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Saturday, June 29, 2013

I Thought "V" Was For Victory

I did some reading through links on the pages of those I follow. I found a lot of victims out there.

There were victims of:

cookouts
eating out
parties
empty nest
vacations
poor planning
poor choices
company
the wind was out of the north
the sun came up in the east

I joined a discussion group on Facebook and one gal posted about her grandchildren coming to spend a week or a weekend or something and she needed help and prayers and divine guidance and all that because she would be the victim of these grandchildren and would have to make hot dogs, pizza, macaroni and cheese, and go to the dairy queen and all that. I asked her if all these scenarios were her idea or those of her grandchildren. I suggested enlisting their help by telling them of her efforts to lose weight. You know there are a lot of children who like fruits, vegetables, and lean meats.

Another gal had a long story and all the comments were the pat on the head, it's OK, and now toddle along and we are here to support you. My comment was more direct and I talked about those who enable others. My comment wasn't published. I dropped out of the group.

We all must decide if "V" is for victory or victim.

Take care.

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  1. HaHaHa! You KNOW how much I am with you on this subject. Don't get me going!

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    1. I use this topic periodically. I know these people struggle. I have been there but it doesn't help to help them justify it. There are many bloggers who have faced the same struggles and have chosen not to enable even though they understand and have done it themselves. It is "tough love" I guess. Be careful out there today.

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  2. Good insights, Myra. We're having a 4th of July/Birthday party here Thursday for Mark's mom and aunt, and I've already decided I'm just gonna eat hot dogs without the buns and maybe a little popcorn while we light fireworks. It helps that I *can't* eat the brownies without feeling sick.

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    1. That's what I do. There are usually some vegetables or you can make sure there are with vegetables and dip yourself - then your meal is not all meat. Deviled eggs would also work. It's not worth gaining weight to have the other stuff. Take care.

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  3. I come across a lot of blogs like that and I couldn't agree with you more. I guess a lot of people don't realize that they can still have a great time without over indulging. I'm still in the process of learning this myself... so far so good, though. This 4th of July will be the first time that I'm making all healthy dishes and my family is actually okay with it. My kids are even suggesting that I make some of their healthy favorites. Like you said, sometimes you never know until you ask.

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    1. We create a lot of our own problems with the assumptions that we make. The grandmother was assuming all those things. She probably didn't even realize those were things SHE wanted to do. Be careful out there today.

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  4. I think the funniest people are the ones you simply delete your comments if they don't like what you have to say. If you question their take on "reality" they simply cannot handle it. Delete. Delete. Delete. Since you have been out of the blogging land living your life and all, my circumstances have changed quite a bit. My new doctor (since I moved) is tackling my migraines from a completely different angle. My diet has been completely overhauled. I never was much of a sugar eater, but she wants more veggies and protein. Less to eat and more often. My old diet was less and rarely. Also, she really wants me to avoid processed foods. Eating this way has caused me to gain weight (I was actually underweight), and my goal is to now level out. I have started walking daily. And I am completely off pain meds. We are working at getting me off my other Rx medications, too. I still have migraines, but I am not on any pain medications, and we are working the plan to get rid of the headache. Overall, much improvement. The road may be long, but it is one step at a time:)

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    1. It sounds to me like she is detoxing your body which I have thought all along was a contributing factor. I am very glad to hear of the improvement and will look forward to the day you are pain free. Take care.

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  5. Very thought provoking how we view ourselves or each other. Thank you for posting today:)

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    1. I know it probably seems hypocritical to others when those who have done the same things and had the same failures then give advice and warn about the consequences of trying to fool ourselves/others. I have certainly poisoned my body with bad foods, too much food, and many other unhealthy behaviors. It would not have helped me to have others help me view all this as "normal" or OK or just a slip-up no biggie type of thing. The person who is serious about this will want the advice of those who refuse to accept their BS and say the difficult things and point out the games they are playing. How do we recognize it? We have done it ourselves. That doesn't mean we cannot give good counsel. It's like when we raise our children. Just because we were disrespectful at times as we grew up doesn't mean we have to tolerate it in our kids. Be careful out there today.

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  6. Amazing post, Myra. I can't deal with enabling in blog-land or real life, and it's rampant in both spheres, unfortunately.

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    1. All we can do is try to help them with the best advice we have that we have gained through going through the tough times ourselves. Those of us who are passionate about health and fitness and self-control just want to share how it's done. Some have credibility; some do not. You keep doing what you do. The people who listen and take your advice are the ones who are serious. We can only hope the others are just not ready yet but are searching and one day the light bulb just might come on because they have heard it enough times and are finally miserable enough to realize they have to listen and apply what the successful ones have been trying to pound into their heads for a long, long time. Be careful out there today.

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  7. I love the way you avoid beating around the bush! Lots of people embrace victimhood. It's safe and you don't have to ever be challenged to change.
    Gosh I sure with these victims knew how much they were missing out on. Life is so big and real once you get out from under the weight of always being a victim. I hope and pray that everyone can have the freedom that is being independent and accountable.

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    1. It's just so threatening to take responsibility for the mess that we call obesity. So many of these people have had terrible childhoods and other experiences why wouldn't they have emotional problems? It's hard to overcome those things but yet we must if we are to live out the rest of our days in some sort of peace and contentment. These people truly are miserable and can't find a way out. We can only keep trying and hope that they come to understand that THEY must do it - nobody can stop them from the self-destruction but themselves. I know how they feel and thank God for the recovery. Be careful out there today.

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  8. It also occurs to me that the longer one stays in victimhood the longer the people and things that first set off the issues have power over a person. I know this happened to me for a time and I cannot tell you how much I have rejoiced in finding that it was me that got to decide to free myself. I wouldn't go back to wallowing for anything or anyone!

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    1. You go girl. This can become so embedded in a person's life that they can't imagine being any other way. It does take some spunk to take charge of our lives. Glad you did it. Take care.

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