Jane has a great post here. She talks about reasons for doing something. Negative reasons are not beneficial to us emotionally.
Motivation is why we do things. It is that reason that is first in our brains and we decide to do or not do something. There is negative reinforcement and positive reinforcement.
Everything we do is first a thought.
We are kind of screwed up when it comes to overeating aren't we? The results of overeating are negative reinforcement yet we repeat the behavior. My dad's negative reinforcement for bad behavior was pretty convincing and something we did not want to revisit. He did not have to discipline us much but we knew he would.
So here we go overeating so that we can revisit the negative reinforcement. The negative reinforcement evidently isn't negative enough or we would catch on. Let's wait for diabetes, a stroke, or a heart attack. Maybe then our eating behavior will change. In America, that is often the scenario - we are diagnosed with diabetes then we watch our diets; we have a stroke and then we careful about what goes into our bodies; we have a heart attack and then we begin to exercise.
Positive reinforcement doesn't trump negative reinforcement in so many of us. The positive reinforcement of smaller sizes, more energy, and better health isn't enough to make us seek those things through what we eat. This has always been something I consider, reconsider, and then consider again. How can we want these things so badly and yet do the very things that keep it from happening?
And look at the excuses we use:
It was the weekend.
There was a family reunion.
The birthday cake was in the break room.
I was angry with someone.
I was depressed.
I was happy.
The wind was out of the north.
Delayed gratification is a big part of the problem here. It seems so long until we are slim and healthy.
Good news. We can be that person right now. We can change our tomorrows by working on today and being slim now. The body will catch up. If we want to keep it off permanent changes will be necessary. If those changes are made today; we just have to be patient and practice being what we want to become. It will be ours and tomorrow morning we will be closer and it will be a new day to practice slim, healthy, and strong. Practice makes perfect doesn't it?
Be careful out there today.