This term was used in one of my readings as I was catching up while waiting in the armored truck. I wrote it down but forgot to note which of the authors it was from - C. S. Lewis, Emmett Fox, or OA. I think it sounds like OA.
It was defined thus: Many people don't want honest answers insofar as honest means unpleasant or disturbing. They want a soft answer that turns away anxiety.
I really don't read too many blogs or follow very many people. I just haven't found too many blogs where there is much I care to read. Some bloggers really have issues and seem to repeat the cycle repeatedly (is that redundant?) I know they seem to be trying and they seem to want to be successful and I hope they are but they keep going back to the same method that hasn't worked yet so why do they keep going back to it? Then there are the ones who keep trying to tweak the system. They are going to weigh every day. They aren't going to weigh for a month or longer. They are going to write down everything they eat. They are going to quit journaling. They are going to have a cheat day - is that just doing what is normal for them for a day and then going right back to the abnormal world of eating right? A cheat day would do me in for sure. It is just too hard to get back with the program. At this point though I will say I have no desire or need for a cheat day. Low carb has cured that. Many people run back to Weight Watchers. While WW has its place I think there are too many carbs allowed. Unlimited fruit can mean too many carbs and then there is that craving, panic to eat which only the strong survive. Along with unlimited fruit is some allowance for bread and then there are optional points which could be used for something of a carb nature. Weight Watchers does provide some boundaries and rules but they are someone else's boundaries and rules. WW might be helpful until a person can get it together emotionally but I really haven't noticed that too much. There are people at goal weight and maintaining with WW so it is working for some. I don't want to take away from the success of these people. If it has gotten you the weight loss you wanted and there is maintenance going on I support you 100%.
So people pour out their hearts in their blog and detail every sinful thing. Don't come down on them too hard or the lower lip will quiver and their fat serenity will be destroyed. They are feeling anxious and guilty about what they have done and want it validated and explained away. Mental gymnastics was a term I also read while catching up. It seems appropriate here.
Back to the addiction thing from a while back. I think if addiction as the situation gives a person a framework from which to operate, then call it an addiction. Addictions have treatments and methods of recovery and addicted people need a program that provides them the safety they need and a way out. Go for it.
Something I am really liking about this 45 lb. loss is wearing a belt. Belts were not worn - ever. Now when I walk up to the glass door at the banks when I turn in deposits I like the way I look. I have a waist. I don't look like a bag of doorknobs anymore. People are calling me skinny and telling me I have lost enough. I have about 25 or 30 lb. to go for crying out loud. I am also loving that my thighs don't rub together anymore. I remember wearing out all jeans there first. No more of that.
Hope you are all doing well.