There are many kinds of obligations. There are obligations to pay our bills or take care of our kids. Obligations like these are a part of life and must be taken seriously.
Some obligations are self-imposed. We feel obligated to do something we would rather not do. We do some things out of social pressure - like inviting the whole family or people we don't really care for to a wedding or a party of some kind. Sometimes we have to keep the peace.
Some obligations are a source of stress. We don't want to forego making candy because we are expected to and because we have always done it and because Aunt so and so will be so disappointed.
We feel obligated to eat. We feel obligated to drink. We feel obligated to buy gifts and overspend.
I have noticed that people feel uncomfortable if they are given a gift and have not bought something for that person. We feel obligated to buy gifts for others if they give us a gift. Do people give gifts because they expect a gift in return? Have you ever tried to find out if someone was getting you a gift because if so, you needed to buy something for them? Sad, really.
I have known of families who have decided not to give gifts at all and relieve themselves of that pressure and expense. They just get together and have a meal and enjoy each other's company. I would think they would still get a gift for the children to open. How many times have we had to act like the gift was just great when we didn't feel that way? How many gifts have you and I re-gifted?
While I do enjoy giving and receiving gifts at Christmas I do think we have lost the Spirit of the holiday. My mother-in-law used to keep track of how much money she spent on each person so that it was fair. Kids count their gifts and are very aware of equal numbers among all of them.
Just remember we are not obligated to destroy what we have worked for during the holidays. Some things, like the gift thing, are a part of the celebrations. We need to rekindle the reason for the season I think. We don't need to feel obligated to self-destruct. We also don't need to let others sabotage us either.
Are you making any changes to the holiday season now that you are working toward health?
Be careful out there today.