***So often time it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key. ~The Eagles, "Already Gone"
Have you read the blogs of people who cannot, will not, don't want to, fear, procrastinate, mess around with, are defeated by, and whatever else comes to mind - breaking the chains of overeating? How do we reach down and find it within ourselves to do this? It is there. It has to be there because eating is a choice. What we eat is a choice. How much we eat is a choice. All these choices that include exercise, drinking water, and getting enough rest are there to be made. I was considering following a blog earlier today and went there to check it out. This person was talking about a large weight gain, described all that was eaten the past weekend, told about the drinking that she had been doing, and also that she had exercised only once in the past week. I didn't follow.
This was not a weight loss blog. It was a "like me and help me rationalize my poor choices" blog. I hope she has fun blogging because that's all the fun there will be without some major attitude shifts. I understand that it is her blog and she can blog as she pleases. I also understand I don't have to follow - that was my choice.
So as not to be holier than thou I will tell you that I have been guilty of all these things but I wasn't presenting myself as someone who was trying to lose weight at the time. I have done self-destructive things that I am not proud of but I was not telling others that I wanted to get to goal weight. Talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words.
I have read a few blogs where people are eating a lot of calories - 2,000 and more - a day and the intention is to exercise at a level that will not only burn off the extra calories but lose weight. I hope it works for them but I doubt it. Each body is different and burns calories at different levels depending on several factors. Making it a math problem misses the point I think. This level of exercising is a perfect scenario for intuitive eating because healing muscles need protein and vitamins and minerals in order to heal. There has to be greater hunger from such exercise and since we already have trouble stopping, it would be very easy for me to justify eating too much because of the exercise. Maybe those people are better at stopping than I am and also better at keeping the compulsion under control.
We take our height, weight, and whatever calories it takes to maintain our chosen goal weight then add the calories we burn through our chosen exercise and we weigh and measure and hope we did the math right because we wouldn't know what and how much to eat otherwise. We need our BMR, our BMI, our body temperature, and the shoe size of our maternal grandmother to get this right. (I made those last two up)
I know for many, the structure is necessary for a time. We have failed so many times that we don't trust ourselves to do the right thing. We need the boundaries set for us because we just can't do it yet. I have been there and I understand it. I hope that as we learn about real food and healthy living all this won't be necessary. Can't we just get hungry and see what's in the fridge or the cupboard? The chains will have been broken and we will be free to eat and live within our own boundaries, boundaries that work for us, boundaries that work without chains. If only foods that support health are there, what's the problem? If there is a bowl of fruit in the kitchen in plain sight that's a good choice. If there are vegetables ready to go in the fridge and maybe some hard boiled eggs - mission accomplished. Yesterday for supper I had a hand full of almonds, a hard boiled egg, and an orange.