.
Have you ever noticed that when we let one thing slip, it's easier to let other things slide? For example, we decide we are tired or not in the mood to exercise so we don't. In my case thinking of travel time and the time spent in the class I now have about 2 hours of time on my hands. I am not a naturally active, can't sit still type of person. Staying active is a part of my insurance policy (it costs extra). Those two hours go from burning calories and getting fit to having time on my hands in the house where the kitchen is. The hardest part of exercising is getting started at home or showing up at the gym. I notice hunger more when I have time on my hands to think about it. This day probably will not end well if it goes like other days like this go. Now I probably overeat and won't exercise again tomorrow because I will feel sluggish and depressed.
Clouds and wind don't always mean there's a storm coming - maybe just a challenge. Let's not over react or be a drama queen. We can deal with these things without trashing everything.