Carbie Girl made this statement in her comment on my last post:
Its easy to say such things once you are past the wall and have finally
figured it out for yourself. Give me all the nutritional information
and the how-to's in the world and that was never going to be enough to
"fix" my binge eating.
Well said. She had all the information she needed but lacked what she needed to fix the psychological part.
We can all relate to that. I answered one of my comments saying that I have often wondered if I would have been offended by some of the blogs that stated the truth that I couldn't quite bear to incorporate into my thinking as yet and I do think I would have been hurt and even more discouraged. I would not have realized that what I would have perceived as harsh was actually what I had to do. I just couldn't do it yet.
When things started falling into place for me it was quite a feeling of freedom. This freedom was there all the time for me and I could have had it if I had had the emotional tools I needed. That part had to heal to a certain point before I could go on I guess.
So how do we help others? It is natural to want to help defend those we feel are being held up as examples of what not to do. While I don't think we should kick somebody when he/she is down, the ones I do see pointed out seem to be blatantly insincere. We can learn from those people too in our own way. I can think of one who has a lap band and is working the system to get another procedure done. She seems truly confused and overwhelmed to me. I don't know what to think of Lyn - she's all over the place. Kenlie is just humorous. None of them get on my nerves.
Hopefully their answers will come to them in time just like mine came to me - and yours came to you.