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Sunday, January 6, 2013

Truth or Lie?

The truth does hurt sometimes doesn't it? We say we want the truth but can get very defensive in the face of it. The way the truth is said is important I think. Profanity, calling people names, and throwing insults makes us look bad not the person being told the truth.

Most people really are more comfortable with lies about their weight, their eating, their exercising and ask questions at the end of their blog posts that lead people to comment with a lie. Someone blogged the other day - I think it was Jenn - about how these people have hundreds and thousands of followers. I have wondered about that myself. The serious bloggers have fewer followers because they tell the truth about themselves and tell the truth to others. Even if the comment or post has some "salty" language if the gist of the comment or post is really true that will come through. People who appreciate a person who walks the talk will accept that person's personality.

Let's just not lie to ourselves.

Be careful out there today.


22 comments:

  1. This truth/lie thing really hits home with me this morning. Let's just say I had an encounter with an incident involving rationalization of being fat. And let's just say that I addressed it......Probably should have kept my thoughts to myself :)

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    1. I think we all don't like to think we hurt someone's feelings or made someone mad. The truth will do that. I know you well enough to know that you weren't insulting or rude. You probably planted a seed. Perhaps you need to follow up with that person? Be careful out there today.

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  2. It's kind-of-impossible to lie to yourself when standing in the cubical of a changing room in a dress store. OOOOh those harsh lights really tell the truth. Ha
    Manzanita from Wanna buy a duck

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    1. Yes, those mirrors are pretty harsh. Walking toward a glass door and seeing our reflections or holding up our clothes as we fold the laundry will also do it. Glad to have you as a follower. Take care.

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  3. I always prefer the truth. When people call me out on things, and I get a chance to reconsider. Sometimes I haven't even thought about it before! And sometimes I'll disagree, but I'll at least have thought more carefully. I also think it's important how you deliver the truth, too.

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    1. Yes, it's easy to be impersonal with the written word and not face to face with the person. We have to remember how to present what we want to say so the person will listen. If our hearts are in the right place, the recipient may have been made to think more deeply just as you say. Take care.

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  4. I have a hard time with a lot of blogs as I do think that a lot of people are not totally honest on their blogs...but whatever. If they believe this is what they need to do to have "followers"...

    Personally, I don't really want to be someone I am not in my blog as most of my readers are people I know. I don't need a huge group of followers that are going to pat me on the back over and over again...although I truly appreciate anyone who does read my blog and those that comment..and I would hope that people would call me out on things (which friends have) when I seem to contradict myself. THAT does not mean that things do not evolve in one's life.

    But back to the honesty thing, the weird thing is that I feel like being honest in my blog helps me. I did a 5K on a frigid New Year's morning but was SO tempted to turnaround before the true turnaround point....but then I thought that I could not say I did a 5K on New Year's morning. What was I going to say that I did part of a 5K???? So I continued on and completed the whole thing.

    Happy New Year to you!

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    1. Honesty is truly the best policy. I agree that the accountability of blogging is a great motivator just as you have demonstrated in the 5K. Take care.

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  5. Good morning, Myra...it's your favorite "salty" blogger checkin' in... ;)

    I have just within the last 15 minutes typed (and then deleted before sending) comments on THREE different blogs where the bloggers swore UP AND DOWN on Tuesday that this was the start of a brand-new beautiful journey and blahblahblahblahblah, and by last night were rationalizing candy and cookies and restaurant meals because "it's unfair to expect perfection" and "I have to learn how to eat in moderation" and "I was good for x days so far, so I deserve a treat" (seriously, someone wrote that). And I began to respond with critical but civil commentary in each case and then decided WHY BOTHER; I MAY AS WELL TALK TO THE CEMENT WALL IN MY BASEMENT.

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    1. You are absolutely my favorite salty blogger. :-) I can tell that you truly want to help and support those who are trying to get healthy. It is a waste of time trying to make people like you mention above get serious. As we travel around blog land we can tell who is serious but struggling and who is just playing around with no real intention of sticking with any kind of program. Why put yourself through it? It just brings out that beast in you with the potty mouth. Be careful out there today.

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  6. Myra: Wonderful post, and that's no lie! You are right on the money.

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    1. Thank you. I am glad you got something out of it. Take care.

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  7. Agree with this post & Norma! You all read my thoughts.

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    1. I wonder, like Norma, sometimes why we keep on trying with some of these people. It's because we care. It's because we know how it feels to be obese and out of control. We know there is a better way if we could just make them see it and commit. I know these people that Norma mentioned are probably very nice people and would make a good friend but they don't have the maturity to endure the discomfort of hunger or the sense of being left out because they can't have donuts for breakfast. Take care.

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  8. Completely...

    I'm completely with you on that. And always trying to turn that inward... am I making excuses? Am I denying to see the truth of this situation? (whether it be fat, or anything else that gets me up in arms)...

    Striving for honesty! I've really appreciated yours.

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    1. I am glad you appreciate my comments as you are getting this turned around. When I leave a comment that is meant to help you see your way, it is because I care that you are successful. You have had a rough spell but that's over and now you can move forward. Take care.

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  9. What an absolute perfect post! I must admit, I've been guilty of writing "you can do it" "good job", etc. when in fact, I really want to write "Oh gawd not again, Seriously Lady, you couldn't pass up (fill in the blank)". But then I'm sure folks have thought that about me-LOL!

    I do tend to be very honest with myself. I've NEVER said to myself "I don't know why I'm not losing" etc. If I'm not losing, I know why and it would be shame on me for saying otherwise.

    :)

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    1. I think we tend to think that we can't or shouldn't or whatever tell the truth to someone because we have been guilty of the same things but we can and should point out the shortcomings of what they are doing. If someone is blogging that says they are wanting some input and being honest is what we all need. It's like parents who think they can't expect a certain behavior from their kids because they did the same things. You can start your comment with something like, "I know what you are going through" or "I used to do that myself" and then continue with what needs to be said in your estimation. We all want the best for each other around here and being honest even if there is a little pain involved brings better results than enabling. Take care.

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  10. ugh...half the time I'm tasting feet before I realize I've put my foot in my mouth..bloop..out comes whatever I'm thinking. I am a little overly honest sometimes and have to temper it with the knowledge that people aren't always going to hear it in the way I meant it. I like you cause you are nice. I am sure I have turned people off of me because I can say something with profanity or a little too directly, but best they know early than late I guess. lol. I have a few people I hold back with because sometimes people are so down on themselves they don't need a foot up their backside. But my blog is a free fire zone on opinions. You know that though.

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    1. I love reading your blog for the very reasons you mentioned. I can take profanity as long as the Lord's name isn't taken in vain. I don't like the name of God or Jesus used as swear words. I have stopped following people because of that. I think if people are honest they appreciate being told the truth and people that they don't have to wonder if what they said was sincere or something just said because it was the easy way out. Take care.

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  11. It is far better to have a few good, real friends and know that you are living in reality, than a bunch of lame followers who will say whatever you want to hear. Truth is always better, no matter how ugly. Yes, we can deliver it with some style and not aim to hurt. But really, who wants to live a lie???

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    1. I agree. I have some followers that regularly visit and comment and I appreciate them so much. I don't give people too much opportunity to lie to me because this isn't about food for me or the scale. It's about changing my lifestyle and adopting good habits. I am not one to take pictures of food or list what I eat or how many calories, etc. You probably wouldn't have much trouble figuring out that I am a teacher by profession. Take care.

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