We are getting a lot of mileage out of the latest post of one our favorites known affectionately as The Big Train Wreck by Norma. I call her The Pied Piper because of the way she gets others to comment and follow. It's pretty amazing how good she is at the game she has made out of losing weight. She will never lose her weight - guaranteed. She is getting too much out of being obese. If she steps on the scale, her followers swoon. If she decides perhaps she might exercise, her followers act like she is the first one to have considered that this might be a good thing. Each time she starts again, we can almost hear gasps of adoration. She's good. Her posts are very well written and she writes in a way that would make you think she really has it together and knows what she is doing. She doesn't.
She knows all the trite expressions that we use to validate another "slip up" I believe was the term used. That week of eating junk food that has finally brought her to her senses is her latest new beginning. She does have a beautiful smile, has been on Richard Simmons to exercise, and has carried the banner for the obese and airplane seats. She has been on TV for that as well.
She always ends her posts with a question which pretty much ensures several adoring comments to feed her ego. Considering the number of followers she has she does get comments galore. She takes down the comments of those who really have constructive criticism and good advice. That's not what she wants. I commented today about her efforts need to be consistent and the slogans she uses such as "she is more than a number on the scale", "not going to beat herself up", "she's OK with it", and so many other overused expressions that are not solutions are empty words. I also asked her how many times this cycle has been repeated.
There are people who are really trying and are in this very cycle. She is not trying. I was in that cycle and fought that battle. I follow people who binge eat and they are very bothered by it. Truly bothered. They fight it. They will one day win if they don't give up, take constructive criticism, and listen to good advice. It is easy to tell who is serious and who is not.
I think it's important that we understand how we can fool ourselves. She has no intention of losing her weight. I don't think she knows this but the rest of us do.
OK - now I have to think of a question so I will get a lot of comments. I am drawing a blank. You can comment anyway :-)