I am so clever that sometimes I don't understand a single word of what I am saying. Oscar Wilde
We know all the right words to say don't we? We can give advice at the drop of a hat. Do we take our own advice? I am much better at giving advice than taking it.
We tell other people not to worry about one mistake or get back up and start again or drink extra water or get more exercise - is that what we do ourselves? Often we try to make people feel better then mope around ourselves when we aren't perfect.
What if we gathered up all our comments on the blogs of others, analyzed them, and determine if we would be encouraged if we received those same words. When we are in control of ourselves it is easy to give some tough love or point out the shortcomings of someone else. When we are slipping up it is easy to commiserate, understand, and say it's OK - not much damage was done.
Do you formulate your comments based on what you think the person needs right then? I have read the blogs of some very nice people who are truly reaching out. Do you formulate your comments based on how you are doing at the time? I think I find it easier to give advice when I am doing well. I find it easier to commiserate when I am not doing so well.
When we are at the top of our game we need to always remember how quickly we can fall. Those of us in the downward part of the cycle can remember how it was when everything seemed to be going our way. We thought we would never fall again.Guess what? We did. As we become a different person there is that pushback from our old self who will not give up without a fight. We are too easily beaten down by the old self who does not want to die. We run to that person when things get hard rather than looking to the new person we want to be to get the vision again. Can we be comfortable with being that new person? Only time will tell.