I did some reading through links on the pages of those I follow. I found a lot of victims out there.
There were victims of:
the wind was out of the north
the sun came up in the east
I joined a discussion group on Facebook and one gal posted about her grandchildren coming to spend a week or a weekend or something and she needed help and prayers and divine guidance and all that because she would be the victim of these grandchildren and would have to make hot dogs, pizza, macaroni and cheese, and go to the dairy queen and all that. I asked her if all these scenarios were her idea or those of her grandchildren. I suggested enlisting their help by telling them of her efforts to lose weight. You know there are a lot of children who like fruits, vegetables, and lean meats.
Another gal had a long story and all the comments were the pat on the head, it's OK, and now toddle along and we are here to support you. My comment was more direct and I talked about those who enable others. My comment wasn't published. I dropped out of the group.
We all must decide if "V" is for victory or victim.