I don't think she really wants to lose anything. I think she wants to be KNOWN for wanting to lose weight.
I thought that was pretty perceptive. Most of us probably know the blogger who was the topic of conversation. It really isn't important. We need to spend our time on the living.
Have you ever known anyone who lived up to a label? How much of our labels do we create ourselves?
Contributed By: Kim Davis, Educational Consultant
“Labeling is definitive; once we say it then it holds meaning” (Namka).
How many labels do we use in a day without conscious thought? The student, the teacher, the therapist, or the principal are labels that conjure up images of who those people may be, what they look like and how they might act. What are the labels that might be applied to us? Would we like them? Do the labels describe every aspect of who we are? Are we more reluctant to claim some labels and not others? How do we feel when we are labeled and categorized?
The above is from the field of education, special education in particular.
This is a true story. A teacher was given her class list before school started and was told which children were highly intelligent. These children actually were not. They were average and somewhat below average. It was found these children achieved far above their supposed ability level because the teacher treated them differently. Why? She thought they were highly intelligent so she treated them as if they were highly intelligent and they lived up to her expectations. This also works in reverse sadly.
Another true story.
The long-term consequences of labeling a child like Hannah "smart" or "slow" are profound. In another classic study, Robert Rosenthal and Lenore Jacobson told teachers at an elementary school that some of their students had scored in the top 20% of a test designed to identify "academic bloomers"--students who were expected to enter a period of intense intellectual development over the following year. In fact, the students were selected randomly, and they performed no differently from their unselected peers on a genuine academic test. A year after convincing the teachers that some of their students were due to bloom, Rosenthal and Jacobson returned to the school and administered the same test. The results were astonishing among the younger children: the "bloomers," who were no different from their peers a year ago, now outperformed their unselected peers by 10-15 IQ points. The teachers fostered the intellectual development of the "bloomers," producing a self-fulfilling prophecy in which the students who were baselessly expected to bloom actually outperformed their peers.
We should not treat people as they are but as we expect them to be.
Have you ever had a label that you lived up to? My maiden name was Elsrod - Elsie the Cow was my nickname, my label. I lived up to it. The label made things worse. If you have children, do not tolerate name-calling please.
We are all trying to create a new label for ourselves. One that we can live up to. The ones we create ourselves are the best ones. Labels from others are even better. Think how we feel when someone comments with something thoughtful, encouraging, or gives us a compliment. Do we sometimes feel we don't deserve it? Sometimes it is a little intimidating because it can make us feel like the bar has been raised a little. Others admire us for what we write. They tell us about a good post. We want to be worthy of their words.
Great labels make for great people.