Do you respond better to high standards that you cannot reach or to standards that are easily met? I think we need to look at the standards set by others and evaluate ourselves and our ability to set and reach our own standards. Do we set our standards too low if we set any at all and if we do set standards, are we easily persuaded to put them aside?
Why are standards important anyway?
When we fall short of our own stated standards and are out there on the internet should we be surprised if someone calls us out over it? There are many reasons for falling short. I don't think any of us can state that it has been a straight shot to reaching our final goal. Is it better to be encouraged over repeated failures or to be told to get our act together and also how to do that? We cannot fool others for very long - there's a saying - you can fool some of the people some of the time but you can't fool all of the people all of the time.
Read Al and Norma for what I mean here. They both take heat for being "in your face" with the truth and neither has much patience for immaturity and hypocrisy. I cannot reach the standards set by Norma regarding her workouts. I don't want to reach the standards set by Al's weight loss plan. Neither is for me. I have a lot of respect for both of them and read them each time they blog.
I have my own standards. I exercise regularly and follow a low-carb eating plan. I drink 8 glasses of water a day and then other liquids like tea and coffee - no pop or artificially sweetened drinks. I do not weigh or measure food. I do not journal. I don't count calories or figure points.
I think those who are insulted by bloggers who are serious about what WE claim to be serious about as well should get a little thicker skin. We should all show respect to others but we must also realize that respect must be earned by our actions. Our actions are what show how true we are to any standards we claim to have. If someone blogs with the stated intention of being accountable and getting help then that person doesn't have much reason to be insulted if another blogger holds them accountable or if the help doesn't come wrapped up in a pretty package with a bow. Don't follow the people who aren't a "fit" for your sensibilities. We can all find a group of bloggers suited to our own set of standards.
Personally, I am inspired by standards that are just out of reach or standards that I don't think I can meet but then surprise myself by doing better than I thought I could. It's also nice to be able to know a standard is reachable with some commitment on my part. I will never be an Olympic swimmer. That's just how it is. I will, however, get to a healthy number on the scale. It's about 25 lb. away. It's reachable. It's a standard I have set for myself.
This morning's weight was 180.5 - new digit right around the corner. I have a quilt retreat from Friday - Sunday of next week. There will be buffet meals and complimentary breakfasts that come with the hotel room. I am hoping to be in the new digit by the time we leave on next Thursday. It's over a 3 - hour drive so we are going the day before to get settled in our room (going with a quilting buddy), get everything unloaded and set up and that means another day of eating out. I can either see it as an excuse or a challenge.
I choose to see it as a challenge. If I don't I am afraid Al and Norma will get after me :-)
Be careful out there today.