Weight loss support with a spiritual element. I will keep you posted on my journey in the hopes that you will join me in becoming the person God wants you to be. Don't worry about being religious. Come as you are.




Sunday, July 31, 2011

She's Baaaaack!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fsG4jLBmrs&feature=player_embedded

I think this is an important speech for everyone to listen to and share.

Anyway - I thought I was going to have to work for two weeks out of Cincinnati but it turns out I don't have to go back next week - YAY!

It was interesting on the first day the young man who trained me went in while I was filling up the gas tank of the smart car we were driving (you know, the hot wheels car) to get some breakfast. He came out with a sweet roll and a mountain dew. Later he went in to a convenience store and came out with an orange soda - said he needed to keep hydrated. It's always hard to know whether to go into lecture mode when he would be a captive audience. He's pretty young and I know nutrition information is everywhere. Why do we ignore all the information available to us and consume things that we have to know are not good for us? We all have done it and still do it and most of us are old enough to know better. We usually wait until after tragedy strikes and then we eat right.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

A Stitch in Time

"One of the true tests of leadership is the ability to recognize a problem before it becomes an emergency."
-Arnold H. Glasgow

Recognizing a problem before it becomes an emergency - hmmmm - how many times have we allowed ourselves to be lead on into a problem we knew was going to be difficult to handle?

Monday, July 25, 2011

STS Report

I weighed 211.5 this morning - a loss of .5 which equals out last week's gain of .5.

I won't be blogging for a while. For the next two weeks I will be covering for people on vacation, etc. I put in 11.5 hours today because it is 1.5 hours each way to work - then I drive an ATM route so when I get home I will be tired and the flowers, vegetables, etc., will need water.

My son said he was at the gym and read a girl's shirt that said, "Sweat is my fat crying". Thought you would enjoy that. Keep up that exercising and make your fat cry.

Begin Again



Whatever you want in life, start today.
Not tomorrow - today.
Let it be a small beginning - a tiny beginning.
Your happiness depends on starting today - every day.

Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Inspirational Author and Speaker

We often think of our weight loss goals when we read things like this. Maybe we let our lives revolve around this too much?


Each day can be one where we have many things we want out of life. Better relationships? Could you leave encouraging notes somewhere where people in your family will find them and can read them at work or at school maybe? 


Have you been putting off beginning an exercise program? Could you just walk around the block or up and down the road one time as a start? Do you have a piece of exercise equipment that you could use for maybe 15 minutes?


A friend of mine said for Christmas each year she buys a calendar for each of her three daughters. On that calendar she writes in the birthdays of everyone in the family, anniversaries, etc., and gives one to each daughter. There are printable calendar pages on the internet. I am going to do that too and add a directory of addresses and email addresses. This will be an inexpensive Christmas gift that will mean a lot, be kept for future reference, and cost very little. I gave a sheet to be filled out for each household in the family with this information to be filled in for me. I think on the Wal-Mart site pages with family pictures can be done but am not sure. These would be great gifts for family members that live far away.


I guess we have to decide what we want in life before we can begin it. It has to be more specific than things like "be happy" or "be rich".  Scroll down - my pasting didn't work like I wanted and I couldn't delete the blank space :-(



A Donkey's Tale
One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quietened down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.

2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happen.

3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Metabolism

http://www.burnthefat.com/slow-metabolism-problems.html

This is a very good article full of information - some of it I was aware of and some of it I was not. We love to blame some of our weight problems on a slow metabolism don't we? This article debunks a lot of that argument. Darn!

Have you ever had your thyroid checked. Problems are pretty common and this gland does affect metabolism. I started taking kelp because my TSH (thyroid stimulating hormone) was low. I think that is hypothyroidism not hyperthyroidism - any nurses out there? Please comment with the explanation of the two conditions.

Saturday, July 23, 2011

Best Time of Day to Exercise

http://www.marksdailyapple.com/what-is-the-best-time-of-day-to-exercise/#more-22276

Interesting information but as he said at the beginning - Just Do It!

I really don't pay any attention to the time of day. I take classes so I go when the class is offered. Can it really make that much difference?

Why we exercise and how we keep ourselves motivated is much more important. I do think that people start out gangbusters sometimes and then get burned out and quit many times. I know it seems running is the elite thing to do - the ultimate. If you run, don't be offended - what I am saying is that I think some take up running for the wrong reasons. It is not realistic for many of us. I read of many who injure themselves and I read of many who keep on even though they are in pain. What's up with that?

Friday, July 22, 2011

Carbs or Fats for Fuel?

http://www.marksdailyapple.com/a-metabolic-paradigm-shift-fat-carbs-human-body-metabolism/#comment-751656

This was very, very interesting. According to this guy we don't need nearly the carbs we thought we did.

I have been keeping my carbs low and have noticed the heat does not bother me like it used to - in fact, nothing like it used to. There are foods that create inflammation in the body and guess what - sugar is about the main one.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Personality/Obesity

http://psychcentral.com/news/2011/07/19/body-weight-linked-to-personality/27871.html

Interesting reading. I can see myself in some of the personality traits - how about you?

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Leadership

"You get the best efforts from others not by lighting a fire beneath them, but by building a fire within."
-Bob Nelson

I used to give my students an example of an inner-directed person and an other-directed person. I asked them that if I handed out a test and left the room how many would cheat? How many would just take the test as they always do whether I was there or not? I told them that the other directed ones would cheat because they required something outside themselves (me, the teacher) to make them do the right thing. The inner directed ones lived based on their core set of values and that was their guiding principle to do the right thing. There can be unpleasant consequences for the other directed ones and that is what they think of when deciding whether or not to cheat. There was no guiding principle of right vs. wrong. The inner directed ones have already decided what is right and wrong themselves; they didn't need me to watch them.


When we cheat on our food plan or our exercise regimen is it because the inner core of a personal value is weak or missing? There really is no one in authority over us. Were we raised in an atmosphere of negative consequences from parents and authority figures? Was there lots of criticism and pointing out of failures and shortcomings? Do we now require supervision, even though we are adults, to do the next right thing? We binge when we are alone. We try to open cabinet doors in the kitchen so no one can hear. We try to unwrap things or open things quietly. We are being other directed.


What if there was a fire within? What if there was that conviction, that inner us that wants to live in a slim and healthy body? So what if it takes 6 months, 1 year, 5 years - so what? If we all start today being inner directed in 6 months what might you and I have accomplished? But let's just look at the rest of today. Our 6 months, 1 year, 5 years can start right now. Go get a tall glass of cool, sweet water and let's bless ourselves with staying in the now. This can be the start of a fire that will burn and spread and take us to where we want to be. This fire won't go out because life gets tough or temptation presents itself - we are inner directed now and can come back to that inner fire that will not be quenched.

Monday, July 18, 2011

STS Week 6

I weighed 212 this morning which is a hold. I am really stuck but the scale should move soon. I will be back to my regular schedule this week and can keep track better and exercise as I was. I really think I have been within my calorie range and the carbs but who knows - when we don't write things down sometimes we don't realize that we aren't doing everything right so here's to another week!! Hope all of you are doing well.

Writing Diet - Notes

Here are my highlights from the Prologue and Chapter One of this book.

To my seasoned eye, weight loss is a frequent by-product of creative recovery. Overeating blocks our creativity. The flip side is also true:  we can use creativity to block our overeating.

Believe it or not, writing is a weight-loss tool--overlooked, underused, and extremely powerful.

What if words can be consumed instead of calories?

Everyone knows that we overeat because something is eating us. What if that question got asked directly, routinely, every time we ate? What if, struck by a Snack Attack, I said to myself, "What's eating me that I have a sudden craving to eat:" What if I took a moment and jotted down my feelings? What if I gave myself food for thought instead of food itself? Since we can use food to block feelings, why can't we use words to block food? Calories, after all, are units of energy, and so are words.

In the twenty-five years I have taught creative unblocking, one of the tools I routinely teach is daily morning writing.

Students often come to me pudgy and depressed. I tell them to write. A steady diet of self-reflection soon regulates their overeating. Pounds begin to drop away. As the Morning Pages work to metabolize their lives, they no longer overeat to block their difficult feelings.

Laura was the kind of woman of whom it was routinely said, "It's a shame she's so heavy. She has such a pretty face."

The survivor of a violent childhood home, Laura had learned early to block her feelings with food. Writing her daily Morning Pages, she began to face her turbulent feelings. As she did, the urge to block her emotions with food began to melt away.

"My Morning Pages were gripe sessions where I saw and worked out my grudges: Once she found out what was eating her, she no longer needed to overeat.

When a Snack Attack hits, you can take yourself to the page instead of to the refrigerator. When you do, your creativity will respond with an increased flow of insights and ideas.

"It was right on the tip of my tongue," we often say when an idea eludes us. What we don't realize is that ideas often do live right on the tip of our tongue--and that we drown those ideas when we overeat.

Our emotions become known to us.

In this book, we are specifically focusing on food as a blocking device--and on writing as a means to weight control.

What I can promise you is increased clarity, increased energy, increased productivity. As you write, you will lose weight and gain creativity.

As you lose weight, you will stop waiting for the magic wand that will transform your life. Instead, you will realize that the magic wand is actually a pen and tha, pen in hand, you can transform your own life.

You literally hunger for a more satisfying life.

Chapter 1 - The First Tool:  Morning Pages

You will write three pages every morning, a practice that I call Morning Pages. They are to be strictly stream of consciousness, no "high art" here.

Any style at all will do. So fret, gripe, worry, scold--or celebrate.

Your job is simply to get down on the page whatever it is you are.

What you are doing with your pages is something that in 12-step parlance is called "getting current." You are out to catch up on yourself, to pinpoint precisely what you are feeling and thinking.

Morning Pages galvanize our days. They prioritize them as well. Writing Morning Pages, we begin tgo see that each day is made up of myriad "choice points" and that we have a great deal of freedom to choose exactly how we will live.

Too often we have touched our feelings and recoiled as from a hot stove. We have been angry and felt our anger was taboo. We have been sad and turned to some mindless television to ignore it. We have even turned to food when we felt joy. Any intense emotion can trigger a Snack Attack.

Writing Morning Pages, our mindless lives are behind us.

"The junk food I am eating leaves me hungover," we might write.

Morning Pages sweep the house of our consciousness.

A day at a time, a room at a time, we remake our environment. Now our apartment looks like someone with self-worth lives there. And someone with self-worth is struggling to be born.

Once we target a problem area, the pages are quick to suggest solutions. We are not trapped, pages remind us. We always have choices. Sometimes those choices are difficult. We may hate our job but love our salary. Pages encourage us to take accurate stock of our situation. Perhaps, for right now, the job is worth all its aggravation. We can choose to leave or we can choose to stay. Pages help us to sort our options.

I have come to think of Morning Pages as an effective form of meditation--especially for hyperactive Westerners. Most of us have a hard time with conventional meditation. It is very difficult for us to sit calmly for twenty minutes.

At first on the page and then in our lives, we begin to get things straight.

"My extra pounds were a barricade I placed between me and my freedom," he realized.

Morning pages point us in the direction of our growth.

Morning Pages teach us what we like--and what we don't like. A line at a time, they move us closer to our authentic selves. In Morning Pages we stop hiding. We come out into the open--at least on the page. "I'd really like to try. . ." we write--and then we try it. Dreams long deferred move, step by step, into reality. We discover that as we move our hand across the page, a Higher Hand moves across the surface of our lives. For many of us, pages are a spiritual experience as we make contact with a Power Greater Than Ourselves.

"The pages became for me a source of companionship and strength. I began to think of them as my personal spiritual practice. They kept me on track and gave me an even keel."

For many of us, an even keel is elusive. We long for stability but we do not know how to find it. Pages may be the first effective form of mentoring that we encounter.

"I think I learned my lesson," Alan now says. "I need the honesty and self-reflection that Morning Pages afford me. I am not a spiritual man, but I seem to be living now along more spiritual lines. I find I like it."

From the front of the classroom, the transformation that Morning Pages causes is almost startling. Even after two and half decades as a teacher, I am still struck with wonder as people seem to change right before my eyes. I call the process "spiritual chiropractic" as changes are made in exactly the direction that they are needed Overeaters curb their binges. Undereaters begin to eat more regularly. From the front of the room, the increased health is readily evident. And "all" they are doing is writing.

Much to their surprise, people et happy when they write.

Emotions long avoided become familiar. Perceptions become clearer. Boundaries begin to fall in place.

Morning Pages are a route to happiness. For many people that happiness is expressed as weight loss.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Fat Kids/Foster Care?

http://news.yahoo.com/state-obese-kids-parents-us-doctors-022057756.html

Is this the approach we want to take? Another example of the nanny state mentality. We can't save them all and will come out of these situations more quickly if the natural progression of things is allowed to take place. For some reason people have to hit bottom before coming to their senses. We delay/prevent that when others intervene in what should be either our handling the situation or the consequences of it.  It's the same with our eating/weight management don't you think? I read someone's blog where she said a full blown binge snaps her back to her senses. We fight, delay, procrastinate, do anything we can think of sometimes and it happens anyway.

Free markets work. This will provide the incentive to be self-reliant and self-controlled. As I blogged a few days ago, insurance rates will soon be partially based on BMI - I think that is fair. People who smoke and are too heavy are a greater insurance risk. Will that encourage us to make wiser choices if it affects insurance rates? Instead of the government taking over our lives, shouldn't WE take them over?

Saturday, July 16, 2011

AWOL

I have been canning green beans, pulling weeds, planting flowers (perennials are on sale now you know), and covering for a vacation so my part-time job has been a 300 mile route and 9 hours each day. The company car's air conditioning just barely works and Monday and Tuesday were ovens in that car. I can't get the key out of the ignition and the power steering is gone so it's like driving a log wagon. I have been paying attention to what I eat but not being on my plan as well as I was. I take things with me and get the water in for the most part but usually end up with fast food once a day. Arby's roast beef is one thing I do. Wendy's has some killer salads but do you know how hard it is to eat a salad while driving?  --not to mention the safety issues. I can't just stop and eat because I am supposed to be done by 3 p.m. and I can just barely do it in 9 hours leaving my house at 6:30 a.m. and I was getting home at 3:30 p.m. Next week will be better. I may just have to take my lumps at this week's weigh in for the STS Challenge. Hope all of you are doing well.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Started a New Book

The Writing Diet by Julia Cameron

This book is divided into two parts. The first part is called THE TOOLS - here are the topics:

The First Tool:  Morning Pages
The Second Tool:  The Journal
The Third Tool:  Walking
The Fourth Tool:  The Four Questions
The Fifth Tool:  Culinary Artist Dates
The Sixth Tool:  HALT
The Seventh Tool:  The Body Buddy

Part Two is called SITUATIONS AND SOLUTIONS - here are the topics

What is Sensible Eating Anyhow?
The Snack Attack
The First Bite:  Trigger Foods
Special Occasions
The Food Hangover
Identifying Your Eating Pattern
Tabloid Thin
Scaling the Scale
Relapse
Snack Smart
Nigh Eating
Food as Sedative
Food as High
A Calorie Is a Calorie
Exercise
H2O
Fresh Foods
Sex
Breakfast
Refrigerator
Good Genes
Pandora's Box
The Morning After
The Magic Wand
Fit as a Fiddle
One Day at a Time
Eating to Please
Lingerie
Trauma
Clothes
Mirrors
Dessert
The Grace of God
Affirmations
Live and Let Live
Clean Eating Equals Clean Living
Do Something Else

Epilogue:  Staying the Distance

If you want to get started, each morning you are to write three pages - freeform, whatever comes to mind, whatever is on your mind, whatever is bothering you, your dreams - whatever - just write three pages. I will go over the beginning of the book next time.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Government Mandated Calorie Counts

http://www.theblaze.com/stories/experts-say-govt-mandated-calorie-counts-dont-change-eating-habits/

The nanny state doesn't work and will not work. Government mandates cannot do for us what we should do for ourselves if we are able-bodied without creating a nation of fools. Eating behavior will not change with more government oversight of things that people should do personally. People must be accountable for what they do but it's hard to watch when loved ones get sick of their own doing. How many of us are on blood pressure medicine and have been told it may not be necessary if we lost weight? I had a diabetic uncle who would eat sweets and just take more insulin. My brother was taking the insulin pill and was told if he lost some weight, it may not be necessary to take the pill. He did it and doesn't have to take the pill anymore. I had an aunt with severe breathing problems who was on oxygen. She had always been a heavy smoker and would take off all her oxygen and smoke. This is such a hard topic because we all want to alleviate suffering. Who makes the decision if the patient cannot? When do we let nature take its course? I know there are living wills. Laws are changing. Health care will change. The system has to be overhauled. Insurance rates at some companies are based on a person's general health which would include the BMI. One of my neighbors was out walking and she told me that her employer was going to base the contributions to health insurance based on their BMI. It's coming folks.

However, do we want the government deciding if someone is worth the expense of a pacemaker, for example? If a person is 80 years old, do you think the government could determine that the person was too old and the expense wasn't justified? Someone who is 80 years old could be deemed as not contributing to society anymore even though that person had spent his/her life productively up to being elderly.  These are tough questions. I think about them a lot.

I have heard the comment that we are more humane to our animals than we are to the sick and feeble. On a practical level, it's something to think about. If we believe in spirit and being made in the image of God how can we justify euthanasia? Man cannot be trusted with these kinds of decisions I think. I know some will seem to needlessly suffer but as a culture do we want to start eliminating those who cannot be productive? Who decides who is productive and contributing? I think about this a lot too. I think of my Mom who is 84 and the elderly ones in my family who meant so much to me as I grew up.

We all want things handed to us and will take it if it's available. Without some wisdom we can become dependent on institutions, the government, and other people. Somebody is paying for all these government programs and mandates. It's the taxpayers. We don't need more taxes as our government would have us believe; we need more taxpayers. All the entitlements are going to have to be overhauled. There are many, many people who pay no income taxes at all. Enough of that.

We have to be responsible for ourselves. This includes our eating behavior. I hope you watched that video from a couple of days ago. It is amazing. You will learn so much. Parents are dropping the ball. I include myself. I could have been more vigilant than I was. I have a friend who put Coca-Cola in her baby's bottle. Kool Aid and Fruit Juices are like drinking sugar. Did you know that some children become anemic because they are given these things in their bottles and then this destroys their appetite so they don't eat well? What happened to drinking water?

http://www.newsmaxhealth.com/health_stories/Calorie_Counts_Diners/2011/07/08/397292.html

Here's another article about calorie labeling. How about you? Do you feel like this is a tactic for a less obese America or is it more government intervention where they don't belong? Don't get me started on the light bulb thing.  :-)
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Monday, July 11, 2011

STS - Week 5

Got on the scales this morning expecting a good loss and whoa - 212 - up .5 lb! I am thinking what the reason could be but can't think of anything. Just falling a little short on the water a couple of days wouldn't do it. There is no bloat. I was thinking the slacks I wore to Church yesterday are too big to wear again. My legs aren't rubbing together like they used to and THIS - NOT FAIR.

But - life will go on, the sun will still come up tomorrow, there are non-scale victories so what am I complaining about?

Hope everyone else's scale was kinder than mine. I even weighed twice because I couldn't believe it. Don't some people give their scales a name? I am going to have to think up a good one.

What Do You Have?


I have a purpose – growing;
I have a goal – glowing.

I have a hobby – giving;
I have a song – living.

I have a mission – reaching;
I have a love – teaching.

I have a calling – caring;
I have a joy – sharing.

William Arthur Ward, 1921-1994
American Author and Poet
FROM: June/July Reader's Digest
Dumb Diets:

Sleeping Beauty Diet - If you aren't awake, you can't eat, right? Advocates sedate themselves and sleep for days.

The Tapeworm Diet - Take one orally, or, according to tapewormdiet.net, 'travel to a part of the world where beef tapeworms are endemic' and infect yourself that way.

The Cotton Ball Diet - Begin each meal with an appetizer of cotton balls. The balls will fill you up so that you won't want to eat as much. 

The Baby Food Diet- Babies weigh next to nothing, so it makes sense to duplicate their diet, right? In this case, replace your meals with pureed peas, fruit, carrots, chicken, whatever. Just make sure it comes in those little jars.

Fletcherizing Horace - "The Great Masticator" Fletcher preached chewing each mouthful exactly 32 times until the food was "purified" and then spitting out what remained. This way you get the nutrients with fewer calories.

Sources: listverse.com,dietsinreview.com, everydayhealth.com

The sad thing is, people really do try these things. I have heard of models doing the tapeworm thing. There was a time when I would have considered it to tell you the truth. I don't think I would have done it but losing weight with no effort on my part would have certainly been appealing.

Reading these options makes clear what desperate people will do. The weight loss industry preys on these people. How many pieces of exercise equipment are available I wonder. I have read and heard that we don't need any machines or weights - just our own body weight. The best exercises were push ups, pull ups, planks, lunges, sit-ups, and squats - none of which require any extra equipment. I do understand that people with very much weight to lose have no hope for some of these. Rejecting 300 has just blogged about how she worked up to doing push-ups if you want to read her. There's a link at the right.

Walking just requires a good pair of shoes. I know I have been in the mindset where spending money on something meant it would work for me. I have found group classes work best for me. I do step aerobics and Jazzercise - both do stretching and work with weights as well as cardio. 


Hope you have found what works for you.

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Pick Our Battles

Are there battles that you always lose? There are battles I always lose but I will still pick a fight thinking I will win this time.

I love a sweet, red wine called Oliver Soft Red. I will get a bottle and start out pretty good. I will just have a small glass right before bed. If I do that too early, then after a couple of days, I will have two small glasses. After a time I use a bigger glass. Then I will drink the whole bottle (about 2 1/2 glasses) which then makes me want to eat (which I do). I am not picking that fight anymore. I have always been thankful my problem was with eating and not with drinking because I could be an alcoholic with my personality. I know this.

Then there is the baking. I am a pretty decent cook. I have a killer pie crust recipe. If I bake something, it's not long until I am in it. At first I have a small piece and am so proud of myself. Then I find myself in the kitchen straightening up the edges (I have been told there are no calories in that part), then I am eating right out of the pan, and then I make myself sick. I always lose that battle as well. I don't bake unless I am taking it somewhere. My husband likes sweets so I buy things for him - day old doughnuts at the grocery, chocolates of various kinds - I can stay out of those things but if I bake it I'll be into it. I know this.

I am going to pick my battles now. Why pick a fight I know I will lose? What battles do you always lose?

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Interesting Information

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBnniua6-oM&feature=player_embedded#at=225

This is 1 1/2 hours long but well worth watching. If you can't watch it all at once remember where the counter was and go back to watch more occasionally when you get time. I got this from Dawn at I Will Lay Down My Idols - the Dr. Sharma's Obesity Notes link. I went to You Tube but could only watch the first 1/2 hour - maybe the problem was on my end but everyone should watch this. You will be amazed at the information.

High fructose corn syrup really is the sweat of satan.

Friday, July 8, 2011

Something Brilliant is Brewing: Important things

Something Brilliant is Brewing: Important things

Leslie has posted something we all should read. We can apply the drinking scenarios to eating. Leslie has come a long way. Why not go over and give her some encouragement?

Got a Bee Sting?

 From OA Recovery Meditations

"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free." Catherine Ponder

:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~

I once had a situation in which someone I was acquainted with said unkind things about my weight and verbally attacked my spouse in front of my daughter. I worried and revisited the situation over and over for many years until the anger turned to resentment and became a major, entrenched grudge. Because so many of my eating issues stem from emotional ones, this would drive me to eat in an effort to dull, numb and forget my anger. That didn't work. The eating didn't stop that anger from turning into resentment.

When I would complain about this situation to a friend, she told me that I had to stop allowing that person to
"rent space in my mind." I came to realize that I had allowed -- and even nurtured -- a negative, energetic link
to that person and situation. I couldn't let go of resentment until I was willing to take the needed steps in program and to forgive. Forgiving doesn't mean I didn't learn anything from the situation or that I have forgotten the unkind words. But I learned that I needed to be more cautious in my dealings with this type of individual. I learned I can't surround myself with people who are overly negative and who say poisonous
things without accepting any accountability for their actions. I have learned that I can be accountable for my
choices and actions. I no longer have to allow myself to be bound by an emotional link to a painful situation.

ONE DAY AT A TIME . . .

I will ask my Higher Power to help me to learn to forgive and forget. With the help of my Higher Power, I will let go of unnecessary baggage that causes resentment.

I read a quote once that said "Holding a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee". Guess who feels the worst - the one holding the grudge or the one whom that grudge is against?  Are we willing to give someone else that kind of control over our lives? How can we stop holding that grudge, thinking about getting even, or hoping that person gets what he/she deserves? If we don't accept the hate, don't they have to keep it?

We forgive them. Now that's not to say it's OK; it is to say that you will not be a part of their misery. Abraham Lincoln said that the best way to rid oneself of an enemy is to make him/her a friend. That's a tall order in some cases. I have read of some of the women out there in the middle of ugly divorces. There are kids so there will always be that connection that cannot be broken. I have read of some of the difficult relationships with parents and siblings. It's hard to deal with - especially when some person is saying "forgive" and even "forgive and forget". I will top it off by telling you to pray for that person. Now that's going a little too far. Try it. It will soften you and if the prayer is answered, it will change the situation. Don't pray just once, pray daily. You may just heal a bee sting.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Just a Thought

"Years from now God's judgment will be poured out on Casey Anthony, or Christ will bear it for her."

Just like the rest of us.

From my sister's blog - jensgyrations.blogspot.com

Dust if you Must

Remember ... a layer of dust protects the wood beneath  it.
 

A house becomes a home when you can write 'I love you' on the furniture .  

I used to spend at least 8 hours every weekend making sure things were just perfect - 'in case someone came over'.  Finally I realized one day that no-one came over; they were all out living life and having fun!
  

NOW, when people visit, I don't have to explain the 'condition' of my home. They are more interested in hearing about the things I've been doing while I was away living life and having fun.  If you  haven't figured this out yet, please heed this advice. 


Life is short. Enjoy it!   

Dust if you must  ........ but wouldn't it be better to paint a picture or write a letter, bake cookies or a cake and lick the spoon or plant a  seed,  ponder the difference between want and need? 


Dust if you must, but there's not much time . . . ..   with wine to drink, rivers to swim and mountains to climb,  music to hear and books to read, friends to  cherish and life to lead.   


Dust if you must, but the world's out there with the sun in your  eyes,  the wind in your hair, a flutter of snow, a shower of rain.   This day will not come around again.  

  
Dust if you must,  but bear in mind,  old age will come and it's not kind....And when you go - and go you must - you, yourself will make more dust!  

 
Share this with some wonderful people in your life. I JUST DID.


It's not what you gather,  but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived. 



This is a tongue in cheek way to tell all of us to lighten up when it comes to mundane things. Of course there is a certain amount of housework that has to be done but it will wait until we are done with the things that really matter.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Are We Too Judgmental?


A young couple moves into a new neighborhood.
The next morning while they are eating breakfast, 

The young woman sees her neighbor hanging the wash outside.
"That laundry is not very clean", she said.
"She doesn't know how to wash correctly. 
Perhaps she needs better laundry soap."

Her husband looked on, but remained silent.
Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, 
The young woman would make the same comments.

About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a
Nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband:

"Look, she has learned how to wash correctly.
I wonder who taught her this."

The husband said, "I got up early this morning and
Cleaned our windows."

And so it is with life. What we see when watching others
depends on the purity of the window through which we look.


Have you ever found yourself judging someone else for something you do yourself? I have. This need to be better than others is one characteristic of many overeaters (we want it for ourselves; we don't want anyone else to have it). When getting food at a reunion or party or something, do we look over what's available and take the biggest, the gooiest, the nicest? I used to. 
Remember that commercial where two little boys were arguing over dividing a sandwich? The mom let one cut the sandwich and the other got to choose his half first. Wisdom.

What if we took enough food to get by on rather than being sure we got our share? our money's worth?  Have we learned to put others first yet?

We filter our view of others and the world in general through our "windows" - we find ourselves commenting on the shortcomings (our perceived ones) of others for things we do ourselves.

How many times have I commented on someone who has regained weight? (At least I am not THAT big). What about how someone raises their children? (my kids would never do that). Do we comment on how others drive, how others eat, how others manage money, their morals/ethics, on and on. Are we quick to give advice on things when we don't take that advice ourselves (do as I say, not as I do). Have we ever cheated on our taxes? Do we ever drive too fast? Text or make/answer phone calls while driving?


Just how clean are our windows?


Becoming humble is a formidable task. When we have the peacefulness to let others speak without giving our opinions unless asked for them, we will have gone a long way toward self-control. 


I have been at conferences where there were handouts at the end of a session. It's interesting to watch how people will crowd and push in front of others to get whatever is available. 


Anyway - thinking and typing in a somewhat freeform manner with this one. Hope all of you had a wonderful holiday and are experiencing success. I did notice at Deb's that 33 have now posted their progress so there aren't as many dropouts as I had feared (my windows need washing perhaps?)

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Goals

An excerpt from
Goals
by Gary Ryan Blair

The odds that you'll succeed without taking action are about the same as winning the lottery without buying a ticket!

For those times when you feel trapped, stressed, or in a prison of your own making, take purposeful action. It's your Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card.

In real estate, it's location, location, location. In goal-setting, it's action, action, action.

You can't just stick out your thumb and hitchhike your way to success, you've got to roll up your sleeves and do the work that needs to be done.

Be seduced by the attractiveness of your goal. Inaction leads to impotence. Taking purposeful action immunizes you from "Goal Parkinson's," a long, slow goodbye to your dreams, talents and destiny.

A quality life is accomplished when thoughtful attention, goal setting, and purposeful action click into position. Whether your dream is to be or not to be is largely dependent upon your actions.

The cure for the ills of procrastination is a heavy prescription of action, until the day arrives when your dreams and their achievement are one in the same. When that day arrives, dream bigger dreams and take more action.

A good plan will almost always get you in the door, but it is action that seals the deal. So you want a guarantee? Well here it is: Without purposeful action, the only guarantee is failure and mediocrity!

Don't tiptoe toward your goal, walk confidently before it waltzes off into the arms of neglect. Dreams become reality through one simple mode of transportation: purposeful action.

The continuation of bad habits, such as procrastination and poor follow through, is like having an addiction to weapons of mass destruction.

It is tragically un-hip to procrastinate. Unfortunately, the vast majority of people never display their true potential; it never has an opening night...never makes a debut.

The bulk of potential resides deep within each individual just waiting to come out, and it stays there because people are afraid. The mechanics of achieving a goal makes it easy for people to relate to the necessity of action. But when action is not purposeful, it can be an Achilles heel.

When we operate without planning, we remain forever scattered and confused. You're always busy, but not much gets accomplished. Without a deeper appreciation and application of planning the most you can expect is marginal improvement.

Intimidate your fears through purposeful goal-directed activity. Since when is being the underdog any reason for not pursuing your dreams? Remember, it's not the size of the dog in the fight...it's the size of the fight in the dog!

Don't just pursue your goal...inhabit it. Wear it, act it, live it, taste it! Get committed - take action. Life is not a scratch-and-sniff test!

When you set a goal, there's a distance between your current reality and desired reality. Procrastination increases the distance and minimizes the chances of achievement. Procrastination is the mother of regret. It postpones the future, aborts liftoff at the last minute.

Unless you take action to achieve your goals, life becomes a constant series of postponements, cancellations, and missed opportunities.

You will never attain your goals simply by thinking and talking about them. You must take action as all success comes down to execution.

From:  Simple Truths

I like the hitchhiking analogy. Someone who hitchhikes will get in the car with anyone. This hitchhiker is not particular. We have been trying to hitchhike for years. Trying this or that without anything long-term happening. We get off that ride and hitchhike again. It becomes a series of short trips. Let's make the long trip this time clear to our destination. I noticed only 28 left when I last checked who posted results in the challenge. As I recall, didn't we start out with about 48? I am sure there were some good reasons - only those people know for sure. Are there some who are disappointed in themselves again? Hopefully they will keep trying until things finally click.

Monday, July 4, 2011

STS Challenge - Week 4

My weight was 211.5 this morning. That's a 2 lb. loss so I am going in the right direction again. My total loss is now 11.5 pounds so my 20 lb. goal is still within reach. I have been reaching my goals each day on a consistent basis and am happy with my progress. I will continue with my goals:

10 glasses of water daily
Exercise 3 - 5 times per week
50 - 75 carbs per day
Under 1500 calories per day

I don't set a weekly weight loss goal because that sets me up for disappointment. I do have a total weight loss goal that is reasonable and doable so that's my plan.

Thanks to all for the support and encouragement; I'm trying to return the favor. Some are doing so well. Some are struggling. Let's get mad and do this right. Let's not fail yet again. I am trying so hard to stay in control and patient. Chris's post on patience has been such a help - thanks again Chris. When I start thinking about how long it's going to take I repeat "patience" to myself. It helps.

http://undercoverdieting.blogspot.com/2011/06/motivation.html

http://blubberditch.blogspot.com/2011/07/day-82.html - I found it through Ms. Scooter Butt.

This is an encouraging video. These videos always make me feel like I can do it too (and I can). This guy also has a blog but it is in German but some is in English so enjoy!

Our Independence Day

We are having a cookout today at my sister-in-law's house. I am always in charge of baked beans - I can make them in my sleep. I will also take some low-carb things. Meat off the grill is always OK - it's no big deal if I don't have a bun. I stab it with a fork and chomp away.

Wednesday evening I will be helping with the meal for the participants on our Garden Tour that I help arrange. I will be making jello pretzel salad, baked spaghetti, sun tea, and the bread for my part. There will be 6 couples there and the lady and myself who are in charge of the tour and the meal. The money goes for the restoration and maintenance of an historic building here in town - The Mansion House Inn & Tavern. It used to be a stagecoach stop and the old log cabin courthouse along with a railroad shanty is on the property.
 I will probably just eat before I go.

Here's the link for you to see some pictures I took for advertising:

http://www.gowaynecounty.com/blog/2011-home-and-garden-tour-next-weekend/

Hope your Independence Day is truly great. Let's remember the men and women who are away from their families today in a foreign country defending freedom. My quilt group just took one of our Quilts of Valor to the funeral home for a 20-year old Marine killed in Afghanistan.

America:  The land of the free because of the brave.

I also saw a bumper sticker that read:  If you can read this, thank a teacher; if you can read it in English, thank a soldier.

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Your ETA

What is your estimated time of arrival? I take the weight I have yet to lose and do all kinds of math with it. If I have 60 pounds to lose I mentally figure about 6 months should do it. In 6 months it will be Christmas. What a great time to be slim and at my goal weight. I usually set myself up for failure when I do things like that because I can't remember when I have actually lost at the rate of 10 lb. per month. It's pretty realistic. Of course we all know we lose faster at the beginning than at the end as we approach our goal weight.

I even keep track of how far away I am from the highest I have ever been. I always have in mind the biggest size I ever wore. It's always hanging over me that I could very easily be there again. This is my third time at losing this weight; I want it to be the last. I don't kid myself that I definitely will get the weight completely off this time. The control is so fragile and slips can become more and more prevalent until I am completely off plan, not losing or even gaining, and then I quit in disgust (again). I'm more calm about it this time. I ate just one fun size Snickers at my Mom's today. I don't think I have ever done that unless it was the last one. It wasn't a big deal and I didn't come home and eat for the rest of the day because I had blown it and would begin again with my perfectionist self tomorrow. If you read my book report earlier, Jeanette Fulda talked about being on probation for the rest of her life. She also pointed out there was no fat vaccine.

Maybe there's hope this time. The blogging helps - both what I write and what I read from others. It's an extra tool; heaven knows we can use all the help we can get.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Who Holds the Key?

Our remedies oft in ourselves do lie,
Which we ascribe to Heaven.

     -William Shakespeare, English playwright - All's Well That Ends Well

I wonder if we really believe or if we want a vending machine in the sky. Do we just want God in our lives when we need something? When there is illness? When there has been a tragedy? Have you ever heard the saying that there aren't any atheists in foxholes? Many who do not believe have not gotten past talking snakes and boats full of animals. Their vision of God is an old man, a killjoy, waiting to zap unsuspecting sinners. Isn't that why Jesus spoke in parables? Those who didn't have the heart for it didn't understand. The history of the Jewish people and Israel speaks volumes.

God does what we cannot do; He strengthens us to do what WE can do for ourselves. We have the remedy within ourselves but it would be a lot easier if God would just zap us and then no worries. How much is our witness hurt by lack of success? Many people in the Scriptures failed many times before they got it right. David in the Old Testament. Peter in the New Testament. Imagine how unbelievers were affected by their failures.

On a more secular note Benjamin Spock, American Pediatrician said "Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do." I would say that we know all we need to know in order to get this weight off. If knowledge was all it took, we would all be slim. So what's missing when we aren't successful? If knowledge equals power (I read that somewhere) shouldn't we be on the right track big time?

Overeaters Anonymous uses the term "Higher Power" so that all who come have the freedom to determine what that is for them. I am weak. Where does your strength come from? Who holds the key?

Friday, July 1, 2011

A Miracle When You Get Up

"You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one, each day brings a miracle of its own. It's just a matter of paying attention to this miracle." - Paulo Coehlo


Ho-Hum. Same thing, just a different day. The daily grind. The rat race. We have become so familiar with our day-to-day that we don't recognize the miracle. Heaven forbid, but what if we lost our family and all of a sudden were alone? Would we pine for the good old days? Would we reminisce about how good things were? What if we lost our job? Would we want to go back to the days when we didn't have to scrape and do without? What if a fire or an earthquake or a tornado took our home? Would we realize how good we had it then?


BUT - how often do we complain how our family gets on our nerves? How easy are we to get along with? Does your employer provide a way for you to earn a living so that you can pay your bills? Are there benefits? Do we drag our feet at work? Do the minimum? Do we ever show up late? Leave early? Take too long at lunch and breaks? Do we then complain that we are underpaid? Is our boss paying us for 8 hours of work and maybe getting 7 hours (or less?) Do we look around at the homes and properties of other people and wish we had that much? Do you know someone with a chronic condition? Have you ever been thankful for what you DON'T have? Things like cancer, a handicap, an abusive family or a family where there is screaming, yelling, cussing regularly? Some of you may be living this now. I hope not but life happens. These dysfunctional things are at the root of some of our eating behavior. Sometimes we have to look for the miracles. Sometimes really hard.


Have you ever had one of those close calls where you nearly lost your life and the only explanation for not losing your live was a miracle? Do we pass off these miracles as a coincidence, luck, etc.? How two people can make another little person who can see, laugh, hear - what a miracle. I remember once while driving I noticed too late that the traffic in front of me had stopped and I was going to rear end someone - hard. I could hit them or swerve left across two lanes of oncoming traffic. I chose to swerve left on a busy road and it was like time stopped - the cars were approaching from the other way but I  swerved across those two lanes and there was a driveway exactly where I needed it to be. Coincidence? Luck? I say miracle.


Each day is a miracle. The earth turned around one whole rotation. Each birthday you have made another trip around the sun. Let's work on being thankful. Don't miss the miracle. 


What's your miracle?