Didn't get an entry made yesterday. I went out for dinner with my Inspirer in this journey. What I am reading says each of us needs an Inspirer - this is a person who may never have had a weight problem but understands and supports what you are doing. This person encourages and doesn't judge. This person is your teacher. Food is not an issue with your Inspirer. You have always noticed how this person effortlessly stays at a healthy weight. Each of us also needs a Permitter. This is a person who shares your struggle but hasn't made the decision to do this as you have done. This person doesn't resent you for doing this and wants what is best for you. There is no tension between the two of you - only positive good will. Neither of you feels bad that you may be leaving your Permitter behind as far as weight loss is concerned.
Let's talk about being alone. We are alone when we overeat. Being alone with our compulsion will not end well. We don't want people around when we are binging. This is fear. If we are going to eat a whole bag of anything we want to be alone. A day filled with love will leave no room for fear. When you begin to feel weak or become afraid of slipping up make a phone call either to give love or to talk to someone, send an email, go visit someone but don't sit around and try to fight it - you will lose. Be proactive. Your Inspirer and your Permitter are good choices for some human contact. As you go through your day be more loving to everyone, really care about them and notice their needs.
The goal is still to wait for the growl before eating, then eat what sounds good, and stop when comfortably full. Did anyone watch the Weigh Down video last night? Please let me know what you thought of it.