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Sunday, September 30, 2012

Is Information The Answer?

Carbie Girl made this statement in her comment on my last post:

Its easy to say such things once you are past the wall and have finally figured it out for yourself. Give me all the nutritional information and the how-to's in the world and that was never going to be enough to "fix" my binge eating.

Well said. She had all the information she needed but lacked what she needed to fix the psychological part.

We can all relate to that. I answered one of my comments saying that I have often wondered if I would have been offended by some of the blogs that stated the truth that I couldn't quite bear to incorporate into my thinking as yet and I do think I would have been hurt and even more discouraged. I would not have realized that what I would have perceived as harsh was actually what I had to do. I just couldn't do it yet.

When things started falling into place for me it was quite a feeling of freedom. This freedom was there all the time for me and I could have had it if I had had the emotional tools I needed. That part had to heal to a certain point before I could go on I guess.

So how do we help others? It is natural to want to help defend those we feel are being held up as examples of what not to do. While I don't think we should kick somebody when he/she is down, the ones I do see pointed out seem to be blatantly insincere. We can learn from those people too in our own way. I can think of one who has a lap band and is working the system to get another procedure done. She seems truly confused and overwhelmed to me. I don't know what to think of Lyn - she's all over the place. Kenlie is just humorous. None of them get on my nerves.

Hopefully their answers will come to them in time just like mine came to me - and yours came to you.

Take care.


12 comments:

  1. Information is the answer. Along with self-motivation, determination, committment & drive to succeed. One must also take a long hard look at their reasons (EXCUSES) for not accomplishing their goals. I also find that looking at food as a black/white issue helps. As in YES, I can have carrot sticks and NO, I cannot have cake.

    When I first started blogging, I was binging, on Medifast, not exercising and sticking to the blogs in which the authors were going around in circles. Comment sections on such blogs is actually how I found blogs like Norma's (and others who are successfully maintaining). When I first read said blogs (I will just go ahead an use Norma as an example, I know she won't mind), my mouth was literally wide open. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! Once I got past the shock of reading the truth (truth being eat whole foods & exercise, no excuses...yup, really shocking), only then was I able to come up with my own plan of what works.

    I can tell ya right now, If I wrote a post about how bad I was eating and then received 64 comments from people telling me it's okay that I ate only half a cupcake and ordered pizza because I had a busy day - my success would not be what it is today.

    (PS - I had to shut down my blog or a bit but I will bring it back in a few weeks, not sure if you saw my post about that yesterday. Just didn't want to go MIA on you.)

    (PPSS - I really love your blog!

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    1. I like what you said about food being a black/white issue for you. I think that is a good way for many of us to stop rationalizing poor choices. I don't eat sugar means exactly that. I know people think they are helping when they comment to help someone who is struggling feel better but I also think it's a "misery love company", co-dependent, enabling type of thing. When someone comes along and doesn't mince words it's hard to take. I don't think any of us intend to be mean-spirited when we comment with the truth. I do try to be supportive if I can tell the person is sincere and trying, but struggling. I know that feeling of being pulled downstream on a binge. I always enjoy your comments around here and it makes me feel good to know you love my blog. Let me know when you are up and running again (blogging and for real) so I don't miss anything. Take care.

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  2. I read a good little piece on this recently that I shared:

    http://www.trainingforwarriors.com/2012/09/the-3-biggest-lies-youve-ever-been-told/

    This author states in point #2 that "knowledge = power" is a lie, and it is, in fact, detrimental to success when someone has knowledge but refuses to do the action. Think of Lyn...more information and books and plans and thinking and experience than anyone but NO RESULTS...why? Because, as the article says, "If you know what to do but never do what you know. it is actually worse that you know it. This leads not to power, but to guilt. You don’t need another diet or nutrition book, you need motivation like this to take action and change your behavior." Someone like her knows EXACTLY what she has to do, but she's still looking for "magic" instead of just doing it.

    And you have nerves of steel, Myra. ;)

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    1. So true. That's why I said to that woman I was talking with that she knew what to do. You should have seen her face when I said that. I think it was an epiphany for her. She was groping around looking for something else to try. I don't know about the nerves of steel. I do appreciate that we can talk openly, have civil discourse, and hopefully help each other get to the bottom of this. The weaker ones need help, the ones who are on the right track need encouragement, and those who have finally gotten their acts together must never forget what it took to finally get the job done. We just have to able to discern the serious ones from the ones who just want everybody to be happy. Be careful out there today.

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  3. I've had tremendous weight loss success, and I lost it healthfully by changing my diet, eating less over all and exercising. I'm filled with a wealth of knowledge about how to do it the "right" way and yet I still find myself on a binge one or two nights in a month. Angry with myself that I just can't seem to stop eating. I am able to get back on track the next day and carry on as if it didn't happen, but I do still wonder just what it is that happens in my brain on those nights... Not sure what the answer is or even where to look, but I just keep plugging along hoping to win the war if I can't win every battle...

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    1. If you have read me for very long you may have read about my experience with binge eating. I did not stop fighting. My binges became less severe and farther apart and now I don't binge anymore. I know how troubling it is and I applaud you for not giving up. It is disturbing to know we are self-sabotaging and still go ahead. I know. You hang in there. Take care.

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  4. I read so many of your posts, and many times I don't comment, because I am not on this dieting journey of yours. However, I am always thinking that these thoughts are applicable to life. If you took out the word "diet" or "weight" and subbed in "life" the idea would still apply. That really is how life works, too. I find myself so impatient with people who cannot see outside their bubble insofar as this election goes. The problem? They are just in a place where they are not ready to hear it. It is as simple and as complicated as that. Kind of like your dieters. Understanding that they are living in a narrower space with a limited view, and they simply cannot allow themselves to see what I see... they are not ready for the bigger truth. Well, I cannot fault them that. I can be disappointed, but to continue to bang MY HEAD into a wall is simply foolish. I have to recognize that they are where they are. Just as you have with your dieters who are on a different path. Patience. And adopt this new philosophy: "None of them get on my nerves." They just aren't there yet. So, they don't affect my peace of mind, my centeredness.

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    1. When I first met you I felt like you were very troubled with the situation we find our country in and lived with a feeling of dread. You mentioned headaches which I hope have subsided. Remember the Serenity Prayer used in Overeaters Anonymous.

      God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

      There's more to it:

      Living one day at a time;
      Enjoying one moment at a time;
      Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
      Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;
      Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will;
      That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen.

      Stay calm and carry on.

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    2. My migraines are chronic. Have been since 2003. However, the severity of my migraines all depends upon my stress. And I do have some control over that. If I let my thoughts rage unharnessed, then my stress goes up. Does that makes sense?

      Thank you for sharing the rest of The Serenity Prayer. All things to help me stay grounded, calm and centered are good things.

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    3. It makes perfect sense. Have you ever looked into bio-feedback? It's kind of a "head 'em off at the pass" method of being proactive. Have you ever learned about the accupressure points? I imagine you have tried everything but these are two things I have heard of that people do to treat themselves. Is there something about 2003 that triggered this? (I understand if it's none of my business). Keep calm and carry on.

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  5. No amount of information will ever sink in if a person is not ready to absorb it. I have seen this in action so many times. And yet, those of us who are in maintenance or have had some success can only keep hoping that we will find someone who actually does want to hear what we have to share. Someone who is ready for the truth.
    If we're careful about how we share and give people the truth when they ask we can hope to be a positive in someone's life.
    The last person who seemed genuine in asking me what I had done is now going to get surgery to lose her weight. I am disappointed and sad for her, but she's not ready to do the hard work.
    I'll still be around when she's actually in a constructive place. It wouldn't help her now to feel judged by me. And because of our prior conversations I know she knows how I feel about this choice.
    Some people only learn things the hard way. I thank God just about daily that I am not one of those people.
    We do all have our own stuff, don't we?

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    1. We sure do each have our own "stuff". We look at people and see their obesity but what we don't see is the reason for it. We assume it's laziness and indifference but there are deeper reasons in so many cases. As I read the blogs of some who do share the past, it's a wonder they aren't more of a mess than they are and then there are those who go through things that would seem equally as bad and get it together to lose their weight. We each have our battles to fight and our demons to conquer. Be careful out there today.

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