Weight loss support with a spiritual element. I will keep you posted on my journey in the hopes that you will join me in becoming the person God wants you to be. Don't worry about being religious. Come as you are.

Thursday, March 31, 2011


5 Journaling Tips

1. Start journaling on any day of the year.

2. Set your journal where you see it every day: On the kitchen table, your desk or in your briefcase. This will help remind you to journal daily.

3. Keep a pen or pencil with your journal.

4. Skipping days is a part of journaling.

5. You can use the same color of pen or use different colors. You can also designate colors of pens for certain feelings, i.e., green for growth, blue for sadness, orange for joy, red for anger, you get the idea. If you are using different colored pens, write in the front of your journal what you decided each color signifies.

This journal can be picked up and written in when we are feeling stressed. I know blogging serves some of the same purposes but a journal would be easier to get to and perhaps there are things we wouldn't blog about that we can write about.

By journaling every day, we make time for ourselves, and in so many ways our journal becomes a treasured keepsake. Keeping a recovery journal can reduce stress, help focus and organize us, and becomes a good reminder, helping us to set and track goals. Comparing and exploring the different times of our lives is easy with a journal.

Sometimes we throw away that piece of paper where we kept track of our eating, exercising, etc. Why not save it and scrapbook it? You can create something on the computer for this and make a scrapbook page for each day.

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Spring Cleaning

Spring is the time when many people deep clean their homes, unload unwanted junk, pull out the lawn furniture and spruce up the landscaping. It's also a great time to do a spring-cleaning of your spirit, especially pulling the weeds of unforgiveness.

It is amazing the kind of garbage we humans choose to willingly drag around with us in the form of grudges, painful memories, and other types of mental and spiritual debris from the past that we refuse to release. We won't forgive the ex-spouse who treated us shabbily.

We refuse to let go of the slights and unfairness of a situation at work, church or some other group we're a part of. We continue to beat ourselves up for past mistakes.

The costs of our unwillingness to let go are huge. On a metaphysical level what we focus on tends to expand. So if you have something from the past that you've refused to let go of, you've probably recreated a similar experience for yourself if you've focused on it intently. When you continue to "lick the wound" you bring more misery upon yourself.

On a more rational level, why let someone from your past (whoever it is) continue to hurt you and potentially rob you of an extraordinary present and future? Remember, that which you hold onto (your hurt, resentment, grudge, unforgiveness, pain) is actually holding onto you...keeping you stuck. From a health standpoint, there have been studies—enough to fill volumes—on the health risks of unforgiveness: ulcers, heart problems, eating disorders and more...virtually any physical ailment has the potential of being rooted in an unforgiving spirit.
Let's do a thorough inventory of our spirits. Much like we go through our closets at the beginning of a new season, weed out that which no longer fits.
Ask yourself the following questions:
How am I benefiting by holding onto the past?
(Remember there's always a "pay–off" to your behavior.)
How would I benefit by letting go of the experience and practicing forgiveness?
Who is really paying for my unwillingness to forgive?
What is the lesson for me here?
Many people have yet to make peace with their past. They're still dragging around old business, allowing the past to drain them of present energy and future possibilities. It's a bit like trying to drive forward while constantly keeping your foot on the brake and your eyes on the rear-view mirror.

If you're ready to do a thorough spring-cleaning, start with your spirit. Let go of the past, forgive people (including yourself!) so you can learn your lessons and finally move on. Prepare to watch new growth unfold in your life. Why not take nature's cue and start anew.

I know many of us have people in our past we need to forgive. If it's family, try to think that what they did was the best they could do at the time. Sometimes parents have so many of their own issues that they cannot parent or parent very poorly. The forgiveness is so that you can move on - not to absolve them of what they did. It could be an ex-spouse or soon to be ex-spouse. I have heard "forgive and forget". I don't know about the forgetting part - that's tough - but we can be more neutral in how it affects us emotionally. People who hurt others are usually more miserable inside than we can imagine or they wouldn't have done what they did.

Has this caused any emotions to surface that you and I need to deal with? Can we forgive?

FROM:  Simple Truths and me

http://www.nourishing-the-soul.com    Interesting body image blog entry.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011


We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means, I survived.
- From Little Bee

Got some battle scars? Is that survival instinct still there? In a few days I have a post on journaling in which you can liken each day to a battle - it is - and we know the enemy. That enemy has left bruises and scars. Do we keep coming back for more? If you think you might want to journal, get a pretty one. My post suggests using different ink colors - a color for each kind of day or emotion. If you really want to get into it, a scrapbook where you can express yourself through art might help you stay in touch. You could put each day's food consumption there, if you exercised or not, how you felt, things that happened, etc.

Now - a word about exercising. In Gary Taubes' book, Why We Get Fat and What to do About It - he asks if you wanted to tell a person how to get very hungry, what would you tell that person? Answer:  eat less, exercise. Many of us exercise; some don't. I have some information for you. Let's say that an hour of aerobics burns 350 calories, for example. That is not the effective calorie burn. You would have been burning calories anyway. I was kind of bummed when I read that but it does make sense. Exercise is good for endurance, muscle strength, and it does burn some calories but we can make the mistake of giving it too much credit. I think for dieters the biggest plus is the increase in our BMR (basal metabolic rate). The more muscle on your body, the more calories will be burned just sitting still. (I like that part) I also read an article that if we had to choose between aerobics and weight lifting - weight lifting is the best for us.

So - let's limit our scars and bruises. If we fight using all our resources, we will win the battles and that inner demon can look like he/she had been dragged through a keyhole.

Some encouragement:


Monday, March 28, 2011

Orthorexia Nervosa


This goes to show us that anything can become an unhealthy obsession. It's long but worth the read. Have you ever heard the saying "moderation in all things"? There are some things I should stay away from even in moderation. It's weird - sometimes I can have a small glass of wine - no problem. Other times I drink the whole bottle so for me none at all is better or on rare occasions - but it can't be in the house at all times. After this long all of us know what works and does not work for us. We tend to look around and see others eat some sweets and quit or have a little wine and quit so we think we can do it too - NOT.

Relax. Accept our lot in life. Is it really that bad?

Sunday, March 27, 2011

What You Ask For

What You Ask For

The world around you is whatever you sincerely ask of it. Your life is precisely what you ask of it, with your thoughts, your actions, and your attitude. All things and events may come and go. Yet, reality is what you choose to do with it all.

The value you look for, and the value you expect, is the value you will find. What you decide to make of anything will ultimately define for you what it is. What you truly expect to see, you will most certainly see. The way you genuinely expect to live is the way your life will surely proceed.

When you know without the slightest doubt that it will happen, it will happen. Expect the very best, in every moment, with every thought, every action, and it will be.

Author Unknown
from:  www.jensgyrations.blogspot.com (what would I do without my sister?)
Are we the captain of our ship? Do we really think we can get to our goals concerning weight, exercise, food habits, career goals, and all those things we wistfully look into the future and desire?  Remember Yoda said, "There is only do or do not, there is no try"? We cannot rely on luck or hope that things will come our way. The only way to know the future is to create it.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
- Bob Moawad

What are you and I creating today?

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Caution: Danger Ahead

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

What are the signs that we are about to boof things up?  There seems to be a pretty predictable sequence of events that should send up the red flag which causes us to send up the white flag.

1. boredom
2. poor planning or none at all
3. bad attitude
4. lack of exercise
5. we aren't getting enough water
6. tired
7. our routine gets interrupted
8. the hunger has become more than we feel like we can withstand
9. all or nothing mindset

Add any others that are your caution signs.

How can we sidestep what we know is about to happen? Remember that if food is not the problem eating is not the answer.

It's obvious what needs to be done to avoid the difficulty we are walking into with eyes wide open. Why don't we do something about it before it goes too far? The scientific term for this is appetitus gigantus (I made that up).

Which one(s) of these are your caution signs and what will you do to avoid them?

Friday, March 25, 2011

Let's Laugh


Laughter is the best medicine. This is a light-hearted look at something we know to be true  -  "Think Before I Eat".

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Just a Minute - I'm Eating


Anybody besides me eat to put off doing something we know we should be doing but don't want to? I hate housework. Have you ever had dishes to do, laundry piled up, dust you could write your name in, can't see through the windows, stuff knee deep on the floor, and it's staring at you to be done and you decide you better eat something?

I am basically a lazy person. I have to be committed to someone or something else for getting something done. There has to be a deadline. Someone has to be noticing if I am accomplishing anything.  I could never sell real estate or insurance because those people set their own workday and are self-starters. I take on too many commitments as a rule because I don't know when to quit - is this a trait of people with eating problems? How long of a stretch can you sit still and do nothing but maybe watch TV or read? This isn't a real calorie burner I have found.

I do love flowers, so, of course, I have more flower beds and flowers than a small army could handle. If I get on a daylily kick, for example, I think I have to have every color - same with clematis vines, etc. I love to quilt, so, of course, I have stacks of fabric that should last me until oh, say, the next Haley's Comet passes by. I have so much food around this place. I have thrown out more celery and other produce than I care to think about. If there is some kind of disaster, all of you are invited to my house, I've got the canned goods to cover it.

Do any of you eat as a means of procrastination? Can you identify with any of these other stunts of mine?

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

What Do You Think?

Gary Taubes Author of Why We Get Fat Versus Dr. Oz

If you saw the Dr. Oz Show on March 7th, then you saw the interview with Gary Taubes. There was a bit
of fireworks as they argued about who was right in the world of dieting. They both agreed to disagree.  What was particularly interesting were the results of a poll on the Diet Blog of Oz versus Taube. Of the 1371 votes that were cast at the time of this writing, only 259 were for Dr. Oz.  One thousand and nine votes went to Taubes, while the remaining 77 were neutral.

Taubes' views, for those of you who are unfamiliar with his two books, Good Calories, Bad Calories, and
Why We Get Fat are basically reincarnations of what Atkins proposed all those many years ago—
it is not fat that makes us fat, but carbohydrates.

When The Atkins Diet first came out, the medical community was up in arms saying how unhealthy it
was eating all those horrible saturated fats, even though time after time it was shown that on a very
low carb high protein diet, blood cholesterol levels were indeed not elevated. That aside, I thought it
was very interesting that Taubes refuses to have his cholesterol checked. His rationale is that the results
of those tests are meaningless. His other unspoken concern is, of course, the recent release of his new
book and the last thing he would want to do is to throw a wrench in the works by perhaps having a
cholesterol measurement that’s too high.

So who’s right and who’s wrong, Dr. Oz or Gary Taubes? I believe emphatically that they are both right. Here’s the problem. There is absolutely no doubt that it is really so much easier to lose weight on a very low carb high protein diet. It has been documented over and over again that there is a significant metabolic advantage in avoiding most carbohydrates. I would also agree that there is every likelihood that if you seriously stick to Taubes' diet that it will not raise your serum cholesterol. But you see that is
where the problem lies…if you stick to the diet.

Human nature being what it is leans towards cheating. And the more you cheat on this diet, the more of those very bad fat molecules you will absorb sending your cholesterol sky high. Also, one must take into account that without most fruits and vegetables in the diet you are not eating sufficient antioxidants and that puts you at greater risk for disease.

Dr. Oz takes a balanced approach. He is a firm believer in healthy eating and getting exercise. He
promotes eating complex carbs, limited healthy fats, moderate protein, and encourages people to get
moving. Taubes doesn’t feel that exercise is necessary to lose the weight.

Gosh, I wish that were true!

Because most people are not really willing to give up most carbs for the rest of their lives, Taubes' diet
is a bit scary, one because it encourages yo-yo dieting and two it could encourage heart disease. On the other hand, it could be the perfect solution for some people. That is why Solving Your Weight Loss Puzzle exists. Not every solution is right for everyone and we each need to find our own solution. I want to educate people to understand the pros and cons of various approaches so that they can determine what is going to work for them.

Dr. Oz’s approach is more difficult on the one hand and a lot easier on the other.  Why do I say that?
Calorie restriction is not so difficult on a high protein diet, because when you are constantly in ketosis you don’t get very hungry so you naturally eat less and equally as important, you can eat more and still lose weight.

When you eat in a more balanced way as Dr. Oz suggests, you need to be more cognizant of your caloric intake. On the other hand when you eat in a more balanced way it is a lot easier to fit “cheating” into your schedule without bearing the significant consequences that you will on Taubes' diet.

So why should I be surprised that so many more people think that Taubes’ diet approach is the right
approach and not the one espoused by Dr. Oz? I’m actually not surprised at all. All over the diet blogs
are numerous comments by avid low carb supporters. It’s very hard to write excitedly and enthusiastically
about a balanced approach; it just doesn’t make for a very interesting read. Dr. Oz’ approach is the approach of the silent majority not the noisy and vociferous minority. Don’t get me wrong. I really am for whatever works. Taubes’ theories are right, but so are Dr. Oz’, it’s the behaviors of people themselves that make any particular diet right or wrong.

Till next week,
Dr Nikki

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I read on someone's blog about the author thinking about trying Weight Watchers and seeing if that worked for her. RED FLAG. What's wrong with this picture?

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Dream a Little Dream

Take One Dream

Dream it in detail.

Put it into your own hands.

See its final outcome clearly in your mind.

Then mix it with a little effort and add a generous portion of ambition.

Stir briskly with confidence until the mixture becomes clear, the doubt separated from the resolution.

Then bake at an even temperature in a moderate mind until the dream rises and is firm to the touch.

Decorate with individuality.

Cut into generous portions and serve with justifiable pride.

Approached in this manner, life is a piece of cake.

Written by Bryce Courtenay
From:  www.jensgyrations.blogspot.com (my sister - she won't care, I steal her stuff all the time :-)

What are our dreams?  We will all probably think of something connected to losing weight. After we lose our weight or when we get to that magic number on the scale things are going to start happening. Lose yourself in something you love now. Take a class, join a club, volunteer at the hospital, be a study buddy at a local elementary school - you can get out there and make a difference and will be the happier for it.

I was trying to think of a better ending for the poem - instead of "life is a piece of cake" I thought of Forrest Gump's line that "life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get". Would the poem make sense if that line was changed? No matter - thinking out loud.

Do you have a dream that you are delaying until some time in the future? What's keeping you from going for it? 

Monday, March 21, 2011


How many of these claims do you think we have fallen for?


Some nutritionists define a fad diet by a series of questions rather than assessing popularity:
  • Recommendations that promise a quick fix
  • Dire warnings of dangers from a single product or regimen
  • Claims that sound too good to be true
  • Simplistic conclusions drawn from a complex study
  • Recommendations based on a single study
  • Dramatic statements that are refuted by reputable scientific organizations
  • Lists of "good" and "bad" foods
  • Recommendations made to help sell a product
  • Recommendations based on studies published without review by other researchers
  • Recommendations from studies that ignore differences among individuals or groups
  • Eliminated one or more of the five food groups  ( from everydiet.org)
Often in fad diets something is unlimited. That makes compulsive overeaters perk right up. We think "I can eat all I want and lose weight?" I won't be hungry? The reality of it is that we are going to have to experience hunger to lose weight.


There is no shortcut. There is no magic. There is only us and our determination. Knowing what to do and doing what we know. Being hungry can be very threatening. It can make us feel anxious and feel panic. I often wonder why it upsets me so to have my stomach be truly empty and growl. I have heard that we can only live three days without water - there would of course be some variables here - how hot or cold the environment is and our own body's ability to adapt and how much fluid was stored in the tissues. We can go for quite some time without food. That would also depend on how much fat was stored on our bodies - I figure I could go until the turn of the century or so.

The water thing reminds me - did you know that in order to fix water retention we need to drink water?  If we aren't drinking enough water, our bodies will try to hold on to the water they do get.  When we start drinking enough water, the body doesn't have to hold on to the fluid anymore. Have you noticed that you are more thirsty for water when you start getting that 8 - 10 glasses per day? That's because your body isn't retaining it and needs replenished.

It has always angered me the millions of dollars savvy people have made from obese people who are desperate to lose weight. The pills, exercise machines, diets, books, and so much more. We have been the victims of these people and have made them rich. There is always an infomercial on the latest, greatest, most effective, super-dooper product.

What are some of the things that have separated you from your money in your quest to lose weight?

Sunday, March 20, 2011

React or Respond

When we react to something, it's knee jerk. It's off the cuff. Spur of the moment.

There was a woman who had gossiped and spread rumors about another woman in the Church and it hurt the other woman terribly. Upon finding that what she had spread was untrue she went to the preacher and asked what she could do to make things right. The preacher told her to get a feather pillow and take the feathers and spread them about as she walked around town. She did so and went back to the preacher to tell him that she had done what she was told. She asked what she was to do now. The preacher told her to gather the feathers up again. She said "Why, that's impossible!" The preacher said, "So it is with the spoken word. Once spoken they can never be gathered back."

When we respond to something, the response is considered first in light of what would be best. It's the old "count to 10" method of diffusing emotion before something thoughtless is done or said. Once we learn to stay in the moment and consider situations that present a challenge, we will do so much better and respond rather than react.

Have you ever been caught off guard when arriving home and the package of cookies is right there on the bar and you are so hungry? You go to a meeting and the refreshments are right there and everyone is lining up to partake. A friend calls up and wants to go out to eat somewhere and catch up. We often go along to get along thinking we might hurt someone's feelings or be in an awkward situation if we don't follow our old habits and reactions. How can we be proactive? What do you do to stay with your plan?

Saturday, March 19, 2011

This Too Shall Pass

The low spots will pass. The high spots will also pass. When we are at the top of our game, it seems like nothing will ever get in the way. Are you flying high right now? Are you in the pits? The ebb and flow of our days means that things change. Our kids grow up and we wonder where did the time go? I remember when that child was brought to me after being born - now he is in the Army and has been in Iraq twice and South Korea once. Things seem to be humming right along and then the phone rings and everything changes.

Are we prepared for the changes that are coming? Are there changes that we are causing? Is the world friendly right now? No matter. Where does peace come from? How do we master being contented? Please listen to this hymn and then read the story behind it and then you will hear it again. The words will mean so much more after listening to what this man endured yet still was at peace.

Here is my favorite hymn -


and here is the story behind the song- the words will mean more to you after you know this story.


Peace be with you   -Myra

Friday, March 18, 2011

Embarrassing Moments


How many times have we been embarrassed by our size? I can think of not being able to fit into the gym uniforms at school.

I was chosen last for the teams.

Have any of you been unable to ride a ride at the amusement park because you couldn't fit into the seat?

How about the airplane seats?

Have you ever gotten one of those "once over" looks - that up and down glance when people notice how we look?

There is an old theater in Richmond. I just barely could fit and I was uncomfortable throughout the show.

Have you ever had trouble getting up off the floor? Did you have to get on all fours and find something to hang on to?

Has anyone ever thought you were pregnant?

I am so tired of feeling like I look sloppy. It's embarrassing to be around others who look so nice in their clothes and no matter how perfect the make-up, how great the hair, how expensive the clothes I still feel "dumpy" looking. I don't want to pull out the front of my top after I sit down. I don't want to pull my top back over my butt when I stand up. How about you?

Any embarrassing moments to share? 

http://www.queendom.com/advices/advice.htm?advice=145     This gal's husband is ashamed of her because of her weight. This is a sad story so if you are living that as well perhaps here you will find someone who understands. Some of you will probably get mad and try to hunt him down and commit some kind of a felony.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Full Steam Ahead

*** "The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me. "
~ Ayn Rand

This was on my sister's blog:  www.jensgyrations.blogspot.com

Ayn Rand wrote some very thought provoking and prescient books. My favorite is ATLAS SHRUGGED. She also wrote THE FOUNTAINHEAD. She is all about the individual who is true to his/her self; one who achieves regardless of those who would steal and destroy their life's mission. Honesty, being determined, ethics, and so much more are major parts of her characters. They stay true to themselves regardless of money or lack of it, regardless of support or lack of it, regardless of being undermined and nearly destroyed -  her characters are self-sufficient and don't need the approval of others in order to feel like they have accomplished anything. She does not believe in dependency. Her philosophy is called objectivism. She is an atheist and quite cynical. Her work is great. We can learn a lot from her. I am not an atheist and consider myself to be quite optimistic but still loved her books.

Now - back to the program. How do these qualities determine whether or not one loses weight? How many times has life happened and we are thrown for a loop? Other people can completely make us feel like there's no reason to go on. Life is not fair. I can't catch a break. Why me? Do we cause most of our problems? I know I do. We have all heard the saying that the definition of insanity according to Einstein is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If we always do what we have always done we will always get what we have always got. I don't know who said that one. People make mistakes; fools repeat them. (That one is mean, we have an emotional problem for crying out loud).  Can't we hear our inner whiner start up with, "but---". For some reason we think our situation is special; no one else faces what we face. Our background is different. Our life's challenges are matched by no other.

In one of my earlier posts I quoted someone who said "If we don't learn from our mistakes, there's no sense making them."

Let's stop whining, making excuses, and being ungrateful for a day that gives us the opportunity to be our best version of ourselves. If the rest of our lives were just like today, where are we headed? Let's not make today the tomorrow we worried about yesterday.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

No Man (or Woman) is an Island

"Sometimes our light goes out but is blown again into flame by an encounter with another human being. Each of us owes the deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this inner light."
Albert Schweitzer

http://macenstein.com/default/2010/03/review-embarrass-yourself-thin-with-the-withings-body-scale/  Check out this scale!!  I want one. I think.

I have read so many times on the blogs of others who are struggling how much they appreciated the support and encouragement of their blogger friends. This is the first place where there can be honest and open discussion of feelings, challenges, failures, successes, and everything else that goes along with this life we live and absolutely know that everyone understands and has experienced the same things. There is a comfort. There is a "don't give up", "you can do it" message that not only the recipient of the comment receives but also everyone who reads it as we go from "house to house" as it were. Who knows how many times this has prevented someone from giving up? Who knows how many times a binge has been prevented or stopped short? Who knows how much we appreciate each other? I do.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Waste Not, Want Not?

http://moredoors.blogspot.com/  I liked her page heading:  "Be yourself; everyone else is taken".

Have you ever heard this before? Waste not, want not. Remember those starving kids somewhere. Moms read the papers so they know where kids are starving that day.  We had to clean up our plates before we could get dessert. We had to come eat when it was on the table - the food was more important than what we were doing. If we didn't eat lunch, it would be a long time until supper (mom glare here). The airplane trick to get those last few bites (or any of them) in the kid. The baby is turning it's head, spitting out the nipple, giving all kinds of cues that he/she is full but what does Mom do? Keep on pushing the bottle back in and forcing a few more pulls on the nipple until that last half ounce is down. Is it any wonder we don't listen to our bodies for hunger and fullness when we get older? Is it any wonder there is an obesity  epidemic in our children? I have a friend whom I remember putting Coca-Cola in her baby's bottle. Fruit juice in the bottle will take away the child's appetite for real food. Water probably wouldn't be a bad idea!!!

Do we reward our kids with a trip to the dairy queen? Do we quiet our kids down with a cookie or a cracker? Do we punish our kids by sending them to bed with no supper? Do we make deals with our kids that if they are good, there will be a treat as a reward? Are they conditioned to the bell on the ice cream truck? (OK - that example might be a little old - are there ice cream trucks anymore? Remember those seated bicycles with a freezer of ice cream on the front?) I digress. We attach so many emotions to food without realizing it.

Is it any wonder we can't distinguish hunger and fullness? If you are doing any of these things  - STOP. You are destroying the connection between hunger and eating by making eating an emotional event. We know the problems that can cause.

Do any of you remember your parents doing any of these things? As a child, did food/eating have an emotion attached to it? Feeding us was how Grandma loved us and was she ever a good cook. I can get up from a meal and go to my Mom's house and start looking for something to eat. If we are sick, people try to feed us. If we are depressed; If we lost our job; If a relationship failed - on and on. We have found the enemy and it is us.

Monday, March 14, 2011

The Dreaded Rut

I know from past experience that one reason I have gotten off track is because I have allowed myself to fall into a rut with what I eat. I would not take time to plan, pick out a new recipe every now and then, make sure I have all the ingredients, and get it prepared. I would get so sick of cottage cheese and tuna. The thought of more carrots and celery was depressing. I would wait until I was so very hungry and then just settle for what I could grab. Then I wasn't satisfied and wished I had done a better job of planning my food.

Which reminds me - that also is another characteristic of skinny people. They don't waste their hunger on mediocre stuff. Even if very hungry they will wait for something they will really enjoy.  I have seen really hungry skinny people say that nothing sounds good and not eat. They planned to wait until something sounded great. We will stand at the sink and eat. Eat in the car. One of the recommendations I have read is that we should wait until we can focus on the meal and what we are eating. Turn off the TV, sit at the table, and have a nice place setting so we will feel like we have "dined". When we are watching TV, we are dividing our attention. Have you ever forgotten what you had eaten that day because it just blended in with everything else going on at the time?

We have become so busy and on the run that families rarely eat together like we did back in the day. When I was young nothing was open on Sunday. We usually had a family dinner at a grandparent's house. We sat around the table. Have you noticed our lack of table manners? I had a student of mine tell me once that his mother tried very hard to at least have the family eat together on Sunday - once a week. Do you have any Amish families in your area? We could learn a lot from them. I have never seen a fat, Amish person. Maybe we should go back to raising and killing our own food? Since that isn't going to happen at this house and we must live in reality, it is going to take renewed effort to make food/eating special - something to prepare for, enjoyed for what it is, stay in the moment, and relax. Staying in the "now" turned around will be "won".

A little humor (I know, very little).

A day without sunshine is like, you know, night.

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Fruit Cake

A great fruit cake recipe

You'll need the following: a cup of water, a cup of sugar, four large eggs, two cups of dried fruit, a teaspoon of baking soda, a teaspoon of salt, a cup of brown sugar, lemon juice, nuts, and a bottle of whiskey.

Sample the whiskey to check for quality.

Take a large bowl. Check the whiskey again. To be sure it is the highest quality, pour one level cup and drink. Repeat. Turn on the electric mixer, beat one cup of butter in a large fluffy bowl. Add one teaspoon of sugar and beat again.

Make sure the whiskey is still okay. Cry another tup. Turn off the mixer. Break two leggs and add to the bowl and chuck in the cup of dried fruit. Mix on the turner. If the fried druit gets stuck in the beaterers pry it loose with a drewscriver.

Sample the whiskey to check for tonsisticity. Next, sift two cups of salt. Or something. Who cares? Check the whiskey. Now sift the lemon juice and strain your nuts. Add one table. Spoon. Of sugar or something. Whatever you can find.

Grease the oven. Turn the cake tin to 350 degrees. Don't forget to beat off the turner. Throw the bowl out of the window, check the whiskey again and go to bed.

This was so cute I had to share.   All the best - Myra

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Thin People Don't

I read every diet I can get my hands on. I even follow their suggestions. But eventually, inevitably, I always get fat again. Now, at last, I've found The Answer. After living for almost 14 years with a man who never gains an ounce no matter what I serve him, I've found out what it is that keeps him thin: He thinks differently. The real difference between fat and thin people is that thin people:

avoid eating popcorn in the movies because it gets their hands greasy;

split a large combination pizza with three friends;

think Oreo cookies are for kids;

nibble cashews one at a time;

think that doughnuts are indigestible;

read books they have to hold with both hands;

become so absorbed in a weekend project they forget to have lunch;

fill the candy dish on their desks with paper clips;

counteract the midafternoon slump with a nap instead of a cinnamon Danish;

exchange the deep-fryer they received for Christmas for a clock-radio;

lose their appetites when they're depressed;

think chocolate Easter bunnies are for kids;

save leftovers that are too skimpy to use for another meal in order to make interesting soups;

throw out stale potato chips;

will eat only Swiss or Dutch chocolate, which cannot be found except in a special store;

think it's too much trouble to stop at a special store just to buy chocolate;

don't celebrate with a hot-fudge sundae every time they lose a pound;

warm up after skiing with black coffee instead of hot chocolate and whipped cream;

try all the salads at the buffet, leaving room for only one dessert;

find iced tea more refreshing than an ice-cream soda;

get into such interesting conversations at cocktail parties that they never quite work their way over to the hors-d'oeuvre table;

have no compulsion to keep the candy dish symmetrical by reducing the jelly beans to an equal number of each color;

think that topping brownies with ice cream makes too rich a dessert;

bring four cookies into the TV room instead of a box;

think banana splits are for kids.

By Barbara Florio Graham
From McCall's, June, 1983

Do you know a naturally skinny person who has never had to lose weight? Have you ever watched that person eat or noticed their activity level? Would you share? If I get enough responses I will combine them into one big list for everyone to think about.

Friday, March 11, 2011

Portion Control


The last 8 or 10 minutes are about sex and pregnancy but professionally done.

Notice how you feel when you watch what a portion looks like. I was thinking, "Why bother?" But remember you will be ready for food again at an appropriate time not stuffed and miserable. That is a plus of Weight Watchers - you learn what a portion looks like. That is also the secret of success with Jenny Craig and Nutri-System - portion control. If you can't afford either of these two you can buy portion controlled meals at the grocery - Lean Quisine, Smart Ones, etc., and achieve the same thing.

We also need to slow down - eat with your non-dominant hand - eat with your left hand if you are right handed and vice versa. That will slow you down. Also - do not put more food in your mouth until your mouth is completely empty and you have taken a drink of whatever you are drinking with your meal. It will take a while to make this a habit but will feel comfortable in time.

Q: How do you make an elephant float?
A: Take two scoops of ice cream, some soda, and one elephant.
Q: How can you tell if there’s an elephant in the ice cream shop?
A: His bike is outside.
Q: How can you tell if there are two elephants in the ice cream shop?
A: There’s a dent in the cross-bar.
Q: How can you tell if there are three elephants in the ice cream shop?
A: Stand on the bike and have a look in the window.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

In the Car

I am covering for someone on vacation this week. I am doing the ATM route which takes 9 hours and over 300 miles so eating presents a problem. I used to take some Atkins Bars and some almonds. I would make a PBJ sandwich on my Ezekiel bread using natural peanut butter and sugar free jelly. I also took an Atkins shake with me. My problem is that it is there and in easy reach and I know it will be gone by oh say 10 am or so. I decided to just buy a sandwich somewhere and not take anything but breakfast with me - the PBJ. I also took plenty of water. I have kept my cooler in the trunk before with all the goodies in it so I couldn't get to it and would have to stop the car, get out, and go around and get it. It's crazy how it is on my mind if I know it is there.

It does get expensive buying lunch every day but that is better than munching for 9 hours (at least until 10 a.m. anyway). Do any of you spend a lot of time in the car? If so, how do you manage the eating? Fast food just doesn't appeal to me anymore for some reason. Subway is about the only place to get something that helps rather than hinders. I know some other places have salads but I want a REAL salad. When I make a salad at home I clean out the refrigerator. Lettuce with some salad dressing on it just doesn't get it in my opinion.

I know you were looking forward to some more elephant jokes but I'm pacing myself.  :-)

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Independence Day

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
 Marianne Williamson quotes (American Author and Lecturer, spiritual leader of the Church of Today, b.1952)

I have this book and audio CD as well as the meditations. I can recommend it without hesitation. As you have gone through old posts I have recommended several books and programs. I have read all the books I recommend and participated in the programs. This particular program was a real life changer for me. I have used excerpts from it in previous posts.
We do play it small so often because we are afraid of creating expectations that we fear we cannot live up to. We have even sabotaged ourselves in the past because we were uncomfortable with this newly found power that we feared we could not handle.
She is New Age but I got so much from her words that that didn't prevent me from learning from her. I used what I could and left the rest.

Another book I think you should read is Gary Taubes' WHY WE GET FAT: AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT. You will learn so much.

Right now I am reading THE FOUR DAY WIN by Martha Beck. This will help change your brain and thought patterns. Great book. Remember you are already thin; your body just has to catch up with you. It's about the inside. There's a good price on a used copy I see.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Elephant Joke

The best way to predict your future is to create it.
  - Anonymous

Question:  Do you know how to eat an elephant?

Answer:  One bite at a time.

Have you ever divided a large task into manageable segments? I remember when mowing our yard with a push mower in my younger days I would mow around a section of the yard and then mow that. I would then mow off another section and mow that and so on until the yard was mowed. I could have mowed around the entire outer edge of the yard and kept on that way but doing it in smaller segments seemed so much better because I was finishing the job bit by bit. There were small accomplishments along the way to the big goal.

I used to tell my students when they told me that they had to read a book for English to take the total number of pages and divide by the days they had to finish the book. If they read that many pages a day, they would be done and would not be scrambling at the end to get it done.

I remember a pair of slacks I was working on that got put down and not finished. I didn't have much sewing to do on them but couldn't seem to get back to them. I set the timer on the stove for 20 minutes. The deal with myself was to work on them for 20 minutes a day until they were completed so I could wear them. To my surprise when the timer on the stove went off I just continued and got them done. I've thought about doing this with housework - the operative word here is "thought".

I am focusing on 10 lbs. at a time. I have made a graph with my starting weight and going down the left side in 1/2 lb. bits until 10 lbs. have been reached. Along the bottom I have the dates of Thursdays and Mondays - the days I am weighing myself. There was enough room for 7 weeks of weighing. If I reach 10 lbs. before that then I will start a new sheet. I am not thinking of the total I want to lose or how long it will take to get there. I am dividing up my losses into 10 lb. segments - that's all I care about. I will do this one bite at a time. Does anyone know how to cook an elephant?

Perhaps this would work for you as well.

Another elephant joke:

Question:  What did Tarzan say when he saw the elephants coming over the hill?

Answer:  Here come the elephants.

Question:  What did Tarzan say when he saw the elephants coming over the hill wearing sunglasses?

Answer:  Nothing. He didn't recognize them.

Question:  What's gray and crawls?

Answer:  An elephant playing combat. 

I crack myself up.   :-)

All the best - Myra

Monday, March 7, 2011

Victims or Volunteers?


I guess this is the picture of living to eat not eating to live. This guy wasn't even 30 years old yet. Waitresses dressed like nurses? Owner in a lab coat? Is there an attitude problem here? We make light of things that are so serious.

Glorifying obesity? I have yet to find ANYTHING to glorify about obesity.

And the kicker - the restaurant is under criticism. There was even a sign outside that read that this place was hazardous to health. Are we victims or volunteers?

Our government would have us be victims. We would have us be victims. It's a ready-made excuse. Think of all the excuses we have made in the past for things we volunteered for. It was a birthday; I was stressed; PMS (poor me syndrome); I am tired, bored, it's Tuesday, the wind's out of the east. Let's face it - we were volunteering and needed to justify what we were about to do because otherwise we would have to take responsibility. Being a victim is so much easier.

I hope you are reading my older posts. You can probably tell I was a teacher. Many blogs are of a diary format or sharing life and struggles. I am more of a teacher/frustrated preacher format. I am learning from other bloggers as I hope you are getting help from me.

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Get Up and Dust Yourself Off

Ever tried.
Ever failed.
No matter.
Try again.
Fail again.
Fail better. - Samuel Beckett

If I'm faced in the right direction and fall on my face, I've made progress. -Unknown

Fail better - interesting concept. Don't fail as badly as before. Was the last binge or time away from our senses shorter than before? I can honestly say "yes" to this. I used to really binge- binge to being sick at my stomach. I don't do that anymore. I have short sessions of overeating (especially if I drink wine). I have quit having it in the house. Have you tasted Oliver Soft Red? I can drink the whole bottle - have done so more than once. Eating just goes with drinking alcohol somehow - so - out it goes. I have poured the rest of the bottle down the sink before so I wouldn't drink it. Scripture says not to get drunk - but where is the line? The first miracle of Jesus was turning water to wine at a wedding so I would think that having a glass of wine is not a sin - but the whole bottle is pushing it. I remember once before I retired from teaching at Christmas I had all this candy, cookies, fudge to bring home from school. It was gifts from students. I mean boxes of chocolate covered cherries, platters of cookies and fudge. Before I got home, I stopped on Main Street in town and put it all in a trash can because I knew what was going to happen if I got home with it. Gluttony is a sin too.

We can do this.

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Walk Softly/Carry a Big Stick

"I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind.
Some come from ahead and some come from behind.
But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready you see.
Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!"
~ Dr. Seuss

This was on my sister's blog - jensgyrations.blogspot.com - and I thought there was a message here for us.

Dr. Seuss made a very wise comment. We all need a bat because there are troubles of more than one kind. There are troubles at work, at home, concerning aging parents or unruly kids, the car breaks down, there's more month at the end of the money - you could probably add a few more. When we don't have any more problems, we will be dead. If we wait until everything is perfect to get serious with our battle, it will never be won. We cannot wait until Monday, the New Year, after this one last binge, the class reunion, after the Super Bowl - tomorrow never comes. Please read "The Night Lie" post from November of 2010 if you haven't already. Hopefully there will be an epiphany there for you.

So, walk softly - avoid dangerous situations; but be proactive and have that bat ready when temptation presents itself. Don't use problems as an excuse to throw down your bat and run - it gets harder and harder to find the durn thing.

I will answer all comments so if you leave a comment, be sure to check back for your answer.  -Myra

Friday, March 4, 2011

Making Choices

My disease used to make my choices, now I do.

When we are successful making choices, the choices are ones that we make. When we make poor choices, it is our compulsive eating that made the choice for us. We let that inner battle be won by something that doesn't have our best interests in mind. It wants what it wants when it wants it.

Overeaters Anonymous has some very good books full of helpful thoughts and the stories of personal battles that make mine look like nothing. I read some in this book most days of the week and always come away thinking "If that person can overcome, so can I".  We all have our mountains and mine looks pretty big to me sometimes.

I am really finding low-carb eating quite enjoyable. I am losing weight although slowly but I don't care. I never have that craving, awful, anxious, panicked hunger that was caused by the way carbohydrates caused spikes in blood sugar followed by deep drops in blood sugar. I have plenty of energy for aerobics without the "drag" caused by too much blood sugar. I also do not have the bad taste from ketosis but I am sure that is because I haven't cut carbohydrates so low that I am in ketosis. If any of you have ever followed Atkins you know of the first week or two being so low in carbs that you were tired and had the bad taste and bad breath. I didn't do that. I just stopped eating refined sugar first. I eat very little bread and the bread I do eat is Ezekiel bread that has no flour and is made from sprouted grains. I haven't been a purist - I had a sandwich from Arby's for supper yesterday but got no fries or drink. I had my bottle of water with me.

Who/What is making your choices today? Is it you?

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Let go or be Dragged

Not a pleasant thought. I picture a pickup truck and some hapless person being dragged through the dust unable to let go of it. Remember those old westerns when someone would fall off of the horse and get a foot caught in a  stirrup and then dragged over rough terrain?

If we could just let go of this attachment to things that will drag us toward an early death, diabetes, heart problems, unhappiness and all of the things we have read and heard over and over and over and over. Have you ever heard someone talk about being dragged "kicking and screaming"? Not us. We look forward to big eating events. We even start early. I refer you to my pre-cheating post. We talk about food. We talk about the wonderful restaurants. We recall dreamily what we had to eat on some cruise or vacation. We are not being dragged, we are out in front of the horse and it is having trouble keeping up. Maybe we need to do more kicking and screaming and less drag racing.

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Measuring Success

There are times when a man should be content with what he has but never with what he is.
- William George Jordan

If you don't learn from your mistakes, there's no sense making them.
       - Anonymous

Never, never, never, never give up - Winston Churchill

Has the new worn off yet? Getting bored with being on track and making progress? Weight loss has slowed down so it's just too much work to bother with this and lose 1/2 pound in a week (or none at all). Since we are guilty of using the scale as our only measure of success, it can all seem a useless undertaking. Remember we are changing our lifestyle so this is how we live now. Would it bother you not to weigh for a month? Hmmmm - some who have made a lifestyle change would not care. Those who use the scale as their measure of success would stress and without that number to go by we won't know what to do. We won't know whether to be happy or sad.
Our whole day can revolve around the weight shown on the scale and our interpretation of what to do based on that. That's why it is so important to get good news at the scale - every time - without fail - regardless - see how we set ourselves up for negativity? I remember at Weight Watchers that if it was a small loss, or no loss at all, I would be all disappointed and be thinking that it would be another whole week before I would be able to get that reinforcement that I felt I needed to continue. I needed to know if I could overeat. I needed to know if I was happy or not.

What other measures of success are there? The tape measure can give you inches lost. We can try on something each week that is too tight now and tell if we are making progress. I remember the first time I realized my legs weren't rubbing together as I walked. Do you have more endurance when exercising? Let's try to have other measures of success besides the number on the scale.

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Political Again

Dear Mr. President:

During my shift in the Emergency Room last night, I had the pleasure of evaluating a patient whose smile revealed an expensive, shiny gold tooth, whose body was adorned with a wide assortment of elaborate and costly tattoos, who wore a very expensive brand of tennis shoes and who chatted on a new cellular telephone equipped with a popular R&B ringtone. While glancing over her patient chart, I happened to notice that her payer status was listed as "Medicaid"! During my examination of her, the patient informed me that she smokes more than one costly pack of cigarettes every day and somehow still has money to buy pretzels and beer.

And you and our Congress expect me to pay for this woman's health care? I contend that our nation's "health care crisis" is not the result of a shortage of quality hospitals, doctors or nurses. Rather, it is the result of a "crisis of culture", a culture in which it is perfectly acceptable to spend money on luxuries and vices while refusing to take care of one's self or, heaven forbid, purchase health insurance.

It is a culture based on the irresponsible credo that "I can do whatever I want to because someone else will always take care of me".

Once you fix this "culture crisis" that rewards irresponsibility and dependency, you'll be amazed at how quickly our nation's health care difficulties will disappear.



Remember my statement in an earlier post that discipline in school will translate to discipline in life? I do not want to demonize all who are on Medicaid - there are those who deserve and need the help. The problem is almost too big to tackle at this point. Our government has created dependency and an entitlement mentality through subsidizing those who could support themselves if they had been disciplined in school (and at home). So many of these people do not even have a high school diploma. Why couldn't one of the conditions for continued welfare, food stamps, etc., be that those who don't have a high school diploma earn one within two years?  It will take a good 12 years to make a big difference because we must start early but I also think we could make a difference immediately because many students are "on the fence". Parents can make a difference by being an active participant at school. It doesn't have to just be parents. It can be all of us. It will take people who really want to do something to run for the school board and local political offices. 

This is a real dilemma for me. If I were a doctor and some illegal came to the emergency room desperate to get her sick child treated, I couldn't deny to treat the sick child. We talk tough but could we send away someone who was here illegally but was terribly ill? I know many go to the emergency room because they have no doctor and no medical insurance because they know they will receive treatment on the taxpayer's dime.

I really think border security must be immediately implemented and do it with an attitude. We must secure the borders first then make illegals return to Mexico and give them the information they need to legally become a U.S. citizen. Those who were born here but their parents are illegals must also return. That law was written when there was slavery so that children of slaves could be legal in America. Being born in America is not enough to be a citizen. The parents must be citizens. There will be some heartbreaking stories and there would be press conferences with the sad situations but we must do this. We cannot wait until everything is perfect and nobody's feelings are hurt.

What does this have to do with our weight struggles? Absolutely nothing. It just burns my cookies that we are in such a mess.