Weight loss support with a spiritual element. I will keep you posted on my journey in the hopes that you will join me in becoming the person God wants you to be. Don't worry about being religious. Come as you are.




Friday, November 30, 2012

Back to School

I thieved this from my sister's blog - jensgyrations.blogspot.com

***13 rules you did not learn in school:

Here are some basic rules that children should be learning in school, but unfortunately don’t. Not all of these have to do with academics.

I'm going to add my own thoughts to this and gear it toward weight loss.


Rule #1: Life is not fair. Get used to it. The average teen-ager uses the phrase, “It’s not fair” 8.6 times a day.


It's not fair for a child to get cancer; it's not fair for a soldier to die in the Middle East - and we cry about it not being fair that someone else can eat so much and we can't.  It isn't fair for kids to go to bed hungry and we cry that we can't overeat? Those hungry children would be thankful to have what the average American family scrapes into the garbage after a meal.  We get a little twinge of hunger and we are undone. These kids have stomachs that are swelled up from starvation.

Rule #2: The real world won’t care as much about your self-esteem as much as your school does. It’ll expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself. This may come as a shock. Usually, when inflated self-esteem meets reality, kids complain it’s not fair.

Ah yes, the entitlement mentality. Many kids graduate from high school thinking everything they do is wonderful. We watch what we eat for 3 days and think we should have at least lost 20 lbs. because we were so awesome for 3 whole days. The whining really starts when weight loss slows to 1 or 2 pounds a week.

Rule #3: Sorry, you won’t make $40,000 a year right out of high school. And you won’t be a vice president or have a car phone either. You may even have to wear a uniform that doesn’t have a label.

We aren't going to be two sizes smaller after a week or two of dieting and exercise.

Rule #4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait until you get a boss. He doesn’t have tenure, so he tends to be a bit edgier. When you screw up, he’s not going to ask you how you feel about it.

We have a few bloggers that don't mince words and will call others out for just acting like they might someday if everything falls in line get serious about losing weight. There are a few who are very understanding and will make you feel OK about screwing up but does that help much? There are many who have charmed their way out of tight spots and been able to fool others but with weight loss there is progress or lack thereof to prove how much effort was invested. I remember the discouragement and depression associated with obesity.  If we weigh very much it is going to take maybe years to get it off. That is why the lifestyle change is so important. If you will begin with "I don't eat sugar" and drink at least 8 glasses of water a day and begin exercising you will begin to lose. The person who is hungry and has made this lifestyle change of "I don't eat sugar" will choose almonds, hard boiled eggs, or some lean meat. It doesn't mean hunger has to be endured. It does mean that when you make the next lifestyle change of cutting out the starches to a great extent you will feel so much better. Hunger is not the panic it was; hunger is not disturbing anymore. When you are truly hungry it is an empty, hollow feeling. Really think about lifestyle change - your life should last for quite some time hopefully. You didn't stop eating sugar until the weight was gone; you stopped eating sugar for the rest of your days. You are going to drink the water for the rest of your life and exercise as well. The weight will come off; it has to. There's no big rush. Relax.

Rule #5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grand-parents had a different word of burger flipping. They called it “opportunity”. They weren’t embarrassed making minimum wage either. They would have been embarrassed to sit around talking about Kurt Cobain all weekend.

There are people who overcome. I have noticed that the truly great people in this world came from humble backgrounds and learned how to work for what they got. There is that same work ethic that gets many of us to the gym or out for a run. These people want better and go after it. They are self-reliant and accountable. "If it is to be, it's up to  me."

Rule #6: It’s not your parents’ fault. If you screw up, you are responsible. This is the flip side of “It’s my life,” and “You’re not the boss of me,” and other eloquent proclamations of your generation. When you turn 18, it’s on your dime. Don’t whine about it, or you’ll sound like a baby boomer.

A few days ago, I blogged about crutches. It applies here.

Rule #7: Your school may have done away with winners and losers. Life hasn’t. In some schools, they’ll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. Failing grades have been abolished and class valedictorians scrapped, lest anyone’s feelings be hurt. Effort is as important as results. This, of course, bears not the slightest resemblance to anything in real life.

Liberals have crippled education when they decided that teachers could not be in control of their classrooms. There were a few instances of discipline overdone and so we throw the baby out with the bathwater. What are teachers to do? Look at the dismal rates of graduation in many schools. The self is not something we find; it is something we create. I don't care if they are expressing themselves - what's to be gained from  expressing, "Look everybody I'm an idiot"? We need dress codes and discipline - and you know who complains the loudest?  Parents. Be a part of the solution. Get your kids ready for life by holding them accountable and expecting them to be good people - then when they get our age and gain some weight they will be able to take responsibility for it and do something about it without getting all emotional and playing the victim. Too many of us have gotten by with being a slacker. Are you, as the parent, in charge or are the kids?

Rule #8: Life is not divided into semesters, and you don’t get summers off. Not even Easter break. They expect you to show up every day. For eight hours. And you don’t get a new life every 10 weeks. It just goes on and on. While we’re at it, very few jobs are interesting in fostering your self-expression or helping you find yourself. Fewer still lead to self-realization.

We don't get time off from being healthy either.  Our basic food plan includes the weekends and holidays and vacations.

Rule #9: Television is not real life. Your life is not a sitcom. Your problems will not all be solved in 30 minutes, minus time for commercials. In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop to go to jobs. Your friends will not be as perky or pliable as Jennifer Aniston.

Everybody has problems. Some of these sitcoms are so mindless. They are promiscuous and it's funny and everything turns out OK.  The message sent about women is pretty negative. Do we want our daughters to live like this? Do we want our sons using others? Everything doesn't always work out in the end especially if we have been doing things (like overeating) that don't lead to where we want to go. We are so used to settling for what's easy rather than waiting for the best.

Rule #10: Be nice to nerds. You may end up working for them. We all could.

Some of the nicest people I have ever met are nerds. 
 
Rule #11: Smoking does not make you look cool. It makes you look moronic. Next time you’re out cruising, watch an 11-year-old with a butt in his mouth. That’s what you look like to anyone over 20. Ditto for “expressing yourself” with purple hair and/or pierced body parts.

Fat is not sexy either. Whether it's fair or not, it's more acceptable for men to be fat than women. I see married women out in public who are obese, wearing sweats and crocs, no make-up or even styled hair,  with kids. I have heard men on call-in talk shows express their disappointment in the way their wives have let themselves go.
 
Rule #12: You are not immortal. If you are under the impression that living fast, dying young and leaving a beautiful corpse is romantic, you obviously haven’t seen one of your peers at room temperature lately.

I don't know how to tie this in to weight so much as the immortal part. Everybody dies and many choose how they are going to die.

Rule #13: Enjoy your youth time while you can. Sure parents are a pain, school is a bother and life is depressing but someday you’ll realize how wonderful it was to be a kid. Maybe you should start now.

Have you noticed how time goes faster the older we get? See #12.

By Charles J. Sykes
Printed in San Diego Union Tribune
September 19, 1996

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Obligations

There are many kinds of obligations. There are obligations to pay our bills or take care of our kids. Obligations like these are a part of life and must be taken seriously.

Some obligations are self-imposed. We feel obligated to do something we would rather not do. We do some things out of social pressure - like inviting the whole family or people we don't really care for to a wedding or a party of some kind. Sometimes we have to keep the peace.

Some obligations are a source of stress. We don't want to forego making candy because we are expected to and because we have always done it and because Aunt so and so will be so disappointed.

We feel obligated to eat. We feel obligated to drink. We feel obligated to buy gifts and overspend.

I have noticed that people feel uncomfortable if they are given a gift and have not bought something for that person. We feel obligated to buy gifts for others if they give us a gift. Do people give gifts because they expect a gift in return? Have you ever tried to find out if someone was getting you a gift because if so, you needed to buy something for them? Sad, really.

I have known of families who have decided not to give gifts at all and relieve themselves of that pressure and expense. They just get together and have a meal and enjoy each other's company. I would think they would still get a gift for the children to open. How many times have we had to act like the gift was just great when we didn't feel that way? How many gifts have you and I re-gifted?

While I do enjoy giving and receiving gifts at Christmas I do think we have lost the Spirit of the holiday. My mother-in-law used to keep track of how much money she spent on each person so that it was fair. Kids count their gifts and are very aware of equal numbers among all of them.

Just remember we are not obligated to destroy what we have worked for during the holidays. Some things, like the gift thing, are a part of the celebrations. We need to rekindle the reason for the season I think. We don't need to feel obligated to self-destruct. We also don't need to let others sabotage us either.

Are you making any changes to the holiday season now that you are working toward health?

Be careful out there today.



Sunday, November 25, 2012

Sunday Thoughts

The November 25 daily reading from C. S. Lewis went like this:

Books for Grown-Ups

There is no need to be worried by facetious people who try to make the Christian hope of "heaven" ridiculous by saying they do not want "to spend eternity playing harps". The answer to such people is that if they cannot understand books written for grown-ups, they should not talk about them. All the scriptural imagery (harps, crowns, gold, etc.) is, of course, a merely symbolical attempt to express the inexpressible. Musical instruments are mentioned because for many people (not all) music is the thing known in the present life which most strongly suggests ecstasy and infinity. Crowns are mentioned to suggest the fact that those who are united with God in eternity share His splendour and power and joy. Gold is mentioned to suggest the timelessness of Heaven (gold does not rust) and the preciousness of it. People who take these symbols literally might as well think that when Christ told us to be like doves, He meant that we should lay eggs.


                                    -from Mere Christianity, C. S. Lewis

I have heard people say that they do not understand the Bible. This is true. Scripture tells us of a veil of understanding that is not lifted until there is a change of heart. Ask, Seek, Knock. Ask and it shall be given unto you, Seek and ye shall find, Knock and it will be opened. The Bible is rich with timeless truths that, if practiced, would solve all the problems of the world. The 10 Commandments and the Golden Rule are all we need to live by.

Have a blessed Sunday.



Saturday, November 24, 2012

Challenge

I am participating in this Challenge. Want to join me?

I haven't been paying as close attention as I should be lately and need something to get me fired up again.

This challenge is 5 weeks long and must be entered by this evening. I like that the food is not prescribed for me and there is no calorie mandate - I will be doing my thing. I just have to log my food which I generally don't do but for this 5 week challenge I will make a point of it. Maybe I won't eat things I don't want to write down. The only tweak I will do is the vegetable at breakfast. I will be doubling up on vegetables at another meal for that one. I also don't usually have 3 fruits a day due to the carbs but will get a bag of small apples. There are raisins in my morning muffin and the trail mix I make so that will count as another fruit. I know on WW 1/2 a banana is a fruit so I will get in just under the line with the fruit.

There are small mini-challenges each week which will make it fun.

We are having Thanksgiving again today on the other side of the family. I am making 2 butterscotch pies, 2 chocolate pies, and baked beans (of which I will have none). I have to hustle this morning because I had to drive an armored truck yesterday and then had a service call so didn't get home until late. I did get my pie crusts made and baked so I have to do the fillings and meringue this morning as well as the baked beans before the event at 1 p.m. I am on call all day so I am hoping for no service calls.

Have a great day!

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Thanksgiving Day

Here we are!

That's Isaac on the left. He lives in Fort Wayne and does computer aided drafting. I am next. Duane is next. Nathan (can you tell he lifts weights?) is far right. I am going to use this picture for Christmas gifts. We  went to my sister's house today for Thanksgiving and had a nice, peaceful day and a great meal. That is her house in the back. What am I thankful for? Where do I start? Health, family, blessings too many to count, and peacefulness.  

I pray for those in the military who are away from their families during the holidays.

I pray for those who are struggling. I have just recently learned that one of the gals in my quilt group has just found out her daughter has cancer in her breasts and lower back and it is pretty serious. What have I to complain about?

I have just learned that the friend I pick up for Bible Study Fellowship has a friend who has just learned she has stage 3 ovarian cancer. What have I to complain about?

There are people who will go to bed hungry tonight. What have we done to lessen their pain? I have noticed that people use many excuses to avoid giving to worthy causes. I keep my giving local. The Salvation Army, The Red Cross, there is a local shelter for women/children who are victims of domestic violence, and there is a local shelter for homeless men. I have a friend who is very tight with her money. She keeps it for herself and I have noticed she says we should give to people HERE. Does it matter who is hungry or without shelter? So what if they live in a foreign country? We can give to USO which supports our troops.

Have you dropped some money in the Salvation Army red bucket yet?

I feel pretty strongly about giving. Money is just a thing. People are what's important.

Each of you is important to me and I am thankful that you read what I write. Take care.

We can't do everything but we can all do something.

I hope your Thanksgiving is truly thankful.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Bummer

Well - rats. I usually make a new post when I get a thought I want to share and get it started then date it a few days hence so I have time to work on it some more. I evidently dated two for the same posting date. I hate when that happens :-)  Luckily these two were pretty much done. At least I hope there aren't any unfinished thoughts. I hope you are paying more attention than I did as I compose. Be careful out there today.

Start Over

I have had an epiphany when it comes to starting over.

I have always thought that starting over tomorrow meant today was a failure, a loss and tomorrow was going to be DIFFERENT from today.

What if today was about as good as it gets? The food, the water, and the exercising were right on. Life is going well because we have invested our time making the lives of others easier therefore contributing to our own peace.

Why don't we start that over tomorrow? Let's do today one more time. Tomorrow we can decide if it's worth repeating yet another time.

What say you?

The Enemy

I have treated my body like it was the enemy for most of my life. Something happens, there is a binge, and my body would pay for it. I took it out on my health. There were self-inflicted wounds to add to the ones that caused the binge in the first place. More wounds than I can remember.

Have you ever taken your anger/frustration out on the wrong person?

Lincoln said that the way to get rid of an enemy is to make a friend of him/her. What if I had wanted to be friends with this body that I live inside of rather than taking out my negative emotional life?

I have always been amazed at how much the body can take, how about you? Alcoholics, drug addicts, and overeaters place such demands on the body - the heart, lungs, brain, liver, joints, and every muscle in the body have had to fight for us when we didn't deserve it.

How do we treat an enemy? Do we ignore the enemy? Think about the enemy's demise? Do we do things that make life difficult for the enemy? What have our bodies done to deserve such treatment?

How do we treat a friend? Do we want what is best for our friends? Do we have positive thoughts about our friends? Do we look forward to good times with our friends? If someone was doing harm to your friend, would you step in and do something about it?

When a perfect stranger meets you for the first time does that person see your friend or your enemy? Scripture tells us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Shouldn't we fear trashing our home? Remember when you have fed a baby? Remember the love you communicated through the feeding of that child?

How about treating our bodies like our BFF?

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Who's The Boss?


Do you have a great boss? If you don't, have you ever had a good boss? What made that boss so good?

The best boss I ever had was my last principal before I retired. He brought out the best in others. He assumed that everyone was doing his/her best or at least wanted to do his/her best. When anyone was in a conversation with him, it didn't matter if you were a student, a janitor, a teacher, or a parent - you had his undivided attention. He always had time.

What kind of a boss are we when it comes to working out or following our plan for weight loss and health? Are these things important enough to get our undivided attention during that hour or so of working out? Is the food we choose to eat our best effort toward reaching our goals?

I am guessing many of you have or have had a bad boss. We don't have much respect for those people and drag our feet meeting deadlines and watch the clock because we can't wait to get out of our workplace. These bosses do not bring out the best in us.

What kind of a boss are you? Would you want to work for someone like you? Would you want to hire a person like you?

We are all the boss of us. What kind of a boss are you?

Friday, November 16, 2012

Crutches

Nothing is more desirable than to be released of an affliction, but nothing is more frightening than to be divested of a crutch.   -James Baldwin

Is the fear of giving up a crutch keeping us from being released from our afflictions?

A crutch is only to be used for a brief period. Do we want to be on crutches for the rest of our lives? Shouldn't we want to get rid of them ASAP?

What crutches have you given up? What crutches do you hang on to?

I am addicted to sugar.
I am addicted to food.
I am addicted to eating.
I cannot exercise.
My family does not support me.
I am a stress eater.
I am too old.
My poor physical condition keeps me like I am.
Others can eat all they want and not gain an ounce, I bite my fingernails and gain 5 pounds.
I cannot pass up candy.
There is always junk in the break room.
My husband/wife expects me to sit down and eat with him/her.
I have to keep chips in the house for the kids.
I always make candy at Christmas.
I don't like water.
It was on sale.

Did I miss any?

Are there any compulsive overeaters who don't want to be free of the consequences of their disease? No one wants to suffer the effects of obesity and/or enslavement to food. But the real question is, "am I willing to give up the temporary oblivion food provides?" That crutch enabled me to hobble through life when nothing else seemed to help.    Nov. 9 OA Daily Reading

Be careful out there today.


Thursday, November 15, 2012

Fat Acceptance Bloggers

Fat Acceptance Bloggers

Here it is a little after 6 a.m. and I have to run the route today so I don't have time to expand upon the topic. I like waiting on your comments and answering each thought individually so it's all good.  After I run the route and have my  mammogram (ouch) and get some groceries I will be able to come home and add my thoughts.

This should set Norma off so I will have given her time to vent a bit :-)

NSV - I got into a 36C bra today down from a 38D. Women usually don't like this to happen but I am excited about it. Less for the mammogram to deal with. OK - stop Myra - guys read this.

Do you know any fat acceptance bloggers? What is typical on their blogs?

Check back this evening to read the discussion on this.

Be careful out there today.

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

A Day In The Life of a Fat Cell

A Day In The Life Of A Fat Cell

This is interesting reading. I already knew a lot of it but we can always learn something new. I went to step aerobics this morning after having done body sculpt last night. The muscles were a little tired this morning but I kept up pretty well.  I had my raisin bran muffin before I left and a smoothie when I got home - almond milk, over-ripe banana, scoop whey protein powder, spoon of almond butter, chia seeds, milled flax meal, 1 packet stevia - very filling, very good.

I am sewing Christmas gifts at the present time so will be getting to that today.

I have read several times that one of the reasons many struggle to keep off weight that has been lost is that fat cells never die or decrease in number. They are just lurking to suck up any indiscretions with our eating. Forewarned is forearmed.

Building muscle is the answer to this in my opinion. Occasional indiscretions can be covered through a BMR that is higher due to muscle mass - plus just the activity of building muscle in itself burns many calories and there is even an afterburn. I have read that we continue to burn calories at a higher rate for up to 3 hours after the workout. What's not to like?

So how have you been treating your fat cells lately?

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Plan Your January 1 Post

I have been thinking about the posts that are sure to happen during the holidays.

Have you decided what your January 1, 2013 post will read?

Is it going to be a "starting over" post or a victory post?

"When we choose the path, we choose the destination."  -unknown

Our paths are decided upon each day. I have often just "gone with the flow" and let things happen to me rather than decided what was going to happen. I would exercise if I felt like it or there was time or whatever other reason/excuse popped into my head. Now I know pretty much how the exercise is going to look for the entire week. It's a part of my schedule.

I have also been thinking about (and dreading kind of) the overcrowding in the aerobics room after the first of the year. I am glad they are making the effort and I hope they continue but that's not how it goes. At the beginning of this year a group of friends came a couple times. One of them had those slip-on shoes that looked like a workout shoe but had the open back. They talked during class. One kept checking her cell phone. Annoying really.

I get 4 of my 8 glasses of water down in the morning. I have a bottle that holds 32 oz. and so I can pace myself. I don't have a guilt trip over the 10 or more glasses rule or the half my weight = ounces of water to be consumed rule. I also drink green tea and other teas. Sometimes I drink more water. I am just careful to get in the 8 glasses.

I used to keep track of my carbs until I got the hang of it and now I have no idea how many carbs I eat each day. I do know what to eat and what not to eat.

We are going to be choosing our paths regardless. What will yours and my destination look like based on our paths?

My January post will read that I am now in the 160's and looking forward to goal weight and maintenance. I weighed 175.5 the last time I weighed so 169.5 is not far away. I will be walking through some mine fields - Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year's Eve, my birthday, getting together with friends for our annual dinner/gift exchange, and who knows what else will arise? 

Thankfully my lifestyle changes will carry me through. I don't eat sugar anymore. It doesn't depend on what I weigh or how I feel. It doesn't matter if I am at someone else's house or out for a meal. I don't eat sugar anymore.

I exercise 3 - 5 times a week. That also does not depend on what I weigh or how I feel. I exercise 3 - 5 times a week.

I drink 64 oz. of water a day - minimum. I just do. I take it with me. I start early in the day.

We can all do these things. We can choose our destination by choosing the path we take. Hopefully none of us is subconsciously planning on being the victim and preparing the time tested litany of reasons/excuses for having a disastrous holiday season.

If you are, you are looking at the storm with the same eyes you created it with.

Be careful out there today.


Sunday, November 11, 2012

A Few Words

I have been in a dry spell. It happens.

I weighed 175.5 last time I weighed. Four more pounds gone. I am just not even a weekly weigher but I will post when I am in the mood to get on the scales.

I have had a conflict with another person in my quilt group. I have told you about my quilt retreats and how much I enjoy them. This person and I usually go together and we had our plans made. Another person in our group found out at the last minute that she could go and I was so happy and thought "A" would be happy to change plans somewhat - NOT. The new person offered to drive but nothing doing. "A" accused me of demanding that she change plans. She said she was not going to "kiss ass" and I was taking over and yada, yada, yada.

We also arrived early at her house the morning we were to leave to drive to Camp Mack. The new gal and I were to follow "A". She was visibly angry when she opened the door. I did apologize for arriving early. She said we interrupted her rest time before leaving (cardiac patient and diabetic) and cut into her time with her husband before being gone for the weekend. 

She was mad so she had to vent all my trespasses in an email. She has been doing all this passive-aggressive stuff and I finally had enough and emailed her.

Here's one. At the quilt show on her way out a couple years ago she said I was poking her in the stomach and yelling at her that she needed to lose that big, fat belly. I have never touched her or yelled at her. I think her meds need adjusted. She told me she could work Friday or Saturday at the quilt show so I put her down for Friday. Another woman was willing to work on Friday but not Saturday so I asked "A" if she would switch and she agreed. She felt like I was pushing her around. I told her she should have said something and I would have figured something else out.

Here's another. She said every time I go to the quilt retreat there are problems. Get this. At the first quilt retreat I went to with her I didn't go to the dining hall for some of the meals. I was beginning my low-carb food plan and stayed at the lodge to quilt and had one of my Quest Protein Bars for the meal. She said the others wondered what my problem was. She said she told them I was on a diet. I don't really think anyone asked what my problem was but just inquired as to where I was. This was a problem? This one really burned my cookies (so to speak). I told her in my email that I would eat what I wanted. I would eat when I wanted. If this offended her or anyone else they would just have to offended. Eating in the dining hall is not mandatory. Those women would eat the junk snacks, watch the clock for meal times, and go over and eat full meals when there was no way they could have been hungry. Their choice. I am not doing that anymore. I am pretty touchy about comments on what and when I eat. Don't go there "A". She does need to lose her big, fat belly although I would never say that - she is a cardiac patient, is diabetic, and is obese (not to mention a retired nurse).

Another problem I caused. She was weary one evening in the lodge and was sitting on a couch and I jokingly said she needed a glass of wine and sit by the fire. She informed me that Camp Mack was smoke free and tobacco free (like I didn't know). I told her I was joking.

Another of my trespasses occurred when she came late to one of our meetings and I said, "at least you got here" meaning it was good to see her at the meeting even if a little late. She took that to mean that I pointed out that she was late to the group.

She said my behavior needed to change regarding group activities. I miss meetings and activities when I have to run the route. I told her if I only had to do the Indiana ATM's I had time to attend the meetings but when I have to do the whole route it is 300 miles and takes 8 hours. Is this her concern?

There are 3 quilt retreats a year at Camp Mack. She doesn't go to the February one so the new gal and I will go to that one and not the other two that "A" attends. She ended her email telling me she had a wonderful life and didn't have to find fulfillment at quilt retreats and was magnanimous enough to wish us well finding a quilt retreat that met our needs like we have empty lives and so we go to quilt retreats.

I won't even get started on our Mystery Quilt clues where she was overlooked, denied, and generally mistreated.

I joined in a conversation of which she was a part and shouldn't have butted in and kept on and whatever else I did that upset her apple cart.

People are great aren't they? Hope all of you have been well, are on your chosen plan, and making progress.