Weight loss support with a spiritual element. I will keep you posted on my journey in the hopes that you will join me in becoming the person God wants you to be. Don't worry about being religious. Come as you are.

Monday, February 28, 2011

Are You a Monkey or a Frog?

Did you know that all you have to do to catch a monkey is to put a treat in something that is anchored well with a hole in it just big enough for the monkey to get its hand in? It will get the treat but will not be able to get its hand out with its hand in a fist. It will not let go of the treat even though it means giving up its freedom.

You probably all know that if you drop a frog into hot water it will jump out. If, however, you put it in cool water and then gradually warm the water the frog will die in the hot water. It doesn't realize it is slowly dieing.

These are true stories.

Are you a monkey and will not let go of the eating that is gradually killing you as if you were a frog that doesn't know enough to get out of the danger?

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Do We Want the Government Knowing Our Weight?






Electronic health records - who will see them? Insurance companies? Potential employers? Can anyone think of anything that the government runs well? Is BMI the only indicator of health? Remember when Nancy Pelosi said that we have to pass the bill so we can see what's in it?

This would be a part of Obamacare which has been ruled unconstitutional. That bill was passed and nobody read it. Obama has admitted that there were no shovel ready jobs as he stated when promoting the stimulus bill. He also said concerning his health care plan that if you liked your doctor, you could keep your doctor; if you liked your insurance company; you could stay with your insurance company. The public option however would put insurance companies out of business. Employers would drop that benefit because they would know their employees could sign up for the public option. He and his liberal buddies think Americans are stupid and must be told what to do and since they know what's best they are the ones to do that.

I can see insurance companies basing rates on a person's BMI. I can also see an employer making an obese employee paying more toward health insurance. The government would make such a mess of this. We can't let it happen.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Oops - I boofed

My last two posts got posted yesterday because I did not notice I had the same date on them both - bummer!! No aerobics today due to bad weather - schools are closed; roads are bad. I just started back to aerobics this past Wednesday and am still sore. I really did better than I thought I would. About half way through class on Wednesday I thought my shoes needed to be tied because they felt loose. I had tied a double knot so was wondering how that could be - turns out the fluid had worked out of my feet and ankles so my shoes were looser. My blood pressure is down somewhat too. I think we probably all know that muscle tissue is more metabolically active than fat tissue. I think a pound of muscle requires 35 calories a day just to maintain itself and a pound of fat requires something below 5 calories per day - hence the encouragement to build muscle. The more muscle we have the more calories we burn just sitting still. Doesn't that sound great!!

Friday, February 25, 2011


I am so clever that sometimes I don't understand a single word of what I am saying.

Do as I say not as I do    -     another famous quote usually reserved for those who shower others with advice but don't follow that advice themselves.  Hypocrisy is everywhere. We all are guilty of it at one time or another. Michelle Obama has been taking some heat in the press lately for her crusade about healthy eating but then the Super Bowl menu was a heart attack buffet and then she was seen eating greasy ribs somewhere. I say if she wants to eat those things she has a brain and can make that choice BUT don't come down on others for exercising that same right to choose. We definitely are becoming an obese nation - no doubt about it. Go to any school and you will see an alarming number of overweight children. I do agree that what's available at school should be monitored. The diet does affect the child's ability to learn. Adults are in charge and should know what contributes to health and learning. Some adults fall short though. I remember during ISTEP testing at school one year our Guidance Counselor was talking about the snacks given at breaks while kids were testing. She referred to orange juice being provided. I read the label on the package and it was orange drink - which is nothing more than kool-aid. 

Passing laws is not the way to solve this problem. Personal responsibility is. We can't save everybody and some will suffer greatly for their poor choices but this will show others what happens and the government cannot be nanny and take my tax dollars to fund stupidity. Our tax dollars would be better spent on getting discipline back in the school and that will probably require some students being thrown into shock when they are required to straighten up, and if it comes down to "because I am bigger than you" then that will be their choice. Discipline at school will translate to discipline in life. In many inner-city schools I think military help is needed to make sure teachers can teach and students will learn. Uniforms are not a bad idea. This would prevent gangs from showing themselves as many use their attire as identification. Some intimidating men around the school who have the authority to demand respect is what is needed IMHO.

But can't you see the progressives/liberals now? The parade of the downtrodden and abused children would begin with a litany of their background and tough situations and how we must be sensitive. That is so true; we can't expect much from kids who come from homes where there is drug abuse, one live-in man after another, and neglect but are we helping them if we let that be an excuse? Where does it stop? Why should we enable them to go on in that lifestyle because they don't know any better and we weren't willing to do what's best for their future?

I really think it is only a matter of time before America falls. When people are ready to be taken care of by others and settle for a life of the minimum with little effort it becomes pervasive over generations. "We don't support the things we support with near the fervor we oppose the things we oppose." "Fight for the minimum and it will be given." I would use the teacher strikes as an example here. I don't even think people understand the difference between a public sector union and a private sector union. I am speaking in general terms here. When a president can be elected with so few qualifications or accomplishments we've got a problem. A flashy smile and saying what people want to hear is all it took. The Democrats probably would have won anyway in the last presidential election but couldn't they have found somebody who had accomplished something or had at least governed a state? His arrogance has shown how little he knows about leadership.

We need discipline and respect. I guess that's what this whole thing is about. I have probably lost all liberal/progressive readers but that's OK. We need self-discipline concerning what we do and respect for others and ourselves; we also have a responsibility to create that in our kids so that they won't need others to tell them what to eat, when to get up off their butts and do something, and have an appropriate appreciation for those in authority who want what's best for them.

To, For

What if we started considering our food before we eat it in the light of "Will this do something TO me or will it do something FOR me?"

Let's start with cake and ice cream for dessert. Sweet and wonderful. Warm pie with vanilla ice cream - is there anything better? My cousin's wife would be thrown out of the family reunion if she didn't bring her "Better than Sex" cake. Did you read my food porn entry a couple days ago? This is a chocolate cake with holes poked in it then eagle brand milk and caramel ice cream topping all over it so it sinks into the holes, then covered with cool whip and chipped butterfinger bars. This may not be exactly how it's done but you get my point. Is your mouth watering? Are you picturing this confection? Do you want to make one yourself?

People scrape the pan; I have to be quick to get some. What does this do to my body after it gets past my taste buds (which is where the enjoyment ends). Of course I have already eaten too much but I won't get that cake for another year for crying out loud. I could die or something. My pancreas will secrete insulin to deal with all this blood sugar that it is now faced with. I have overtaxed my pancreas so many times it's a wonder the little bugger still works at all. Insulin is the body's signal to store fat. We need to keep our insulin levels low if we want to lose weight. This food will do TO me things I abhor. More stored fat, weakened pancreas setting me up for diabetes, a sick feeling, tired, depression and regret and now it is more difficult to start eating sensibly as craving sets in. I will probably eat again later because the body prefers carbs for energy - so the meal has been dealt with, the carbs that couldn't be used for energy and stored in the liver are in the fat cells and guess what? Hungry again.

Last year I did better. I didn't overeat at the meal and saved room for the cake. I only had about half of a slice. Skipping that cake? That would have been better but remember moderation in all things. I guess half a slice of that cake per year won't do too much damage.

On a day to day basis though fruit or yogurt is a good dessert. There are some sugar free puddings and jellos that are good. These choices will do things FOR you by contributing to your health and reaching your goals.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Keeping the Main Thing the Main Thing

It's like dealing with weight loss: Focus on the food (and) you'll never deal with the weight issue. Don't make it about the stuff. It robs you of living the life you should live today.

I have lost my weight 3 times; it's getting old. How can anyone work that hard that long and then gain it back? One of the gals at the quilt shop where I go lost her weight with Weight Watchers and I overheard her say that she would never be fat again; she is. Don't get me wrong - Weight Watchers is an excellent, healthy method of eating but if the reason for the weight is not addressed and we are the same person in a smaller body it is only a matter of time. Ask me how I know. We can weigh and measure, total up points, plan meals, attend meetings and weigh in faithfully but that's not the root of the problem. A man at our hiking group was talking about a pill he intended to use to suppress appetite and I pointed out to him that we are not eating because we are hungry or we wouldn't need to lose weight. An appetite suppressant will not help. Are we going to take pills forever? Diets don't work. If they did, many of us would be invisible. Without a change in lifestyle we are doomed to fatdom. We need to make a list of why we are fat - be honest - we all know what we do that has caused this situation. We will then have our battle plan. Start changing those things. Since we tend to go overboard, remember not to start exercising 7 days a week for an hour and a half each time. Results will be great at 3 - 5 times a week and then an hour will do. Start out slowly - remember this is the new lifestyle so  that means for the rest of our days. Drink more water - don't start out with a gallon a day. Change your routine - if you are ravenous when you get home from work, change things up. Sit down and read the mail, put your feet up, and have something refreshing to drink. You will then get your head on straight before the evening's activities.

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Food Porn

Is porn the use of something that in its original form is healthy and normal? We were made male and female for a reason. It has become a sport with many people not the expression of love between husband and wife that was the original purpose (oh, and also for continuing the production of people). Was sex just discovered or something? You'd think so with the amount of attention it gets. Kind of like food, one would think it had also just been discovered. I have read that people get addicted to porn.

Here is the definition of addiction:

the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.
People get addicted to caffeine. They get addicted to sugar. People describe themselves as "chocoholics". Let's not forget cigarettes. Is there not an obscene amount of food at Christmas and Thanksgiving as well as reunions and super bowl parties? Food porn? Food is everywhere. Even if we miss a meal for some reason, it will only be about 4 hours until the next one but don't we get all nervous and upset if we don't get to eat when we think we should be eating? Have you ever had that anxious feeling when pizza was ordered to be delivered and you get more and more upset as time passes and it hasn't arrived? We look at food and lust over it. It's easy to get aroused looking through some of these cooking magazines and the way they make the food look so wonderful. The original purpose of food and eating was so we could go on living and now we've made it a sport. Ever watched an eating contest?

We need to get a grip don't you think?


Tuesday, February 22, 2011


I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.

How often do we all compare ourselves to others and come up short?

On the road to the person we want to be, shouldn't our goal be to be better that we were yesterday? How did Mikhail Baryshnikov dance better than he did the last time? Learn from mistakes? Get up and try again? Eliminate what was causing the problem? Do things he didn't feel like doing? Endure some pain? He probably also watched videos of himself and critiqued his work. I'll bet he probably even had to watch what he ate so he would be strong enough to make those amazing leaps and be light enough to propel himself to those heights.

People who reach that level in their chosen endeavors all have to do many of the same things. While I will never be able to leap and twirl and dance like him, I can adopt the same attitudes and determination that successful people employ. They want success so badly that they don't let anything get in the way  Many overcome things that we can't even relate to - remember Jenny yelling "Run, Forest, Run" - Forest Gump overcame more than I will ever have to - but I can still use all I have to get where I want to be.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Decisions, Decisions

The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what we want most for what we want at the moment.
       - Anonymous

I think about the binge sessions I have had and the times when I just eat because it's there and I know it tastes good. My signal to stop eating is "it's gone" not some inner switch that tells me "enough" and I quit. I am much better at using a smaller plate that I fill and eat all of it. It used to be "time" to eat and so I would eat. I am better about that one. I have eaten for all the wrong reasons. I then look with envy at those who look so nice in their clothes and look good in whatever they put on. That's what I want. Why don't I have it? I refer you back to the first statement. 

Never eat more than you can lift” - unknown    :-)

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Bacon Makes Everything Better???

Life expectancy would grow by leaps and bounds if green vegetables smelled as good as bacon.
       - Doug Larson

I love bacon. 

How many times have all of us spoken of some food and added some superlative, emotional, orgasmic adjectives or verbs?

Have you ever been "starving to death"?

Is that decadent dessert "something to die for"?

I've talked about eating myself into a coma before (I nearly have once or twice I think).

You only live once!!  Eat, drink, and be merry for tomorrow we die.

How have we gotten so emotionally attached to food and eating? Pay attention to advertising. Eating junk food is often portrayed with slim, young, active people. One of the exercises in Marianne Williamson's book was to make a special trip to the grocery and only buy one piece of beautiful fruit. It is to be taken home, washed, and considered. That piece of fruit contains the nourishment we all need to be healthy as does vegetables. We are honoring our health when we eat to live and not infuse all this emotion into our food. The earth from which we came produced that perfect piece of food for our health and enjoyment. We don't have the emotional attachments to these foods do we? Why is that? 

I do know that babies are given vegetables before fruit because if the fruit is begun first the vegetables will probably be refused due to our natural preference for sweets. We are adults now and know how much nutrition is obtained from fruits and vegetables - we get nutrition without sugar in vegetables for the most part. There are some starchy vegetables that should be limited. For a very small calorie investment and with much nutrition to be gained, vegetables should be a  very important part of a weight loss plan.

In America, we wait until we have a heart attack and then we start walking and following a healthy food plan. We wait until we are diagnosed with diabetes and then we start paying attention to what we eat. We have the Scarlet O'Hara syndrome, "I'll think about that tomorrow."
How much better would life be if we were proactive and took a preventative approach to health issues?

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Feelings con't.

Emotions need to be felt the way that food needs to be chewed; emotions need to be digested within your psyche the way food is digested in your stomach. The compulsive eater often gorges on food as a way to avoid feeling feelings, but then treats food the same way he or she treated the emotion--moving too quickly, failing to chew, and failing to properly digest it.

Once your feelings are felt, they can be acknowledged, looked at, learned from, and surrendered to God. But instead of acknowledging and feeling your feelings, you've learned to discount them before they can even rise up fully formed. You suppress what you're too afraid to feel, having little or no trust in the wisdom of your emotions. You don't know your emotions have any wisdom--how could you, given that no one honored them when you were a child? But they do; they are part of the genius of the human psyche.

Emotions, even painful ones, are here to tell you something. They are messages to be tended to. Yet how can you tend to something you don't know is there? Emotions must be acknowledged and felt; or else they cannot be learned from, grown from, or processed.

Life might have taught you that emotions are dangerous. Perhaps as a child, you were told things such as, "Don't you cry or  I'll give you something to cry about"--an emotionally tyrannical message that certainly would have taught you to suppress your feelings at all costs. Perhaps your emotions were ignored, minimized, or even laughed at by parents who had other things and other children to think about. What matters is that, for whatever reason, you learned at a very young age to neither honor nor even really feel your own feelings.

Energy cannot be uncreated. And emotions are powerful forms of energy. If you're too frightened to feel a feeling. its energy still has to go somewhere. Actually, an emotion is not dangerous until it's disowned for that's when it commonly gets projected onto others and/or compressed into your own flesh. That only produces more feelings--shame, humiliation, embarrassment, and failure--resulting in an endless barrage of twisted reasons telling you why you might as well just give up and eat more. The only feelings you really need to fear are those you ignore.  The pain you're trying to avoid is nothing compared to the pain you've already lived through.

There is no reason to run to food--or to anything else, for that matter--to escape your feelings.

Friday, February 18, 2011

Feel Your Feelings

It has already been established that the subconscious force of food compulsion is made up of unprocessed feelings. You seek, when you overeat to contain the emotions that swirl within you--to put them somewhere, to put a lid on them, or to make yourself numb so you won't have to feel them at all.

What makes your emotions different, remember, is not what you feel. What makes your emotions different is how you process them. . . .and sometimes how you cannot process them. For the food addict, feelings that can and should be processed in the mind are often displaced onto the body, where they cannot be processed and therefore remain stored within your flesh.

The only way to remove the weight of unprocessed feelings is to allow yourself to actually feel them. Once again, childhood patterns are the issue. Someone else's love and understanding--and for a child, that someone else is the parent--provides a container for our feelings. Later in life, if such a container were absent in childhood, the overeater tends to seek through excessive eating the containment that food cannot give.

Parental love is meant to be a model for Divine love. When parental love holds us safe, we more easily transfer as adults  to a sense that we are safe in the arms of the Divine. If you didn't feel that you could safely take your feelings to your parent figure, it's doubtful you feel now that you can give all your feelings to God.

Feelings that are not acknowledged cannot be fully felt. How can you fully feel something that you fail to name? I feel sad, I feel embarrassed, I feel overwhelmed, I feel humiliated, I feel angry, I feel afraid, I feel rejected, I feel left out, I feel betrayhed, I feel wronged, I feel insulted, I feel hopeless, I feel anxious, I feel frustrated, I feel guilty, I feel lonely. . .too often translate into:  I feel hungry.

Darn right you're hungry, but not for food.    (to be continued)

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Cookie Monster


This is a very good post from another blogger. I have been unable to get a good blog post done so I am going to direct you to a very good post from another spot that I believe you will enjoy.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Dare to Dream

When you overeat, you show a lack of mercy for yourself. By reclaiming the compassion that is natural to your true self, you will learn to eat moderately as an expression of self-love. If and when you fall off the wagon--times when, despite your efforts, you can't resist the urge to eat self-destructively--you will begin to say "Oops" with a light-hearted acceptance rather than a groan of despair. And that will decrease the chances that it will happen again, for you will have stopped fueling self-hate with more self-hate.

Your Dreams Are Important

A healthy person is constantly dreaming up the next best thing. . .from what video would be fun to watch tonight, to whom it would be good to call on the telephone later, to where it would be pleasurable to go for the weekend. But if you don't listen to yourself, then how do you know what you think is the right place to go or the right thing, then you're prone to doing the wrong thing. And that includes what you eat and don't eat.

Someone, somewhere didn't listen to your heart, and as a consequence you stopped listening to it, too. It doesn't matter that Mommy or Daddy or your siblings or your teachers or whoever else didn't value your dreams. God did, and He does. It's time for you to start thinking like God whenever you think about anything. . .including yourself.

Dear God,
Please show me how to honor myself.
Please teach me how to listen to myself.
Please program my mind to know itself,
that I might at last be free.
Teach me to appreciate
Your Spirit that lives within me.
Show me how to be good to myself,
that I might know more fully
the goodness of life.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

What's So Good About Failure?

I failed my way to success.
Thomas Edison

When Thomas Edison succeeded on the 100th attempt to create the light bulb his attitude was "I have learned 99 ways not to make a light bulb".
I may not have this exactly right but the message is the same. Learn from mistakes; they are teachers. If we don't let our mistakes defeat us, we will eventually succeed. How many have given up when failing over and over again? Remember you don't drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there.

A recommendation in one of my books was not to tell anyone what you are doing. Don't put that pressure on yourself. If you have told everyone about your efforts, they may even try to sabotage your efforts. If things don't work out you can almost hear them say that once again you weren't successful. The next time they might say, "yeah, right". If they don't know and you have a slip then you are the only one who has to deal with it and getting back at it will be easier because you won't be dealing with your embarrassment.

Think of the times you were involved in conversations about someone who has noticeably gained weight. We have done it ourselves and imagine others talking about us in the same way. 

We failed many times while learning to play an instrument, ride a bicycle, tie our shoes, and many other things. We learned and were eventually successful. 

We have to be serious about this because sometimes I think in the back of our minds we have this habit of failure and so we go ahead and sabotage ourselves and just get it over with. Let's be proactive and stop that.

Monday, February 14, 2011

Head Knowledge

Knowing is not enough; we must apply.
Willing is not enough; we must do.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 

I have read so many books, listened to so many tapes, watched so many shows/videos that I know all I need to know. It isn't for lack of knowledge that I haven't lost all my weight. I know if I get on one of my kicks I will buy everything I need for a quilt, some project, a gym membership (also need new shoes of course), bought a new bicycle that is in the shed, scary to think of how many exercise videos I have, sold the treadclimber, let's see, I have weights, bands, (thinking about getting an exercise ball) - get my point?

I heard a funny about exercise - one woman said exercise to her was letting the water out of the bathtub and fighting the current. 

If any of you teach English, please don't correct this - I know it's pathetic.

The low carb thing is really working. I was reading about how some people feel tired. It is just an adjustment. Drinking water helps with that as well as with the bad breath from ketosis. I was going to keep you posted on my weight but that doesn't work for me - I focus too much on my weight and start playing games with eating. Now that I have been off of sugar as much as is possible I don't crave it anymore and when I get hungry I am not so anxious and in a panic like before (the English is getting worse). I better stop.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Whose Child Are You?

All of us wish we'd had perfect childhoods, with a mother and father who modeled ideal parental attitudes and taught us to internalize the tenets of self-love. Many of us, however, did not. Perhaps you grew up with no one to model for you that you were truly valuable, that your thoughts were appreciated, that your feelings deserved tending to, or that your worth was deeply appreciated. And whatever was modeled--positive or negative--became the model for your relationship with your adult self. That is simply how adult personas form.

If you were neglected as a child, you learned to neglect yourself as an adult. If you were betrayed as a child, you learned to betray yourself as an adult. If no one cared  about your feelings as a child, you didn't know how to care for your own feelings once you became an adult. Maybe at some level your parents weren't there for you; and now, in the moment when you overeat, you simply repeat the pattern by failing to be there for yourself.

Or your parent or parents might have loved you very much yet simply lacked the psychological tools to help you build an emotionally healthy relationship with yourself. It's only recently, in historical terms, that society has even considered the possibility that children have valuable thoughts of their own. Looking back into your childhood isn't about figuring out whom you can blame, or building a case to justify feelings of victimization. It's simply about identifying your wound so the medicine of love can be applied correctly.

A way to repair a broken childhood is to allow God to re-parent you. As a child, you had no choice but to depend on your parents' love. . .and where it was twisted or absent, you suffered accordingly. Yet now you are no longer a child, and can redo your childhood by remembering Whose child you truly are.

By seeing that you are a child of God--by recognizing the unwavering love and mercy He extends to you every moment of the day--you begin to realign your attitudes toward yourself with His attitudes toward you. You no longer need to model anyone's neglect of you; you need only to model God's love for you.

These last two posts have been taken from Marianne Williamson's work.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Commit to Yourself

Every overeater has heard them a million times:  the admonishments of weight loss. You've got to stick to your diet, commit to the process, stay with it no matter what, discipline yourself to "just do it," and so forth. Yet such admonishments only add to your anxiety; if you were able to consistently be there for yourself, you wouldn't be an overeater to begin with!

While overeating would be seen by some as an indulgence of self, it is in fact a profound rejection of self. It is a moment of self-betrayal and self-punishment, and anything but a commitment to one's own well-being. Why would you be able to commit to a diet if you're not already consistently committed to yourself?

Your relationship to food is a reflection of your relationship to yourself, as is everything in your life. There's no reason to think that you'll be capable of loyalty to a diet until you address your basic disloyalty toward yourself. Until your fundamental relationship with yourself is healed, then your relationship to food is doomed to be neurotic.

As committed as you might be to the process of weight loss, there will always come those moments when your self-hatred rises up like an oceanic force from the bottom of your subconscious mind, demanding to assert itself. That's what makes addiction and compulsion so cruel:  you could be committed to your diet for 23 hours and 45 minutes during the day, then ruin all your efforts in 15 minutes.

What is not self-love carries within it the seeds of self-hate, no matter how small; wherever the mind is not filled with love, it has a propensity for insanity. And just a tiny bit of insanity is enough to do it--in about as long as it takes to open up a bag of cookies, you find a way to destroy your most cherished dream.

This lesson addresses your basic lack of commitment and compassion toward yourself, your lack of self-care that leads you time and again to punish and betray yourself. Only when you learn to commit to yourself will you stop your self-sabotaging behavior. It's not enough to just tell yourself what not to do; you must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be. You are going to learn to stand up for yourself.

This was taken from:

Friday, February 11, 2011

Too Late?

It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start Now

This gal talks about getting the life you want. We can all start right now working toward some goal, and it doesn't always have to be about weight. Would you like to be able to walk three miles at a brisk pace by the end of September? Are you thinking of starting a new business? Would you be interested in going back to school? How long have you been wanting to learn to play an instrument or learn how to quilt or crochet or knit? What about volunteering at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter? I know schools would love to have study buddies for kids who are struggling. How long have you been thinking of going back to Church or starting to attend Sunday services? We often hide behind our weight. Is that a ready-made excuse or what? Money is another often used excuse as is time as well as age and on and on and on. Have you ever heard the saying that if you want something done, give it to a busy person?

Perhaps if we looked at how we spend our days we could weed out unproductive activities and replace them with activities that will make us feel better physically and emotionally. Write down what you do each day and the time you spent on each thing. Within a week you will probably be able to find time for things that you want to do before it's too late. Find a buddy and take a class - the Stitching Nook in Richmond has classes all the time and so does the shop downtown that sells yarn - I think it's called Unwind. There's a show on Saturday morning on the radio - 95.7 - at 9 or 10 (I forget) that is about cooking - the man is Chef Jeff and his business is The Culinary Company - he talks about some wonderful sounding cooking classes. Hopefully I have you fired up and ready to get out there and do something new.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Super Size Me!

Get Healthy

Walk Away from the Buffet!

The hazards of pig-out portions.

Published: January 29, 2011
Arnold Bull Walk Away from the Buffet - Arnold Bull

By Arnold Bull

How to resist the urge to supersize.

Restaurants were an important part of my life as a traveling business executive on an unlimited expense account. Now, however, finding a restaurant that meets my particular dietary requirements is getting harder all the time. There seems to be universal competition to see who can provide the fattiest, saltiest, and least nutritious appetizers with an aroma that most diners can’t seem to resist, and not all eateries offer a low-calorie or nonfat salad dressing. It’s no wonder our country is going through an obesity crisis!

For some reason, portions served in many establishments today are far too large. Have you noticed the recent proliferation of the “doggie bag” phenomenon, evident even in upscale gourmet restaurants? What you used to sheepishly take home in a brown paper bag years ago now comes in a custom-made, hard plastic container, which you can casually carry out to enjoy as another gourmet meal tomorrow! How about the ubiquitous fast-food restaurants that proudly name their menu items “Big Mac,” “Whopper,” “Super,” “Mega,” and so on. And where does one go to get a “small” soda that is under 18 or 20 ounces any more? From these gargantuan portions, our kids are getting a head start on how to pig out, clogging their arteries and developing a lifelong tendency to overeat.

That leads me to the movie-theatre refreshment counter, which is an abomination in excess. In the old days, you could leave the concession stand and head for your seat with a bag of popcorn in one hand and a drink in the other. Today the soda comes in a 32-ounce container, and the popcorn in a one-gallon tub. Now you head for your seat, both arms wrapped around your purchases, with a mouthful of paper napkins (and, need I add, a much lighter wallet)! And I ask: Who needs the discomfort of a full bladder while watching a hot love scene or a knockdown, drag-out fight?

By the same token, I always get a great kick out of the size-18 matrons who laughingly exclaim in the front of an overloaded buffet, “Hey, come on—this is a special occasion, so we can splurge a little. . . what’s the harm?” Well, if they’re like so many of us, these ladies have extended families that number into the 20s and 30s, so there’s apt to be a special occasion virtually every other day. There are countless birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, christenings, and bar and bat mitzvahs—and don’t forget Thanksgiving, Easter, Passover, Christmas, wakes, funerals, the Fourth of July, Memorial Day, labor Day, and on and on! I’m sorry, but if you can’t exert a bit of will power and still enjoy the celebration, then forget about that slim waistline you’ve been dreaming about.

Arnold Bull is in his mid-80s and recognized nationally and internationally as America’s Oldest, Active Certified Aerobics Instructor.

Gwen Shamblin of the Weigh Down Workshop says to ask for the carry out when the meal is brought to the table and cut it in half and place that half in the carry out before beginning to eat. She also suggests splitting a meal with another person. She also suggests drinking a small glass of orange juice before going out to eat to take the edge off of your hunger. I've heard it suggested that at a buffet or smorgasbord to walk around the table and see everything that is available and decide what you especially want. I always try to get things when I am out that I cannot make at home. I don't get green beans - they take up room that could be used for something really wonderful. It is also easier to just eat somewhere other than a smorgasbord - why put yourself through it? Remember at McDonald's you can order a Happy Meal too!! Can't afford Jenny Craig or Nutri-System? I read that their success is based on portion control. You can buy Lean Quisine and other brands of portion controlled prepared meals and do the same thing.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011



I have read quite a bit about fasting and can see that there are benefits. There are books and books about the topic, and I am sure a Google search of the topic would yield many, many hits. Why am I saying things twice?

Fasting is a Biblical concept. I believe, though I am not sure, that a priest can call a fast of the congregation for some important undertaking of the Church. Get your Bible and in the Concordance there will be scripture references for fast and fasting. The fast for the Christian is to become closer to God and to prove that you are serious about your petition. Sustenance will be from God and not from the world. The disciples asked Jesus why they were unable to cast out a demon, and He told them that this kind takes fasting and prayer. During the Catholic observation of Lent, something that matters is given up for a period of time. It is not to be flippant like giving up liver when the person doesn't even like liver (who does?). Jesus spent 40 days on a fast in the desert and then was tempted by Satan with bread.

From just a health and wellness point of view, though, fasting is a way to cleanse the system and empty the liver of impurities and stored energy. A fast can be a good way to start a new way of eating. It can also be a way of getting back on track after slipping up. I have fasted for a day before but I know of people undertaking much longer fasts. If there is a health condition, this must be considered. A diabetic would probably have a problem with blood sugar on a fast but there are water fasts, juice fasts, or just a fast from a particular thing - like chocolate, sugar, soft drinks, eating after 6 p.m. You might look over what's available at Amazon. I usually get one that can be bought used - there are some used books that cost a dollar or less. Even with shipping it's still way less than new.

A fast might also be a way to prove to ourselves that we are in control of this body and not our stomachs or the mind games that we play to excuse if and when we eat.

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Learn From Our Mistakes

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
Henry Ford
We talk to ourselves in ways we would never allow others to talk to us.
I had to replace a receipt printer on an ATM at a truck stop. There was a young man there who had  somewhat of a stutter - hardly noticeable. He was very kind and helpful. As he was replacing one of the screws on the machine, he made a mistake and commented, "I am stupid". I quickly pointed out that he was not stupid. I know it made my dad mad if the four of us kids called each other stupid. He was a very proud man, and he didn't  like to hear that word spoken of another person.

I am sure our self-respect, to a large degree, is at the bottom of our over-eating habits. Who cares? We care about the feelings of others but when it comes to the way we talk to ourselves, we can say some pretty hateful things. I think I should make a better effort at even things like putting on make-up and getting rid of some of these rags I call clothes. I had a student once who dressed up on test days. She said she did better on her exams if she felt like she looked good. Would I do better with my eating if I would take the time to take care of my appearance? I've seen women out in public in tight, sloppy sweat pants - heavy women - bag of doorknobs, smuggling jello, thunder thighs. I have seen more butt cracks than I care to because the jeans just wouldn't go up or it was a girl in guy jeans. I have to admit I have done that before. When I see that I make a mental note not to ever do that again. I have gone out in public and prayed I would not run into anybody I knew. I have seen people in a store and before they noticed me I took a hard right or left before they saw me so I wouldn't have to engage in a conversation. I will work on this. You too?

Monday, February 7, 2011

Displaced Anger

On The Other Side Of Weight, Displaced Anger Still Exists

By Lynn Haraldson-Bering

A few weeks ago, I posted a blog on Lynn’s Weigh about displaced anger. That blog elicited some deeply personal comments. One in particular addressed obesity. Here’s what Jane wrote:

“I have come to understand that just being overweight for so many years has created displaced anger that sometimes spills over to the one I love and trust the most. In reality I am really angry (and sad) within myself for all the years I have lost to this struggle: the functions and celebrations not attended because of being ashamed of how I look; not allowing myself to feel loved because I don’t feel worthy; the pretty clothes not worn and the bike rides and hikes not taken with my family. These are just examples of missed opportunities for joyful interactions with the others in my life.

I know Jane's words don’t resonate with everyone who was or is overweight, but my guess is that it hits home for a lot of us. While I thought I’d dealt with the kind of resentment and regret Jane, yesterday I learned just how deeply engrained those emotions still are.

My husband Larry and I went to the store to buy potting soil and mulch. Driving there, I was stopped at a light behind a woman in a large SUV who refused to turn right on red.
Come ON! Tap, tap, tap on the steering wheel. Gas is on the right!
When the light turned green, I s-l-o-w-l-y drove behind her.
Tap, tap, tap. Much sighing.
Half mile later it was clear she was going to the same store as me. This woman was controlling my every move!
Tap, tap, tap.

I broke free of her in the parking lot when I abruptly turned into the first parking lane. She parked a row over and got out of her SUV, all blond and suburban, while my husband patiently listened to me rant on (and on) about what a lousy driver she was.

Even as I ranted, I knew I was disproportionately annoyed and that her driving didn’t warrant the amount of adrenaline coursing through my body. Something else was going on, but I had to calm down before I could figure out what it was. So I stopped in front of the mulch, took a deep breath, and figured that whatever was driving my anger would manifest itself in due time.
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An hour later I was planting pansies in pots and barrels by my front porch. I ran out of soil just as I started working on the second of the two barrels. The moment that last bit of dirt hit the bottom of that barrel, I knew why I’d been so ticked at the woman in the SUV.
The other bags of soil were in the garage about 150 feet away which meant I was stuck. Stuck in the way that when I was obese I needed other people to fetch things for me down the stairs or up the stairs or far away or someplace that was physically difficult to get to. Stuck in the way that caused me to avoid parties and school functions. Stuck in the way that made me feel useless and lacking, trapped in a body that couldn’t do what I asked of it. I was obese then. I’m not now. But I’m still stuck. Stuck with arthritis and I couldn’t fetch the soil from the garage.

I was mad at the woman in the SUV because buying – or more specifically, loading and unloading – large bags of mulch and soil had always been my job, something I did every year, something I COULD do every year. Now this year I cannot. Because of the arthritis in my wrists and shoulders, Larry had to go with me to the store because I can’t lift soil and mulch into my car anymore.

I haven’t wanted to explore this, mostly because there’s not a damn thing I can do about it now and I can’t change the past. But the question is begging to be asked, the question I’ve avoided since making goal three years ago: Do I have all this arthritis in my knees, shoulders, wrists and toes because I was overweight and obese for so many years? Like stretch marks and loose skin, is arthritis my daily reminder that, for years, I fed my insatiable desire for starches and sweets; gained and lost and gained and lost a lot of weight; and for the most part treated my body like it was separate from me?

The answer is probably not a resounding yes, but it’s not no either. I am, in many ways, responsible for the shape of my body now. The choices I made about diet and exercise and the things I declared acceptable (basically ignoring the weight elephant in the middle of the room) accelerated the degeneration of my knees and feet, and perhaps contributed to the degeneration of my wrists and shoulders.

And right now, that truth feels pretty shitty.

No matter how much weight I’ve lost, no matter how far removed I am physically from 300 pounds, I am and will continue to live with the consequences of my obesity.

Even though I give myself a lot of credit for stopping the weight before it got any higher and for losing the weight which has given my other systems better health, here on the other side of weight, displaced anger still exists. I know I need to forgive myself and move on, but sometimes I feel stuck behind a woman in an SUV who refuses to turn right on red.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Super Bowl Sunday!!

On Saturday mornings from 11 until noon Dr. Van Merkle, Chiropractor, has a "back to health" show on the radio - 95.7 - if you can ever listen it is well worth your time. As a chiropractor, he does not write prescriptions. He feels that if the body is healthy, it will heal itself and be strong enough to ward off disease and illness.


The above is his web site. He does evaluations, even hair samples, to determine deficiencies.

Anyway - today he was comparing the body to a house. Those of us who are Christians have always heard our bodies referred to as a temple but Dr. Merkle said if our house has a leak, we would get it fixed. If the air conditioner or furnace were out of commission, repairs would be made. We even do preventative maintenance so as to prevent problems. I remember years ago one of my little Sunday School boys said that smoking was like burning down your house. How right he was.

We should all take better care of our houses. We live in there for crying out loud. This really has nothing to do with the Super Bowl - let's try not to overdo it or damage our home.

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Diet Girl's Weight Loss Tips


This gal has lost a tremendous amount of weight. I am reading her book now. I do have a copy of the book if anyone wants to borrow it as it was not available for Kindle download. She has a very loyal and supportive sister (like I do) and came from a family life that was filled with anger. She has also experienced a lot of rejection and humiliation.

The only one of her tips that I might leave out was the eat breakfast one. I think we should eat when we are hungry not when it's time to eat. Granted we will probably be hungry if we stop eating at about 6 or 6:30 the evening before. I guess if we call our first meal of the day breakfast, it's OK. She has a blog that can be followed and is one of us - has gained some of her weight back that she is working on - she is not perfect.

Friday, February 4, 2011

Leaning Into a Healthy Diet

Have we begun to "lean into" a healthy diet? Yesterday and the day before we were under a level 3 snow/ice emergency. I wasn't careful about what I ate much at all. We lost our electricity and that really throws a monkey wrench in the mix. Mom was here as she is 84 and we didn't want her to be alone and us not be able to get to her should something happen. In the past, when I would eat that way I would be thinking "OK got to get back with it tomorrow", "This is not good; I shouldn't be doing this", and similar self-critical things. It's another day now and things are back to normal. The sun came up this morning and everything. I did get some things at the grocery today so I could try some of the low carb recipes in the book I bought. These recipes are made with butter, meat, cream cheese, cream, and they sound so delicious. I am anxious to try them. I will let you know what I thought of them and post the recipe.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Groundhog Day

Yesterday was Groundhog Day, forever immortalized in the 1993 movie as the day of second (and third and fourth) chances.  In the movie, Bill Murray’s character gets to relive that one day over and over again.  Initially he takes advantage of the situation, but eventually he begins to reexamine his life and priorities.  And the movie ends happily ever after.

What would you change if you could go back to any one day in the past and do things differently?  Would you choose to take the chance that you passed up:  the blind date or job offer or new class at the gym?  Or some other missed opportunity?  Would you choose your most embarrassing moment and ensure it never happens?  Would you play the lottery knowing which numbers would win or buy stock that you knew would make you rich?  Would you refrain from eating the cupcake that sent you on a month-long binge?   Would you use the opportunity for personal gain or personal growth, like the character in the movie?  Is there something you would do over – or nothing?

I have sometimes imagined how my life might have been if I had done things differently.  If  I’d not turned down the invitation to my first girl/boy party.  If  I’d gone to a different college, better suited for me.  If  I’d not moved halfway across the country.  But then I realize that all that I have done brought me to my life today and the people in it.

But this year I can’t help thinking about where I am on my quest for a healthy lifestyle and what second chances I might take on that journey.  Is there one day I’d live over?  Probably not.  But there are some longer periods of time that I can clearly pinpoint in the last year or two when I seemed to shift from moving forwards to moving backwards.  I’d love to change those.  And I can actually remember some things I ate, yes, the actual food I put into my mouth, that led to a binge that led to a long slippery slope of weight regain.  Would I take a do-over if I could?  Yes, for this I think I would.

So my questions for you today are these:  Is there anything you would go back and change on your road to a healthy lifestyle?  Or anything else in your life you’d like to do over, if you could?

From: waistingtimeblog.org (with a little editing from moi')

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

The Finish Line

This is what I am reading now - it's very good. I am becoming more and more convinced that low carb is the way to go for health AND weight loss.

I also have her book with foods listed along with their net carbs. In the first few pages she states that there is no finish line.

She has many other books available if you want to get serious with this. There really is no finish line - we all know that keeping the weight off is harder than taking it off. Do you want to go through all that again and gain it back? I sure don't. I am ready to make lifestyle changes and be the tortoise rather than the hare.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

The Power of Discipline

An Excerpt from The Power of Discipline 

By Brian Tracy

Why are some people more successful than others? Why do some people make more money, live happier lives and accomplish much more in the same number of years than the great majority?
I started out in life with few advantages. I did not graduate from high school. I worked at menial jobs. I had limited education, limited skills and a limited future.
And then I began asking, "Why are some people more successful than others?" This question changed my life.
Over the years, I have read thousands of books and articles on the subjects of success and achievement. It seems that the reasons for these accomplishments have been discussed and written about for more than two thousand years, in every conceivable way. One quality that most philosophers, teachers and experts agree on is the importance of self-discipline. As Al Tomsik summarized it years ago, "Success is tons of discipline."
Some years ago, I attended a conference in Washington. It was the lunch break and I was eating at a nearby food fair. The area was crowded and I sat down at the last open table by myself, even though it was a table for four.
A few minutes later, an older gentleman and a younger woman who was his assistant came along carrying trays of food, obviously looking for a place to sit.
With plenty of room at my table, I immediately arose and invited the older gentleman to join me. He was hesitant, but I insisted. Finally, thanking me as he sat down, we began to chat over lunch.
It turned out that his name was Kop Kopmeyer. As it happened, I immediately knew who he was. He was a legend in the field of success and achievement. Kop Kopmeyer had written four large books, each of which contained 250 success principles that he had derived from more than fifty years of research and study. I had read all four books from cover to cover, more than once.
After we had chatted for awhile, I asked him the question that many people in this situation would ask, "Of all the one thousand success principles that you have discovered, which do you think is the most important?"
He smiled at me with a twinkle in his eye, as if he had been asked this question many times, and replied, without hesitating, "The most important success principle of all was stated by Thomas Huxley many years ago. He said, "Do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not."
He went on to say, "There are 999 other success principles that I have found in my reading and experience, but without self-discipline, none of them work."
Self-discipline is the key to personal greatness. It is the magic quality that opens all doors for you, and makes everything else possible. With self-discipline, the average person can rise as far and as fast as his talents and intelligence can take him. But without self-discipline, a person with every blessing of background, education and opportunity will seldom rise above mediocrity.
In the pages ahead I will describe seven areas of your life where the practice of self-discipline will be key to your success. These areas include goals, character, time management, personal health, money, courage and responsibility. It is my hope that you'll find a few "nuggets" that will help make your dreams come