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Saturday, December 31, 2011

This Makes Me Sad

My sister had this on her blog:

http://www.foxnews.com/health/2011/12/30/600-pound-internet-star-shuts-down-website/?test=latestnews

www.jensgyrations.blogspot.com

It's a mystery to me why anyone would do this to themselves but I have been self-destructive at times and still am occasionally but--

We tend to look at these people and think, "Well, at least I am not that fat" and feel more OK about how big we are. Have you ever glanced around a room and thought, "that person is bigger than I am"? I have. Not proud of it. Now that I have been in this battle for so long, I am much more compassionate than I used to be. Blogging has helped. People are hurting and dying over this. Now I know how that person feels and am more aware of my own weaknesses. I could be that big too. I know it. That word "but" doesn't let me off the hook. That word doesn't mean it's OK to be obese because someone else is bigger than I am.

Let's weigh in the morning and make that our starting point. Regardless of what we have done or not done through the holidays - it is still our starting point.

Paint Your Toes in the Winter?

Here is an interesting blog post I think we would all benefit from reading:

http://refusetoregain.com/refusetoregain/2010/11/should-we-accept-our-size-and-forget-all-this.html

I also had a little epiphany the other morning as I looked at my toes and the mostly gone, very chipped nail polish on them. In the winter I usually just let the polish go and it gets cut off as I do my pathetic version of a pedicure. My attitude has always been - nobody will see pretty polish if I take the time to apply it; I am not going to being wearing sandals or flips anytime soon. Remember when flips first came out they were called "thongs"? I have a friend who is in her mid-sixties who told her daughters she needed a pair of thongs - what a hoot they had over that! But I digress -

Don't we have the wrong attitude about ourselves? Shouldn't we paint our toes in the winter because WE like the way our toes look that way? Wouldn't that be a little boost to our self-esteem if we felt like our toes were pretty? There are products for a really nice pedicure at home. If you have the means, why not get it professionally done?

How about some pretty lingerie? I imagine many of us wear the industrial strength stuff or our lingerie (we don't even call it that; we call it underwear) is in pretty bad shape. There are companies that specialize in plus sizes. I am sure a search on Amazon would turn up some very nice things.

Well, it's resolution time. The prefix "re" usually means to do something over. To resolve would be to solve something again. A resolution would be to find the solution again. Since we all know what the solution is, why not adopt the behaviors that will be the solution again? Rather than looking forward to 2012 let's look back at 2011 and take inventory of what we have done and not done. Let's also relax this time about it. No more panic or anxiety. We are in charge of this body not the food. Let's realize that it's about what we want the most and decide what that is.

Let's paint our toes and buy some sexy lingerie. Let's stop putting those things on hold until we feel like we deserve them. When we take off our shoes and are barefoot, we will like what we see. When we get ready for bed, the lacy, red (oh my!) underthings will be a little boost to our self-image. Who doesn't need that?

Friday, December 30, 2011

Computer Problem Resolved

My computer is now better than ever. Have you ever used a remote technical support company? They are absolutely amazing. They take over your computer remotely (from India in my case) and clean up the entire system. I can now open up the casing for the CPU, remove the RAM cards, re-seat them. I could not believe the dirt and dust inside that thing. It's a wonder it worked at all. I kept getting the "blue screen of death" as it is called. They got my printer going, cleaned out a worm, did things to speed up my system - I am absolutely amazed at what they did. I can call once a month and they will remotely clean up my system again on a monthly basis.

I will be more consistent with my blogging now. With the New Year right around the corner there will be much to read and comment upon I am sure. I was hoping to be in onederland on January 1 but that may not happen. I went in to get my blood pressure checked and of course they weighed me which I wasn't expecting. I would have shaved my eyebrows, taken off my nail polish, and worn shoes that could be taken off easily - however, I was weighed with my tennis shoes and belt on and it was 203 in the early afternoon. Who knows - I could be in onederland on Sunday. If not, soon thereafter.

Don't party too hard on New Year's Eve - alcohol gives you the courage to do anything while simultaneously taking away the ability to do so. Many of us don't drink at all I am sure. I will have a glass of wine. If I do more than that, I want to eat - it always is something salty and greasy and then I want something sweet - not worth it.

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Computer is being Hateful

I am having computer problems with my desktop at home so I am here at the library in town using my laptop. Blogging may be a bit sparse until I get that beast up and going again.

I am still going to weigh myself on January 1 but onederland may have to wait a bit. If I am in onederland that will be great but I am prepared to get the news of where I will be starting and will get to onederland with all dispatch, tally ho and all that rot. I have never had so many events, pitch ins, eating outs, and there are still more. There is a family dinner tonight and we are eating out with friends on Friday.

On New Year's Day there will be a meal including cabbage. Do any of you do that? My mother-in-law used to make a big pot of cabbage with smoked sausage and potatoes in it. She would put a dime in it and whoever got the dime in their serving was supposed to have an extra portion of good luck the next year. If
you do this, you may want to check the kids' servings - there is definitely a choking hazard here. I am planning on making vegetable beef soup and making it thick with cabbage.

I have been faithful to my exercising and am getting my 64 oz. of water in daily. I will be continuing that into 2012 and getting back to low-carb and waiting for true hunger. I have not been too indulgent on the sweets as I can leave them alone after getting it out of my system through low-carb. My step aerobics instructor has really been struggling with the workouts the last two times and she said it is because she has been eating way too much sugar. She makes candy, fudge, cookies - all that stuff and now she is paying for it. She said she was almost sick one evening from it. I guess that shows we aren't the only ones because she does spinning, teaches step aerobics, and lifts weights. She is very muscular. She will just get back to usual soon instead of doing what we do and go off the deep end, get depressed, and make it worse.

Well - I am going to read and comment on some of your blogs now. I haven't been on the internet for 3 days now so I am really behind. Here we come 2012!!!

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Christmas Wishes to my Blogging Friends

May your heart be the stable and Jesus be born in it this night again or for the first time. Have you ever heard that God is Love? Love entered the world and God provided a way for burdens to be lifted. I know some of you carry heavy burdens that you don't have to carry. Give them to God and His love will be the help that you need.

I was going to put a link here for Morgan Cryar's beautiful song "What Sin" but my flashplayer needs upgraded or my browser or something. You can listen to it on youtube.

I wish all of you a Merry Christmas.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Winning the Battle of the Bulge is not for Sissies

Failure is just another way to learn how to do something right. - Marian Wright Edelman

He who limps is still walking. - Stanislaw Lec

Expanding on the first quote creates a tug of war in me. I think I was so used to failure for years that I wasn't learning anything but how to fail better. On the other hand, I think all those failures in the presence of deep down wanting to be successful at this created the person that is now confident about getting the weight off. It is not OK to continue to fail but if that's the path that takes us to finally getting it all together then it has served a purpose. So we shouldn't fret about failures but we also don't want them to dominate forever. Through our failures we have learned about ourselves and some of it we don't like. We are now stronger to make it happen because we have more information through our own reading, through blogging, through trying/trying/trying, and through reflection. Let's change trying/trying/trying to doing/doing/doing.

We especially don't want to quit or just give up. Weight loss bloggers are very understanding because they have done the same things. There are people very willing to counsel with you and they will do all they can (I am thinking of Mir, Princess Dieter and Jane Cartelli at Keeping the Pounds Off) if we ask but it really just comes down to us and the food. Each of our followers and commenters is a counselor.

Many are limping but that is still walking. Whether we are crawling, limping, walking, or running into the New Year there is hope- as long as we draw breath there is hope.

I'm not going to be a sissy anymore, how about you?

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

21 Things About Myself

Bzybee has this on his web site and I thought it might be fun as well.

1.  I am a Christian and a conservative.

2.  I am a retired school teacher.

3.  One of my hobbies is quilting. Another hobby is working in the yard. Our yard has been on two garden tours and may be on another one this next summer. I love giving quilts to family members for graduations, weddings, babies, retirements, etc. I have not kept one quilt for myself.

4.  I do not understand all the hoopla about dirt, germs, washing hands. Dirt is not radioactive nuclear waste. We came from the dirt and will return to it.  Germs are everywhere and we are exposed to them each and every day. This washing hands thing and now wiping the handles of grocery carts seems a little silly to me. I wash my hands if they are dirty.  I know germs can be transmitted through surfaces and contact. Hygiene is important but aren't we getting a little carried away? If we keep ourselves healthy our bodies can fight germs because our immune system is stronger because of developing immunities to germs with which we have come into contact. We live in our house; we don't do surgery there. I get maybe one cold a year. I never get the flu. This is just me. I know the nurses out there are probably gasping for breath. :-) Could people be getting sick because of their immune systems? People who smoke, drink too much, drink sodas, eat junk food, are sedentary - I think this is the problem not runaway heat seeking missile guided germs. You probably think I live in a pig sty but we live here and it looks like it! I posted earlier about people with eating problems also having a problem managing money and with clutter. I definitely have the clutter thing.

5.  I am married still to the original one. It has not been easy. We have two sons. Nathan is in the Army and Isaac does computer aided drafting.

6.  I get tired of being asked how I am by people who don't care how I am. It is just empty talk. When a telephone call starts with that, I know it's a telemarketer. Do they really want to know about my aches and pains?

7. As America goes down the toilet, let's remember that the breakdown of the traditional American family is one of the main reasons. I just heard on the radio that 50 years ago 72% of adults were married - now it's 51%.  Do you think those statistics relate to the dropout rate, crime, child abuse, and dependency on the government? Government is now the other parent. If we allow gay marriage, next is three people can wed, uncles and nieces, heck, you will probably get to marry the dog someday. I honestly don't think we can turn it around. America is losing its soul. Human life is devalued. We are desensitized to violence because there is so much of it to hear and watch. There wouldn't be so much of that stuff if people weren't voting with their money for it to be produced.

8. Communication skills are suffering. I have tried to talk through Facebook or emails about political things and it is nearly always reduced to name calling and insults - that ends the conversation for me.

9. Ideologues. If the very same things had happened under Republican leadership that have happened under the present leadership, the liberal Democrats would be screaming from the rooftops. We have had our credit rating downgraded (Obama made a speech as senator when this was done under George Bush that it was un-American and immature to do this). Our debt has tripled. There are more people on food stamps now than ever before. 47% of Americans don't pay taxes. Unemployment was 6.5% when Obama took office - it is now 8.6% I think. We don't look at the facts and make our decisions. We look at whether it was done by a Democrat or a Republican.  There is so much corruption in this administration it is hard to know where to start. Frank/Dodd - the mortgage debacle. Fast and Furious. These green energy companies that got taxpayer   money and are failing. Obama care - passing bills without even reading them. Political correctness has gotten ridiculous. Please don't tell me about Obama inheriting a mess. Every new president inherits from the president before him. Obama is not special. The Democrats controlled the Senate and the House for the last two years of the previous administration. Did they try to turn anything around and I missed it?

10. We have a registered German Shepherd puppy. His name is Sarge. We have a cat named Noggin. A dog thinks, "You feed me, you water me, you take care of me when I am sick - you must be a god." A cat thinks, "You feed me, you water me, you take care of me when I am sick - I must be a god."

11.  My husband is recovering from a compression fracture in his back. He fell backwards down some basement steps.

12. I think friends and family are truly blessings. I have conservatives and liberals in both groups. It's OK.

13.  I love our wood stove. That heat is so cozy.

14.  I like to cook and am pretty good at it.

15.  I am making exercise my new normal. I have been consistently exercising 6 times a week. Drinking 64 oz. of water a day is my new normal as well.

16. I haven't been going to Church like I used to. I am more concerned with being spiritual lately as opposed to being religious. I am going to Church tomorrow as I am not on call. It is good to be in the house of the Lord and to fellowship with other Christians. I want to take Communion. Being on call has interfered with this at times. It is easier to be spiritual if I attend Church I am realizing. I am in Bible Study Fellowship and have learned so much about scripture. I have been reading about the symbolism in the Bible - very interesting.

17.  I work part-time for ATM Solutions. I have a route and I get the deposits out of the ATM and take them into the bank. I have a loaded weapon that I must qualify with each year. I drive an armored vehicle when they need me to cover for one of the drivers.

18.  I am a morning person.

19. I do have that compulsive personality. If I wasn't an overeater, I would be an alcoholic or a gambler or overspend more than I already do.

20.  I like to read. I love my Kindle.

21.  Our youngest son has decided he is an atheist. This bothers me of course. There is a part of us that cannot be explained with blood and tissue. It is our Spirit. There is the supernatural and miracles do happen.

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Compliance/Rebellion

Compliance to a set of rules eventually leads to rebellion against them. So if you begin to eat less through compliance, you end up eating more in rebellion.

I have lost my weight twice and gained it back. This time I am not following someone else's rules for losing weight.

I also think that going through those two losses and regains taught me a lot. I had more information about myself this time. Perhaps it was necessary to bring me to now with 2012 very near and I am losing weight, exercising, and drinking the water. I will not be starting 2012 with yet another vow that this was going to really be the year I lost all my weight. I will start 2012 continuing to run my race (I am losing weight my own way). I will stay in my lane (it doesn't matter what others are doing or what the latest diet or advice is - I read those things and use what suits me), and I will continue to throw off the hindrances that have prevented me from success in the past. Hindrances in the past have consisted of negative self-talk, all or nothing thinking, and using excuses/rationalizations to quit. Please read Slogans if you haven't already.

Someday may never come. So live each day better than the last. That way you'll wake up with so much excitement and anticipation you'll jump out of bed and shout . . . I can't wait!  -Bob Perks


(from jensgyrations.blogspot.com)


Enjoy a digital Christmas story.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=bvM-I0j5emA#!



Thursday, December 15, 2011

Something to Think About



Maybe a balanced diet, moderation in all things, is the way to go? This was on my sister's blog (www.jensgyrations.blogspot.com) and I thought you might like to see it and form your own opinions. The skin tone is the most striking difference in these two women. The condition of their hair is another striking difference. The woman on the right has a healthy layer of fat underneath her skin which supports it and there are few, if any, wrinkles.

Did you know that a tan is the skin's way of trying to protect itself? Too much sun (real or fake) causes the skin to darken, get leathery and tough in an effort to protect itself - to keep the harmful rays out. It also causes damage to the lower layers of skin which support the top layer. I remember a woman at school who was tan year around through real and fake sun. She was very wrinkled because the top layer of skin had lost its support.

As women, most of us want to look our best. We are treated differently when we look good and take care of our appearance. I know most of us would probably say it is for ourselves but it is also to attract the opposite sex. Who doesn't like an appreciative once-over by the opposite sex or positive attention through a smile or a nod and some conversation? It's basically that sexual drive that perpetuates the species and all that. It's why women wear make-up, do their hair, and take care of their appearance especially before they settle down with one man. It's why men show off and strut around and be strong.

After marriage, the new often wears off and people don't take care of themselves like they once did. Women use having babies as the perfect excuse but do any of you know women who have had a few babies and still look really good? I do. Men don't suffer as many social consequences as women do for their out of shape bodies. It is what it is.

My husband and I went to a "His Needs, Her Needs" marriage seminar at our church. Guess what was No. 1 on the His Needs list? Yep, you guessed it - sex. It was No 3 on the Her Needs list. No. 1 for women was communication and I think No. 2 was security. There is a book by that name. It would be great for couples to study together. Men want their women to look good. Married or not, they notice other women who are sexy - it's just how it is. Don't we all notice the opposite sex? Men are not naturally monogamous however so women need to be aware of this need in their men. They also want their women to be a buddy. If he likes to fish, he wants her to go with him. If he likes Nascar, same.

Just some rambling thoughts when I saw that picture on my sister's blog today. What do you think about these two women?

We Interrupt This Program---

Sean Anderson's book, Transformation Road, will be available soon.. He lost 267 lbs. WOW. I follow him on Facebook and he has a post a few days ago about interrupting his own funeral. What a thought provoking thing to say. When something is interrupted, the "flow" is stopped or detoured. We usually think of interrupting as something rude and impolite but let's look at it another way - from our perspective about our funerals. We usually avoid topics like this but really - everybody dies.

I heard it said once that we choose how we die. There are exceptions to this, of course, but we do contribute to how long we will live and how we will leave this world. How many of the common risk factors for health problems do we have?

1. smoking
2. overweight
3. diabetic
4. hypertension
5. overdrinking
6. poor diet
7. lack of exercise
8. negative attitude
9. high cholesterol
10. family history

I took my mother to the doctor for a kidney check. She has too much protein in her urine which is a sign of diabetes. As I sat with her in the urologist's office I read some literature there for kidney problems. Hypertension is a major contributing factor to kidney problems. Mom told me once the bottom BP number is the one that indicates whether a person is at risk for kidney problems. Diabetes is hard on all the organs because the blood is sticky with too much sugar making it more like sludge making it hard to move making for stress on all organs and blood flow.

I have three of the above risk factors - weigh too much, hypertension, and family history. I can affect the first two but not the last.

I have my bottom number back down in the 80's and the top number is down in the 160's from 180 so if I continue perhaps I can get it down to acceptable before too long. It can't be above 140 to pass the DOT physical.

It will be the first day of winter soon and then the days will start getting longer. It's usually the end of January before I notice it but it's creeping along day by day. So many things have to get to a certain point before we notice them. As I have lost some weight I will become more aware of being able to keep up better in step aerobics, of being able to lift heavier weights, my legs don't rub together - little things have built and built and then I noticed it. It's a good feeling. We don't ignore these things because they make us feel better about ourselves. We do ignore the things that we really would rather not deal with - blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, etc. Why do we ignore things that could cause our funerals? Let's stop ignoring what we are doing that is not contributing to our health and interrupt our funerals. For me, it's blood pressure. I have completely given up caffeine. I cannot have a little bit and I might as well resign myself to that. It's not exactly like losing an arm or anything.

Not a real upbeat topic at Christmas but Sean's words got stuck in my brain.

Take care.

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Weight

I weighed 201.5 this morning and will not weigh again here at home until January 1 at which time I will be in onederland thank you very much :-) I have a doctor's appt. today for the renewal of my blood pressure medication but this is my true weight. I have over two weeks to lose two pounds. I cannot remember a holiday season where I have eaten out more or had more "get togethers" and pitch-ins! 'Tis the Season I guess. I have step aerobics this morning, then I will do my route, my doctor's appt. is at 3:10, and I am on call this evening from 3 - 11. Tomorrow won't be quite so busy. I am going to try to take the RAM out of my computer, clean it, and then reseat it - I watched a youtube video about it so wish me luck!

Hope all of you are managing and avoiding the overindulgence that is so easy to do at this time of year if we aren't careful. If you are doing well, great. If you are not, remember you can do some things right - the water and the exercise for example. You might read "Let's Pluck Out an Eye" http://myrasjourney.blogspot.com/2011/01/lets-pluck-out-eye.html to help get your head on straight if it's necessary. Just don't punish yourself with more food for crying out loud. Take care. Take a walk. Take 5. Take time for yourself. Relax.

Monday, December 12, 2011

Be An Overachiever!

***Bite off more than you can chew, then chew it. Plan more than you can do, then do it.~~ Anonymous (from jensgyrations.blogspot.com)


How do we challenge ourselves? Do we like to play it safe and choose goals we are sure we can reach? When is a challenge too ambitious? Should we set goals higher than we can reach and then go for it? Even if we fall short we have made progress. I guess it's all about how we handle not being perfect emotionally.


I remember how the kids in school were treated who were seemingly perfect to the rest of us. They were teacher's pets, brown noses, kiss-ups, etc. The ones who always had the right answers were ridiculed and discouraged from answering. I know when I was teaching I would ask the class a question and no one was volunteering the answer even though I could tell several knew the answer but were reluctant to contribute. We learn young to hold back don't we? Those who rise to the top will be put in their place by those who don't want to look mediocre by comparison.


I had one extremely intelligent boy. He was also pretty shrewd. He was reading at 2 years old. He got a perfect score on the PSAT. He skipped a grade. He didn't have any friends. I heard some students one day running him down because he wouldn't help them. His retort was that they didn't want help; they wanted the answers. They didn't want to learn the content; they wanted to be done with the assignment. 


How many of us have copied someone else's answers? You can answer this privately of course. When it's time for the test and all that's been done is to copy the answers of others, the grade will not be very good. Students have gotten pretty creative at cheating on tests as well however.


Why did we do that? I have to admit I was one of the ones who did my own work, made good grades, and all that.  We learn early that getting it done was the goal not learning the content. Students would ask me when I gave them work to do if it was going to be on the test. If it wasn't - then they had no interest in it even if it was interesting content. Now, with weight loss - EVERYTHING is on the test.


Now we are faced with something we have to do ourselves - lose weight. There is no one's paper to copy. There will be a test, however. It won't be graded on a curve. We do get to take the test over and over and over and over again until we learn what we need to learn. If losing weight is our only goal, there will be difficulties because without the content, that test will be failed. We all know that - we have failed repeatedly. We don't learn the content. We just wanted the weight off and we can hang in there and go great guns for a time but then we have to take a test and our score is right there on the scales and yep - we have to take the test again. There were pop quizzes where we didn't know what to expect at the pitch-in meal. That pop quiz at the birthday party threw us as did Thanksgiving. We always knew a pop quiz was possible but it wouldn't really be today would it? It's always today.


I did well in school but I did my work because the teacher said to do it and told us what was expected and when it was due.  The motivation was that I wanted to make good grades not that I necessarily wanted to learn anything. Someone else was telling me what to do. Even in college - just tell me what to do and when it was due and I would wait until the last minute and, well, you know - stay up all night. I have a nephew who is an internist and doing very well. He treated college like an 8 hour a day job. No matter when his first class was he was still at work at 8 a.m. even if the class was not until 11 he would be in the library or working on assignments somewhere. His evenings and weekends were free pretty much. What self-discipline.


As adults we have grown up with people telling us what was expected and we did it (well, most of us). As adults now, we have to find it within us to set and reach goals. We are making up the test. We are determining the content. The content is more important than the test. We will pass the test if we have mastered the content.


Wouldn't it be nice to enter the New Year just continuing what we have been doing rather than starting over, beginning anew, getting back on track, ready for each test (weigh-ins) because we are mastering the content (moving more, eating healthy things, drinking the water, etc.)


Paul said a few days ago that he felt like this was going to be his year - meaning 2012. Let's join Paul and make it our years too. This time next year we could be looking forward to 2013 with thankful hearts for our progress. There will be a test. No matter what we do, 2013 will begin and 2012 will be a memory. How do each of us want to look back on 2012? We are going to have to look back on it regardless. What do we want to see in that  rear view mirror? We have a once in a lifetime chance to start 2012 and we can start gearing up for it now with some easy behavior changes. Can we all drink at least 64 oz. of water each day until then? Can we exercise 3 - 5 times a week until then? Sure we can. Let's get started, what do you say? Here is a mini-challenge - 64 oz. of water per day and exercise 3 - 5 times a week until January 1, 2012 then decide if you want to continue and add another behavior change - to be announced later. You can report this on your own blogs and update each time you post. You can then choose your own next behavior change - we all are different and this really should belong to you. The most successful people in terms of weight loss and maintenance are the ones who did it their own way. I have decided I am not a "Challenge" type because of this very reason. I want to do it my way (Frank Sinatra music here).


We will also be looking back on the last few days of 2011 soon. What do you want to see?


Let's make 2012 our year.





Thursday, December 8, 2011

Prayer for 2012 - cute!

http://leahs-new-ending.blogspot.com/2011/12/thursday-funny-prayer-for-2012.html

Just a smile for you.

Today is going well for me as I hope it is for you. I have already done my route and will be working on some Linus quilts for a service project. The quilts go to the local police and fire departments and when they go to a situation where children are under stress they give them a quilt. We also have Birthright in Richmond and I will be making some receiving blankets to be given to young, unwed mothers with new babies. My quilt group, The Happy Scrappers, also makes patriotic quilts to give to injured soldiers or to the families of fallen soldiers. Another thing some of you might consider is taking a Sunday School class to a local nursing home. We take the 3 - 4 grade class on the last Sunday of each month. We sing "Jesus Loves Me" to all the patients we can and do you know they all know the words and sing along. The kids give them hugs and shake their hands because being touched is one of the things these people miss.

What service projects are you a part of? If you are, great. What the world needs now is love, sweet love (remember that song?). If not, I can't think of a better New Year's Resolution.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Glass Half Full?

A thousand things went right today.
– Ilan Shamir

This is a humbling thought. What have we complained about so far today? Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty type of person? There are probably a thousand things that went right today in our bodies. Did our car start? Do we have enough to eat and a warm place to sleep? Is your income such that you can give some to alleviate the troubles of someone else?

Mary over at A Small Loss said in her blog today that one of her favorite motivational sayings is "if you have a body, you are an athlete". What a positive way to think about our ability to walk, ride a bicycle, swim, and many other things. 

It's cold here. I had Bible Study Fellowship this morning and then did my ATM route. 

I have been noticing more hunger lately and I think part of it is because I have gone up to 10 lb. weights in my classes and been exercising regularly enough to have built some muscle I think so that means a higher metabolism because as we all know, muscle tissue is much more metabolically active than fat tissue. As I am working on eating intuitively I don't know whether to trust myself or not. My problem has always been stopping not waiting for true hunger. I just have to take a small amount and eat that but it's not as satisfying as it was so I eat something else as well. I feel like I am overeating.

I have Jazzercise this evening and then Step Aerobics in the morning. I have been able to be consistent with my workouts so that is a good thing - my new normal. It is nice not to be tempted by sweets like I used to be. There are so many good, sugar free products anymore. The chocolate pudding is excellent in my opinion. Atkins has a peanut butter cup that tastes like Reese's. I really want to be able to drink a small glass of red wine in the evenings before bed. I have switched to a somewhat drier Cabernet Savignon that is good. I was having a sweet red wine from Oliver but I would drink the whole bottle on many occasions then I wanted something salty and greasy and after a bottle of wine the resolve just ain't what it should be - know what I mean? I've said before that I could very easily be an alcoholic.

After my little blood pressure stunt failing the DOT physical I am totally decaf coffee and herbal teas. I haven't checked my BP but my ears have stopped ringing - that's a good thing.

We took our German Shepherd puppy to the Vet yesterday and he had gained 15 lb. in one month. That's my boy - I could do that as well :-) He got a distemper booster, we got 6 heart worm pills so we would get a 5% discount, and some Benadryl as he is scratching a lot in spite of the pill we give him for fleas/ticks. We dropped $140 there. I can't remember spending that on one of the boys even if they were sick. Oh well.

I hope that everyone is navigating through this time of year without too much over-indulgence. Don't get so stressed out that you can't tell if you found a rope or lost a horse - OK?



Monday, December 5, 2011

Sick People

Please go to Wikipedia and read up on Koobface - it's a nasty worm that infects computers through social sites. I just paid big bucks to get my computer healthy again. I put people who write viruses in the same class with people who put glass in Halloween candy. Anyway - be careful. Reformatting your computer and reinstalling your software will not rid your computer of this one. If you want to know the company I used to fix things let me know. I was getting the "blue screen of death" more and more often. The worm was doing its thing.

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Observing Myself

Now that Thanksgiving is over I have had some time to reflect on my behaviors. I got the water in every day - 64 oz. which is 8 cups of water. I also prayed for strength in the morning and then was thankful for it at night. I have tried not to overdo the water since my tendency is to overdo EVERYTHING. I consistently exercised. Last Thursday morning my manager said to get my DOT physical which has to be renewed every year so that I can drive the armored vehicles for ATM Solutions. I failed the test because of my blood pressure - kind of discouraging but I had eaten some salted nuts the night before and I have not been careful about caffeine. My BP was 180/108 - YIKES. So - I was thankful for the information and I have given up real coffee and no more salted nuts for me. I have to go back in 3 months and try again. To tell you the truth I wouldn't care if I never drive an armored vehicle again but I do care if I have a stroke. They weighed me. I haven't weighed myself in a long time and my weight was 202 - I think the last weight I reported to you was 203.5. This weight was in late morning and I found my work phone in my pocket that I forgot to take out so I may be in onederland as I sit here. I have an appointment on the 14th with my doctor to get my BP prescription renewed so I will report my weight again then.

One epiphany for me during this holiday was how I ate peacefully. It was different. I didn't realize I had anxiety even while I ate but now that I can eat peacefully without racing thoughts about weight, can I stop, how much should I eat, guilt feelings - you know the drill. Those thoughts in the back of my mind ruined the enjoyment of what I was eating in the past and I really didn't realize it at the time. In the past not only would I have overeaten at the meal but I would have eaten the rest of the evening because the day was already a bust. Then it would continue because after overeating to that extent it is hard to get back with the program.

I have been able to go up to using 10 lb. weights in my classes and feel pretty good about that.

My favorite part of the day is getting into my warm bed and talking to God a while before I fall asleep. The warmth and comfort is like the everlasting arms to me.

Did any of you notice new behaviors that have become your new normal during the holiday we just enjoyed?

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Standing Still?

Most people who are standing still in life
aren't going any place for a very simple reason.
They haven't selected a place to go.

Author Unknown

This sounds like getting to top of a career or achieving something really big in life.

I think it could be talking about the next 24 hours. It will be time for New Year's Resolutions before long. Mine is going to be about managing money and clutter. If you read an earlier post of mine, a therapist reported that people with eating/food/weight issues also have problems with money and clutter. I wonder why that is? Do you have any ideas about what the correlation would be? I have been thinking about it because I need to do a better job of managing money - I waste far too much money and am the queen of clutter. I am a terrible housekeeper. I can sit in the middle of the biggest mess you ever saw and read a book or quilt.

Do you have issues with money and/or clutter? Do you have any ideas why these two things correlate with weight/eating/food issues?

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Ready, Set, Go

Your present circumstances don't determine
where you can go; they merely determine where you start.

Nido Qubein
American Businessman and Motivational Speaker


How many of us find ourselves in difficult circumstances right now? I think we must first consider how much of it is our own fault and how much of it is out of our control. Has the new worn off? This isn't fun anymore. I do know if the drive/motivation/whatever is lost, it sure is hard to regain traction. Our mindset has to change. We have to make our eating pattern the new normal.

I do think many things can become tiring. Apples and raw vegetables make us feel virtuous but they do get old. Why doesn't pizza get old? Have you ever had fat free cottage cheese (yuk!) I would rather have less of the real stuff than a whole container of that. Do we burn ourselves out on vegetables because we can pretty much have all we want? Should we learn to eat smaller amounts of the foods we really, really like? Is that possible? I have noticed that people will make their whole meal on pizza - that's all they have and they have lots of it. A pizza or two is ordered, perhaps bread sticks with the cheese sauce, and drinks. What's wrong with this picture? My husband and I back in the day would order a whole, large pizza - supreme, of course - and share it. It was hard to get my half down but I was a trooper. This scenario can be changed by making our own pizzas. I made a wonderful pizza that used spaghetti sauce on my home made crust, there was fresh spinach with olive oil drizzled over it, I decided to crumble up some bacon all over it (not heavily, just enough for that wonderful bacon flavor), and then there was feta cheese. At home, we can make a smaller pizza, have a salad, make some garlic bread - just enough for one piece each. I just learned that authentic Italian pizza is not loaded up like we do here in America.

Only making just enough so there won't be any leftovers is key. My cue to stop eating is "it's all gone". How about you?

What needs to change if you have lost your traction? I have had to just wait on it before. I didn't care for a time and I didn't care that I didn't care. There would be a gain. I would decide it was time to do something about it, get all excited about the new plans I had made, buy new workout clothes/shoes, start with guns blazing, only to repeat the cycle. How do we interrupt that cycle? We make a new normal. New habits are needed. We still take showers, do the laundry, get our hair cut because it is normal for us to do those things.  Behaviors like exercising, drinking 8 glasses of water, and waiting for true hunger can also be made a normal part of life.

I have been thinking about a challenge that would be behaviors only - no weigh-ins or food plans. This challenge would be a week at a time and build. Our first week would be drinking 8 glasses of water per day, then our second week would be drinking the water and exercising 3 - 5 times per week, then our third week would be the water, the exercising, and not eating after 6 p.m. for example. What do you think? After a while I would need suggestions or my fourth week would be to add waiting for the growl and then the challenge would be over. I am mulling this over. Would appreciate input and suggestions for behaviors we would be addressing. Please also suggest a name for the challenge. That one challenge had a way to post a link to our post where we reported on how we had done the previous week. She also had a list of the names of the people in the challenge and she had made their names a link to their blog. I think I could do that. I know you can insert a link and give it a name. Anyone want to join me in organizing and managing this challenge?


Sunday, November 27, 2011

Trends

I've noticed something. When people start experiencing difficulty with their plans, they start tweaking things that don't have anything to do with successful weight loss. They weigh on Tuesday rather than Saturday for example. One person rationalized this change as allowing some time to atone for a weekend that wasn't on plan. Is that planning ahead to fail you think? They stop blogging or they start blogging again. They weigh every day or they decide to weigh once a month or weekly or something different. They start exercising or they change things up. They try eating clean; they try the paleo method; low carb might be fun; they eat while standing on their heads.

This seems to make people feel better about their lack of success. When I am not successful, I know why. How about you? Does it help to change the day of our weigh-in?

Now that Thanksgiving is over, we can start blogging about the Christmas events and challenges. It will be our New Year's Resolutions after that - the cycle will then begin again for many of us. At the beginning of this year what were you determined to do and this time it was for real? Many vow to be really hard on themselves. How many of us weigh less today than we did on January 1, 2011? I know many of you do weigh less and you will be the ones who comment (I hope). What made this the year of success? What advice do you have for those who are about to repeat a cycle that they don't want to repeat? What was different this year for you? I want to know.

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Saturday, November 26, 2011

It's Over

So - how did you do? I did OK. I had two Thanksgivings to prepare for and attend. My only goal was moderation - one plate and dessert which I did. I did not expect to lose any weight and I probably did not but I have decided not to weigh myself until I am weighed at the doctor's office when I get my blood pressure prescription renewed. That will probably be the first or second week of December. There is a good chance I will be in onederland at that time but I am not going to get all spastic about it. If it happens, it happens. I will let you know. I did get the water in both of my Thanksgivings and I also exercised on each Thanksgiving Day. My devotions were done each morning. I had a growl each morning and I saved it for the meal just having half a muffin today so I could take my pills.

There have been bloggers who did as I did - rolled with the punches while being moderate and not a martyr. I have read the blogs of people who are disappointed in what they did. We know what we are doing. Some of us chose success and some of us chose same ole same ole. It's no biggie. The sun will come up in the morning.

This time next year where will you be in your weight loss efforts? One year starts today, now. Go get a glass of water and get started. But wait, let's not overwhelm ourselves thinking of  a whole year. Where will we be in our weight loss efforts this time tomorrow evening? I can make wise choices for one day - how about you?

Thursday, November 24, 2011

People Pleasers

http://www.rachelcantrellmfti.com/2010/12/13/people-pleasers/


People Pleasers

The more I work with people with eating disorders, the more convinced I am that eating disorders are shame-based.  By shame-based, I mean rooted in a deep and pervasive sense of badness.  While it looks different in different people, the basic cry is, “I’m not good enough”. Children develop these shame-based beliefs in many different ways.  The following list exhibits different parenting behaviors that either inhibit or promote the development of a positive self-image in children:

Promotes Low Esteem Promotes High Esteem
Controlling Understanding
Judgmental Accepting of differences
Avoidant Attentive
Indirect Direct
Behaves like a victim Demonstrates caring for self
Expects child to please Recognizes child as separate
Angry/disapproving Tolerates emotions/sets boundaries
Encourages perfectionism Realistic, healthy standards
Compares and competes Doesn’t compare/compete
Defensive Accountable
Diets/body dissatisfaction Healthy eating/body satisfaction
Depression/anxiety Balanced in mood
Under/over exercise Enjoys moderate exercise
Children can receive a shaming message, such as “I am bad” or “I am a nuisance” in both direct and indirect ways.  Perhaps a parent is not actively criticizing or berating the child, but he or she is simply not present.  When parents are absent, children often interpret this to mean that they are not worth being taken care.  Children who grow up in shame-based families often develop an astute ability to read others in order to calculate how to best please others and meet their needs.  Children who can accommodate others can avoid the feelings of disapproval and shame.  Their worth becomes dependent on how well they can make others happy or cause as little trouble as possible.   Instead of developing a sense of self, their whole world is organized around “who should I be to best please this person?”

These are often the children who receive praise for being “such a sweet little girl” or “such a good student”.  These are often the children for whom teachers send home raving reports of following directions so well and turning in every assignment.  These kids cause almost no trouble for the basketball coach or with the neighborhood kids.  In fact, they may need almost no discipline at all.  They just seem to naturally do well at everything and choose the right and responsible path in life.

These are also the kids who are at the greatest risk for developing self-destructive coping mechanisms.  Because they are so good at protecting others from distress, they turn it inwards on themselves instead.  This is where the body dysmorphia and the eating disorder comes in. The body becomes a mold for perfectionism.  It becomes a medium to achieve acceptance, achievement, and goodness.  Part of the work of recovery is creating space for the outward expression of these suppressed feelings.  One must develop a self-worth apart from pleasing others.

My last two posts have been on the underlying causes of why we do what we do in the area of food/eating. I think many use this as a crutch and spend a lot of time and energy trying to figure out "why". Some people know for sure what about their backgrounds is at the root of their suffering. I think I know and these last two posts have been spot on as far as my situation is concerned. I don't know about you. I have read some horrible parent/child relationships and think "no wonder that person struggles". I have also read of many overcomers who have gone through tough times but have come out on the other end victorious. Why does one person still binge and another doesn't? How can we want something so badly and then do things to keep it from happening? I think about this a lot. Jane over at "Keeping the Pounds Off" lost a bunch of weight and then gained it back in 11 months. Now she has it off again. Wow. I am on my third time getting the weight off. It is beyond me why I would work that hard to get the weight off and then gain it back regardless of the emotional things going on. It is what it is and we have to play the hand we are dealt. Sometimes I think I am not playing with a full deck, however :-) elevator doesn't go all the way to the top, lights are on but nobody's home, not the sharpest knife in the drawer, few fries short of a happy meal, few bricks shy of a load - just a little humor. Hope your Thanksgiving was all you hoped it would be and more.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Something to Share




As an intuitive eating coach, I tend to attract clients who are very much like me. On some degree or another, not only do they struggle with food but also with money and clutter. I've even had clients say to me "How did you know that?" thinking I had been secretly spying through the curtains or hacking their bank accounts.

The have shit flying out of their closets knocking them in the head. Debt up to their eyeballs. And, of course, a wealth of rules and limiting beliefs about food (and money, and clutter).

Along the way, the patterns I have noticed have been very telling. Not only about the women I can be most in service to but about myself. I've noticed a lot of sadness shortly followed by anger. I've noticed a lot of lack and scarcity with food, money and things. There is always fear around what others might think. People pleasing and just wanting to be liked. They have no idea how to set boundaries or even what healthy boundaries are.

And, so to work we go. We work through their feelings, their beliefs, and their wants. We unravel the web of tangled beliefs and feelings that drive their actions. And we dig and dig.

No matter what, we always end up in the same place.

A deep desire to feel loved, to feel worthy and valuable in the world.

It always comes to this.

Often times, it can be scary to look that deeply at why we do what we do. It seems much easier to keep pretending that it is about the food.

And so, we spend our lives filling the void. Over-eating. Over-spending or saving. Obsessively cleaning or hoarding away. Wearing uncomfortable shoes so our friends will think we are cool. Saying yes when what we really want is to say no. And eating some more.

But, here is the thing.

All of those things are a shitty substitute for the real thing.

The real love that lives within your own heart.

The real freedom that comes from trusting yourself, your intuition and your life experience.

The liberation of knowing you are enough. You are whole. You are worthy. You are valuable.

Just the way you are.

People ask me all the time: what's the secret to making peace with food?

My answer is that it starts by making peace with you.

What are you using food (or money or clutter) as a substitue for? Are you ready and willing to do the work of making peace with food by making peace with you? Think on it and let me know your thoughts by replying to this email.

Abundant love and light,

Christie Inge, HHC
The Intuitive Eating Coach
www.christieinge.com


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Sunday, November 20, 2011

My Own Challenge

I was disgusted with myself yesterday after getting home after going out to dinner at Olive Garden with a friend. I still eat too fast, take too big of a bite, and chew too fast. The maddening part is I even realize I am doing it at the time and continue.

The Challenge I was in fizzled and that's OK. I think a long Challenge is rather doomed. Two or three months is just too long for a Challenge in my opinion. I hope if you are in a Challenge you are doing well. What makes a good, successful Challenge? I think it's one we make ourselves.

Anyway - I decided on my own Challenge just for me. As I sat in bed last night thinking about what I had done it came to me - I will reward myself one week at a time. If I do the following four things within the week, I will go to this boutique that has the neatest clothes and buy myself one thing. I will also buy for myself some really good coffee. I have given up creamers because I was beginning not to like that filmy, blecky aftertaste that comes with creamers. If the coffee is black, the quality becomes more apparent. The store brand, cheap stuff isn't getting it. The water is also very important - none of the city water with chlorine. I personally like coffee best that has been perked on the stove in one of those old percolators. Grinding the beans also enhances the finished product. Good, filtered water is a must.

OK - feel free to comment or do your own list of things you must do to earn your reward. Here is my list:

64 oz. of water each day

exercise 3 - 5 times a week

devotions/prayer every day

wait for the growl before eating all week

No weight goals. The behaviors will get me there. They will also get me new stuff and good coffee.

Today is Day 1 and it is a success. I can think of all kinds of weekly rewards - new nail polish or lipstick. You could get a massage or some bubble bath, a candle, some neat socks - what's your pleasure? I think a weekly reward for achieving goals is a good idea. What do you think?

Transference

http://www.keepingthepoundsoff.com/2011/11/transference-examined.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+KeepingThePoundsOff+%28Keeping+the+Pounds+Off%21%29

I cannot tell you how much this post spoke to me. I have always said I could very easily be an alcoholic. I can tell. Reading about transference now gives a name to this tendency I have. I do spend too much but do keep that pretty much in control. I have gone on what I would call a spending "binge".

Jane is so in tune with her "self". She has just helped me do the same. Thanks again Jane.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Busted


I usually don't share recipes but this is a good way to make vegetables tasty.

Roasted Vegetables and Chickpeas

1 lb. carrots, peeled and cut into 2-inch pieces
l lb. sweet potatoes, peeled and cut into chunks
l large red onion, peeled, halved, and cut into 1 inch wedges
1 lb. red or russet potatoes, cut into cubes
6 cloves garlic, minced
1 - 16 oz. can chickpeas (garbanzos), rinsed and drained
3 Tbsp. vegetable or olive oil
1 tsp. dried rosemary, crushed
1 tsp. brown or granulated sugar
1/2 tsp. kosher salt
1/2 tsp. freshly ground black pepper

1. Move oven rack to center of oven. Preheat oven to 425 degrees. Place all vegetables, garlic, and chickpeas in a large shallow roasting pan. In a small bowl combine oil, rosemary, brown sugar, salt, and pepper. Drizzle over vegetables; toss well to coat.

2.  Roast, uncovered, about 45 min. or until vegetables are lightly browned and tender, stirring twice. Makes 8 servings.  223 cal., 4 g. fat, 301 mg. sodium, 42 g. carbs, 7 g. fiber, 6 gr. protein.

I imagine you could use all sweet potatoes and no russet to cut down on carbs. I also added celery. Do not substitute other beans for chickpeas as they get mushy. I had some of this with some cottage cheese for supper and a Fiber 1 yogurt for dessert.

It's Saturday and I am off to Jazzercise here in a bit. I missed this past week. I don't really have a good reason - just excuses. Let's see - I think I will blame it on the time change adjustment thingy. 

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Pay Attention

From:  AROUND THE YEAR WITH EMMET FOX

When you fight a thing you antagonize it and it hits back. The harder you fight it the harder it hits. When you give your attention to anything, you are building that thing into your consciousness, for good or evil. When you are faced with some negative condition, withdraw your attention from it by building the opposite into your subconscious. Then the undesirable thing falls away like an overripe fruit.

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.  (Philippians 4:8)

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Here is a test:  For the next minute, DO NOT think about food. Ready, go.

OK - how did you do? Did you fight not to think about food? How many of us try not to think about eating, food, calories, how many glasses of water, if we will exercise, etc.? It just makes it worse.

Do any of us spend our day thinking about health? Do we act as though we already are at our goal weight? Do we talk about how wonderful those fruits and vegetables were we had at lunch like we would rave over that meal we had at Thanksgiving or Christmas? That meal was to die for. We roll our eyes and swoon as we describe the experience.

Do we ever listen to people when they talk about how hungry they are? They are starving to death. They are dying. They could eat a horse. A naturally slim person has to think a bit and then they say, "I could probably eat something." They are thinking about other things. Their attention is on other things; our world revolves around the next time we get to eat; if we can wait; what we are having. As soon as we are done with this meal, we begin thinking about the next one.

Let's pay attention to what we are paying attention to and see if we can pay attention to what is positive and healthy. Thoughts are things and they draw to themselves positive or negative, whatever is like them. It all depends on what we choose to think about and pay attention to. Are we looking forward to waking up tomorrow with the pleasant memory of today's success because we are filling our heads with the good things that will fill this evening? Are we looking forward to weighing because we know we have been doing what it takes? This is different from just doing something remember. Isn't that better than dreading tonight because a binge is imminent? Pay it no mind and it won't happen.

Sunday, November 13, 2011

What Does It Take?

http://www.poundsoffplayoff.com/2011/11/do-what-it-takes.html

This is a good post about rather than just doing something, we must do what it takes. A good lesson here - how many times have we pouted and chucked the whole weight loss thing because we felt like we had done something so therefore would have a large weight loss? We didn't do what it takes; we only danced around and played a little bit of the game. It could take a year or two for some of us and that is with consistent effort but if that is what it takes, then we have to accept that fact.

Am I willing to do what it takes? Are you?

Saturday, November 12, 2011

FYI

http://www.weighdown.com/mail/20111111mailout.htm

This is a great source of information for all of us.

I know I haven't been around much lately. Just waiting on some inspiration. You can probably tell my blog is not the "daily diary" format. I have been reading, highlighting, and should have something to share soon.

Hope all of you are finding your way, resisting the idolatry of overeating/gluttony, and preparing yourselves for a greater service each day. We weren't put on this earth for ourselves. Science has yet to create a single human cell from scratch and will not by the way. Look around, the world is going crazy - families are in trouble, the economy could collapse at any moment, and people are using drugs, food, and alcohol to numb themselves. It isn't working.

Friday, November 4, 2011

How Will My Story End?


I remember my Grandma telling me stories as I fell asleep when I stayed at her house. There was always a happy ending. My favorite was about an ugly little pony that nobody wanted. A little girl chose him for her own and through her love and care that pony became a beautiful horse.

That little girl saw the beauty in that little ugly pony.

If today is a typical day for the rest of our lives, how will our stories end? I like happy endings.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Mind Games

Rules of the Mind


Did you know that our mind operates under some very specific rules? 
Well it does. By understanding these mental rules,
you can better understand why people act and react the way they do in life.


Rule #1: Every thought or idea causes a physical reaction.

Your thoughts can affect all of the functions of your body. Worry triggers changes in the stomach that in time can lead to ulcers. ANGER thoughts stimulate your adrenal glands and increased adrenaline in the blood stream causes many body changes. ANXIETY and FEAR thoughts affect your pulse rate.

Ideas that have a strong emotional content almost always reach the subconscious mind, because it is the feeling mind. Once accepted, these ideas continue to produce the same body reaction over and over again. In order to eliminate or change chronic negative bodily reactions, we must reach the subconscious mind and change the idea responsible for the reaction. This can be done using hypnosis.

I don't know about the hypnosis thing. How can we find our own peace without going to someone who knows how to do mind things? This seems to be saying to me that this is a spiritual matter, something with the soul. There are many who have changed without hypnosis. I guess I am reluctant to turn that part of myself over to someone else for solving the problem. What is your take on hypnosis? Have you ever been hypnotized? Were there any results?


Rule #2: What the mind expects to happen tends to be realized.

The brain and nervous system respond only to mental images. It does not matter if the image is self-induced or from the external world. The mental image formed becomes the blueprint, and the subconscious mind uses every means at its disposal to carry out the plan. Worry is a form of programming a picture of what we don't want, but the subconscious mind acts to fulfill the pictures situation. "THE THINGS THAT I HAVE FEARED HAVE COME UPON ME.

Many persons suffer from chronic anxiety, which is simply a subconscious mental expectancy that something terrible will happen to them. On the other hand, we all know people who seem to have the "Magic Touch." What they have is NOT a positive mental attitude but a POSITIVE MENTAL EXPECTANCY! Another way of stating it is WE BECOME WHAT WE THINK ABOUT!

Our physical health is largely dependent upon our mental expectancy. Physicians recognize that if a patient expects to remain sick or even die, the expected condition tends to be realized. Here is where hypnosis can become the tool to remove despondence and negative attitudes and bring about a positive mental expectancy.

KT's post today over at http://thekeeptryingblog.blogspot.com/ talked about her not really identifying with what she saw in a picture of herself. BTW KT - I left a comment that is not showing up - frustrating it is. We tend to "see" what the mind expects to see. There was a psychology experiment that I used to do with my high school class. We would blindfold a volunteer. Another student would strike a match which the blindfolded student could hear and smell. Another student would touch that person with an ice cube and they would swear they had been burned. I kept this article word for word because it is someone else's work but I really believe we don't have to be "reprogrammed" by someone else so that we can overcome. I know anorexics and bulimics "see" fat that is not there because of their mind's expectations. I hope Food Freak comments because she knows a lot about this.


I read once about a doctor who could tell which cancer patients were more likely to survive. The fighters, the ones who wouldn't give up, the optimists had a much greater chance of beating it. Those who gave up, decided death was imminent often lost their battle. Self-fulfilling prophecy. We don't like to be wrong so we set out to prove ourselves right. Couldn't that also apply to weight loss?


Rule #3: Imagination is more powerful than knowledge when dealing with your own mind or the mind of another.

This is an important rule to remember when using self-hypnosis. REASON IS EASILY OVERRULED BY IMAGINATION. This is why some persons blindly rush into some unreasonable act or situation. Violent crimes based on jealously are almost always caused by an overactive imagination. Any idea accompanied by a strong emotion such as anger, hatred, love, or our political or religious beliefs usually cannot be modified through the use of reason. In using hypnosis we can form images in the subconscious mind, which is the feeling level mind, and can remove, alter or amend old ideas.

Many rush into marriage and think their love is the love to beat all loves ever. Love can make women overlook the signs that the man they marry will become abusive. Men don't see the fact that that woman has already been married 3 or 4 times as a possible red flag. Have you ever tried to reason with someone else about a decision that person is about to make that you can tell is a bad idea? Politics and religion are two topics that can really get people going. Get rich quick schemes come to mind. Ever bought a sporty looking car without thinking it through or having it checked out because  you thought you would look so sexy in it and regretted your decision? 


Rule #4: Once an idea has been accepted by the subconscious mind, it remains until it is replaced by another idea.

The companion rule to this is THE LONGER AN IDEA REMAINS, THE MORE OPPOSITION THERE IS TO REPLACING IT WITH A NEW IDEA. Once an idea has been accepted, it tends to become a fixed habit of thinking. This is how habits are formed. First there is the thought and then the action. For example, some people believe that at critical times they must have a drink of whisky or a tranquilizer to steady their nerves so they can perform effectively. This is not correct, but the idea is there and it is a fixed habit of thought. There will always be opposition to replacing it with a correct idea. No matter how fixed the ideas may be or how long they have remained, they can be changed using hypnosis.

How many times have you and I thought that we can just have a little bit of food in the evening and then it becomes a full blown binge? The idea is there that food fixes things. This uneasiness we feel is going to be fixed by the No. 3 Combo at wherever. Supersized of course. Our fixed habits of thought will be corrected when we keep working at our new habits of thought. The people who are maintaining and keeping off weight that has been lost have not been hypnotized.


Rule #5: Each suggestion acted upon creates less opposition to successive suggestion.

A mental habit is easier to follow the longer it lasts unbroken. Once a habit is formed it becomes easier to follow and more difficult to break. In other words, once a suggestion has been accepted by your subconscious mind, it becomes easier for additional suggestions to be accepted and acted upon. This is why compounding suggestions while in hypnosis is very effective. Stage hypnotists have known this rule for a long time. 

The sooner we make new habits the better.


Rule #6: An emotionally induced symptom tends to cause organic change if persisted in long enough.

It has been acknowledged by many reputable medical men and women that more than seventy percent of human ailments are functional rather than organic. This means the function, of an organ or other part of the body has been disrupted by a reaction of the nervous system to negative ideas held in the subconscious mind. We are a mind in a body and the two cannot be separated. Therefore, if you continue to fear ill health, constantly talk about your "nervous stomach" or "tension headaches," in time organic changes must occur.

Let's talk to ourselves and to others about ourselves in different ways. Our bodies respond to positive and negative talk and expectations. We compound our difficulties when we "claim" them for ourselves. If we fear being fat forever, will there be an organic change in our bodies? Does this contribute to a binge? Does fear of failure "cause" the very thing we fear? I've read people berating themselves on their blogs and then others seem very positive about what's happening even if they have fallen short somewhat.


Rule #7: When dealing with the subconscious mind and its functions, the greater the conscious effort, the less the subconscious response.

This proves why "will power" does not really exist! If you had insomnia, you've learned the law of reverse effect. This means, the harder you try the more difficult it becomes. The harder you try to go to sleep, the more wide awake you become.

The rule is, "When dealing with the subconscious mind, TAKE IT EASY." As your faith in your subconscious mind increases, you learn to "let it happen" rather than trying to "force it to happen."  Some people want hypnosis so badly that they try to help it happen. This keeps the conscious mind active and any workable depth of trance becomes impossible.

Is prayer and meditation a form of self-hypnosis? I think it is not. We don't need anybody else to bring about our healing. "Physician, heal thyself" is a quote I don't know the author of but it's apt right here. Prayer is talking to God - a power greater than ourselves, the Creator. God is a supernatural source of strength. Here is the Christian position on meditation/yoga  http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2004/november/10.78.html
Of course, I know there will be opposing views on this. Many practice meditation and yoga. This is my opinion and my belief. Meditation can be done in a Christian manner as well I believe.

Gerald F. Kein The Omni Hypnosis Training Center
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