If hunger is not the problem, then eating is not the solution. ~Author Unknown
Reality check: you can never, ever, use weight loss to solve problems that are not related to your weight. At your goal weight or not, you still have to live with yourself and deal with your problems. You will still have the same husband, the same job, the same kids, and the same life. Losing weight is not a cure for life. ~Phillip C. McGraw, The Ultimate Weight Solution: The 7 Keys to Weight Loss Freedom, 2003
Don't dig your grave with your own knife and fork. ~English Proverb
One should eat to live, not live to eat. ~Cicero, Rhetoricorum LV
Gluttony is an emotional escape, a sign something is eating us. ~Peter De Vries
In time the body will not only register the kick of cake but also the fog that comes to the mind, the manic state it produces, and finally the physical sluggishness. If we persevere, we will begin not to want to go there. Self- care will be more important than self-destruction.
Our bodies don't want to be sick. Our bodies don't want to be fat. Just as our hearts know how to beat and our lungs know how to breath, our bodies know how to calibrate weight to that which serves maximal functioning. Artificial substances have created artificial appetites and when natural substances are reintroduced into the body, then natural appetites will come again to the fore. Just give it a chance and keep working at it.
The assignment is to go to the store and buy one piece of fruit. Buy nothing else. Buy a beautiful, perfect piece of fruit. Take it home and wash it. The second thing is to look at it. This part of creation is majestic like a mountain and beautiful like a flower. How can we improve on God? Chemically processed food is not preferable to this fruit before you. There is perfection in nature, perfection in you, and perfection in food as nature created it. Natural food will calm and restore us physically.
Once again, if you are still compelled to eat chemically processed food, then eat it. The enemy is not the food and the enemy is not you; the enemy is your obsession to eat unhealthy food and to eat it excessively. And that's OK for now. The obsessive enemy will begin to dissolve as you learn to become more of a friend to yourself.
Refined, chemically processed foods can give you a temporary high--that is understood. But then, if eaten excessively, they give you discomfort, sickness, despair, embarrassment, and self-hatred. You know that, but take a moment--just a moment--to truly think about what it means. Remember that speed is your enemy, whether speed eating or speed thinking. Allow yourself to digest what it means that unhealthy eating is destroying your life.
Don't worry now about saying no to what you don't want; just try to say yes--however weak--to what is offered to you by nature's bounty. People used to eat the food that they themselves grew. There was season, proportion, and rhythm to food's presence in people's lives. Animals instinctively know what to eat, and so does the real you. You're not listening to your body's wisdom when you overeat; you are overriding your body's wisdom when you overeat. You're listening to the chatter in your mind but not to the imperatives of your body. And as you get to know your body again, as you begin to relate to it with greater respect and honor, then your relationship to its natural support system will grow stronger as well. For that is what food is--the body's support system. It maintains health and keeps the body alive. To abuse it is to abuse your body, and to abuse your body is to abuse yourself.
Pray to be returned to your right relationship with food. Eat this piece of fruit and enjoy it slowly and thankfully staying focused on it's taste, texture, and its support of your health and well-being.