Let's think of our wrong choices and how they have brought us to the right place.
Those of us who feel like we finally have a handle on this for the most part may be able to look back and see how the behaviors in the past have helped bring them to this point of being in control. There is often some discomfort necessary to make us finally see our way out and lay down behaviors that have caused us so much pain.
Remember the pain of discipline as a child? It is what shaped our behavior. It took some of us longer than others to get the point. I know my dad didn't have to discipline us much but we knew he would and we also remembered that it was something we didn't want repeated so we obeyed the rules (pretty much).