Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
We talk to ourselves in ways we would never allow others to talk to us.
I had to replace a receipt printer on an ATM at a truck stop. There was a young man there who had somewhat of a stutter - hardly noticeable. He was very kind and helpful. As he was replacing one of the screws on the machine, he made a mistake and commented, "I am stupid". I quickly pointed out that he was not stupid. I know it made my dad mad if the four of us kids called each other stupid. He was a very proud man, and he didn't like to hear that word spoken of another person.
I am sure our self-respect, to a large degree, is at the bottom of our over-eating habits. Who cares? We care about the feelings of others but when it comes to the way we talk to ourselves, we can say some pretty hateful things. I think I should make a better effort at even things like putting on make-up and getting rid of some of these rags I call clothes. I had a student once who dressed up on test days. She said she did better on her exams if she felt like she looked good. Would I do better with my eating if I would take the time to take care of my appearance? I've seen women out in public in tight, sloppy sweat pants - heavy women - bag of doorknobs, smuggling jello, thunder thighs. I have seen more butt cracks than I care to because the jeans just wouldn't go up or it was a girl in guy jeans. I have to admit I have done that before. When I see that I make a mental note not to ever do that again. I have gone out in public and prayed I would not run into anybody I knew. I have seen people in a store and before they noticed me I took a hard right or left before they saw me so I wouldn't have to engage in a conversation. I will work on this. You too?