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Thursday, January 20, 2011

Instant Gratification

We live in a world where instant gratification is what most of us seek. Most of the struggles that we face are caused by our need to instantly gratify ourselves. Some examples that come to mind are the following. Things like weight-loss, smoking, cheating, drugs, alcohol and even sex. Basically most addictions in general are I believe caused by our need for instant gratification and our loss of control over ourselves. This need to gratify ourselves quickly leads to, in my opinion and experience, the sabotaging of our long-term goals and dreams.

With all of this being said, I strongly believe that the key to conquering these struggles is to train our minds to focus on our long-term goals and dreams. When our minds are focused on the long-term, it will make the short-term pain more bearable. This short-term pain is ultimately the key to our success in conquering and controlling ourselves and making our goals and dreams reality.

Each time that you conquer whatever struggle you are facing, whether it be a big one or a small one, if faced with this attitude you will surely succeed. Each time that you succeed you are becoming more and more empowered and in control of yourself. This is the true meaning of empowerment. Empowerment starts with a love and acceptance of yourself. Trusting in your abilities and trusting your instincts. You are in charge of yourself and therefore create your own path.

All of the above mentioned struggles, can, I believe, be conquered by training your mind to focus on your long-term goals and dreams. Since I am a personal trainer, I am going to use weight-loss and healthy lifestyle as my example. Keep in mind please that this strategy can be used for most things that we struggle with. Each decision we make each day has an effect on our lives and moves us closer to or further away from our goals and dreams.

First of all you must determine what your long-term goals are and make a commitment to stick to them. Let us say that you have committed to losing weight, eating healthy and starting an exercise program. Every decision that you make from that point on is either going to move you closer or further away from your desired goal. If your goal is to lose weight, you must be aware of how much and what kinds of food that you put into your body. Let us say that you were, in the past, a fries and gravy kind of person. I can assure you that eating this type of food will take you further away from your desired goal. Here is a scene to consider. You are out at a restaurant with a group of friends. It is now your turn to place your order. You have a decision to make. Is it going to be the fries and gravy which will take you further away from your goal or will you chose the salad with chicken instead which will move you closer to your desired goal? I understand completely that if you are new to this kind of lifestyle, that this is going to be very difficult for you. I am not at all trying to say that this is easy as 123, however I am saying that with practice it can be done and made a part of your everyday life.

Keeping this in mind, I have a suggestion that I believe will work for you. Let us take the above example and use it again. You have a decision to make. Before making this decision, consciously ask yourself the question, "Is this decision moving me closer or further away from my long-term goals or dreams?". Not ordering the fries and gravy, not having that cigarette, not drinking that next drink, will cause you short-term pain because you did not instantly gratify yourself. However not doing all of these things will also move you closer to your long-term goals and dreams.

If you can train yourself to think this way and to ask yourself the above question each time you are faced with a decision that will affect your desired goal, you are well on your way to empowerment and controlling yourself. In my opinion that is true strength.  -Rhonda McManaman

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