"May you be well. May you be happy. May you be free from suffering."
Weight loss support with a spiritual element. I will keep you posted on my journey in the hopes that you will join me in becoming the person God wants you to be. Don't worry about being religious. Come as you are.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Something to Share
As an intuitive eating coach, I tend to attract clients who are very much like me. On some degree or another, not only do they struggle with food but also with money and clutter. I've even had clients say to me "How did you know that?" thinking I had been secretly spying through the curtains or hacking their bank accounts.
The have shit flying out of their closets knocking them in the head. Debt up to their eyeballs. And, of course, a wealth of rules and limiting beliefs about food (and money, and clutter).
Along the way, the patterns I have noticed have been very telling. Not only about the women I can be most in service to but about myself. I've noticed a lot of sadness shortly followed by anger. I've noticed a lot of lack and scarcity with food, money and things. There is always fear around what others might think. People pleasing and just wanting to be liked. They have no idea how to set boundaries or even what healthy boundaries are.
And, so to work we go. We work through their feelings, their beliefs, and their wants. We unravel the web of tangled beliefs and feelings that drive their actions. And we dig and dig.
No matter what, we always end up in the same place.
A deep desire to feel loved, to feel worthy and valuable in the world.
It always comes to this.
Often times, it can be scary to look that deeply at why we do what we do. It seems much easier to keep pretending that it is about the food.
And so, we spend our lives filling the void. Over-eating. Over-spending or saving. Obsessively cleaning or hoarding away. Wearing uncomfortable shoes so our friends will think we are cool. Saying yes when what we really want is to say no. And eating some more.
But, here is the thing.
All of those things are a shitty substitute for the real thing.
The real love that lives within your own heart.
The real freedom that comes from trusting yourself, your intuition and your life experience.
The liberation of knowing you are enough. You are whole. You are worthy. You are valuable.
My answer is that it starts by making peace with you.
What are you using food (or money or clutter) as a substitue for? Are you ready and willing to do the work of making peace with food by making peace with you?Think on it and let me know your thoughts by replying to this email.
Abundant love and light,
Christie Inge, HHC
The Intuitive Eating Coach